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post #1 of 4 Old 10-30-2013, 02:59 PM Thread Starter
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Telling your trainer you're switching to someone else

I've realized recently that I'm not getting much out of my lessons with my (dressage) trainer anymore lately and have decided to start looking for a new trainer. I do like my trainer very much as a person, but I feel like in the past year or so the small advancements that I've made have been me figuring things out on my own. Even before that, I would see photos or video of myself from shows and realize I was sitting in a chair seat, or riding with no bend in my elbows, or posting off my stirrups, etc. and my trainer wasn't pointing it out to me. I've been struggling with getting my horse to bend through his body (among other things) and really made no progress in the year and a half that I've owned him. I'm hoping that someone else can help me out with this more.

I have a lesson set up with a potential new trainer this Saturday morning, and even if I don't end up sticking with this one, odds are good that my current trainer will notice me loading my horse in a trailer and be curious about where we're going.

So I'm wondering- how do you let your trainer know that you're wanting to switch to someone else without damaging the relationship? I've been taking lessons from this particular trainer since I moved to the area about 5 years ago and will continue to see her frequently, since she's the head trainer at my boarding barn. Is there any way to keep this from being awkward?
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post #2 of 4 Old 10-30-2013, 03:01 PM
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You can simply tell her that you want to broaden your horizons and take lessons from someone else for a while. Every trainer is going to do things a little bit different. And I personally think the more trainers you can expose yourself too, the better off you will be. You pick up different things from different trainers.

Nothing wrong with trying out "another set of eyes" for a while. If your trainer is professional, she will understand.

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post #3 of 4 Old 10-30-2013, 03:23 PM
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Its impossible to predict the outcome of these things - if your trainer is a decent sort of person and a friend worth having they'll understand and support your decision - if they don't then all you can do is move on and leave them behind you
Its your life and your horse so you get to make the choices
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post #4 of 4 Old 10-30-2013, 03:30 PM
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Oh boy. Tread lightly. I too switched trainers earlier this year. It wasn't a smooth transition at all and the first trainer didn't talk to me for a while but she's since come around. You're the customer so you should be able to pick whoever you want.

Be aware though that there are always periods in your training where it seems like you are not making progress, or are making little progress which is then followed by a period where you are making a lot of progress. So if you had a couple of bad lessons you might want to stick it out. If you haven't seen any progress in six months, it's probably time to switch.

Good luck and let us know what you think of the new trainer.
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