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post #1 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 01:52 PM Thread Starter
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Vent. Horse Snob or Share?

Are you a horse snob or are you happy to share your love of horses with other horse lovers?

I am a new horse owner and I've gone out of my way to find local horse shows JUST to go and watch. I have friended complete strangers on FB because they are associated with horses. I have joined every horse group/forum I can find. My MIL and SIL don't want to leave the farm. And they don't want anyone to come to the farm. They are perfectly content to ride on "our" property and are completely against anyone "new" stopping by. If someone is needed to fill-in with chores, we swap back and forth OR hire the vet tech. They would not dream of asking our horse neighbor friends (even the most experienced ones) if they'd want to (there has even been offers made). My spouse says it is because we are "Paso People". They cite liability as the issue.

Had I not been born into this group (and horses gifted by), I would not choose to be a horse person "this" way. I guess I just needed to vent, and I wonder if anyone else feels the same way I do. Sigh. Or, if you're the complete opposite - maybe you can give me some insight....

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post #2 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 01:57 PM
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I have plenty of horsey and non-horsey friends. I have no trouble riding with or talking horses with other horse people. I do not, however, volunteer advice unless it's asked.

There's nothing wrong with your MIL and SIL, they just choose not to associate with strangers. Some people are perfectly happy and content to be left alone to do their own thing.

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post #3 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 02:08 PM Thread Starter
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You are correct - nothing wrong with them :) Time to start building my own barn.
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post #4 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 02:11 PM
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All of my friends are non-horsey. They love to visit Apollo, and see his pictures. :)

I've made a few friends at my barn but I think I like it better on my own.
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post #5 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 02:25 PM
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It depends. I am a horse snob when it comes to other people RIDING my horses - I have several good horse friends that I ride with regularly but do not want them riding or handling my horses.

Horses can pick up a bad habit extremely fast - even in just one ride - and it can take weeks to get that horse out of the habit.

I once dated a guy that always wanted to ride a particular horse I had. He didn't have a horse of his own and was an OK but extremely un confident rider, but I let him ride one of my easy horses. We mostly trail rode and the boyfriend would ALWAYS follow another horse and rider and rarely strayed or did anything on his on. I got back on the horse after about 5-6 rides from my boyfriend and the horse had become buddy sour and always wanted to follow or do the same as another horse. Took me MONTHS of consistent work to get that out of him.

I didn't let anyone else ride a horse of mine for a long time until one of my *more experienced* English riding friends wanted to hop on my cutting mare. I let her ride and reminded her to ride western. She didn't listen and tried to get my mare on the bit and her leg pressur kept causing my mare to spin. She held her weight all wrong and my mare ended up spinning her off the saddle - for a few rides after that she would brace against the bit a few seconds too long and her spins got weird but she was such a great horse she fell back into place quickly BUT... That was the LAST TIME anyone else rides one of my horses.

As far as talking and giving advice - I like to have horse friends to an extent. I don't offer advice unless asked or if I think it's something serious. I try not to correct people but sometimes I can't help it.

I have three to four friends I ride with and talk horses with that are close friends and about 6-7 that I can ride with and enjoy time with. That's the extent of my "circle" although I do like participating in associations, shows and groups.
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post #6 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 02:54 PM
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I don't have my own property so I board my horse, but I love it when people are interested and want to go to the barn with me. I love to show my boy off, and like it when people who haven't otherwise been around horses have the opportunity to experience them. The two previous barns where I boarded were relatively active dressage/eventing barns, so I was always a bit uncomfortable bringing people out there. It's probably completely unfounded, but I always felt like they were silently judging me and the buddy that I brought. At my current barn I don't mind at all, and think it is quite fun! I can totally understand why someone wouldn't want other people involved in their horse life though. I don't consider it snobby, just that some people like their privacy.

For the most part I'll let people ride my horse, but there are some exceptions. I'll let people that I think are relatively competent riders (can w/t/c easily, don't have any glaring riding habits, and don't interfere with the horse in a negative way) get on him and w/t/c around some. There have even been two people who I have let ride my horse in my absence, and they were both quiet riders who kept out of the horse's way. I'll let a dead beginner that has never seen a horse before hop on him and just walk around the arena for awhile. The horse is always a saint for it, and for the most part these new riders will do as I say and keep out of his face. What I won't allow on my horse is someone who has enough riding experience to THINK they know what they're doing, but in all likelihood will pull on his face and slam down on his back while trotting/cantering endlessly.
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post #7 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 03:13 PM
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I'm definitely not a horse "snob." I grew up in a large city (> 1 million). People there shared their passion, knowledge, and horses with me and I am grateful.

When I meet someone who like horses and has them, we talk about horses and other things. It's fun to compare notes. If they are some sort of know-it-all or snob I get away in a hurry. I especially like listening to new riders or owners who are discovering even the most basic things. They get so excited! When I meet someone who really likes horses, but doesn't own one nor have any contact with them, I do what I can to get them involved.

Depending on my assessment of their ability, I either get them on mine or one of the ones I work with, or I get them to a dude stable and see that they're taken care of there.

I occasionally run into people with pretty severe handicaps that would love to interact with horses. Getting them on a wagon, or letting them lead old Dobbin from a wheelchair is pretty cool to them. Some of those folks could in no way ride due to deformities that they have to deal with. Seeing them smile and laugh during a horse activity is pretty humbling and gives me a gratitude boost.
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post #8 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 03:26 PM
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I'm a new horse person - I have a few horsey friends and mostly non-horsey friends, but my non-hf's are quickly picking up the lingo and now know what a farrier is and how proud I am when my foal is a good boy for him - but i'm lucky, we all have different interest and listed to everyones stories when we meet up.
But saying that, I have a couple of fields and stables and my horses are on their own (not on a yard) and to be honest, I like it this way. I know I can ask my horse friends for advice - much of it differs and I take the advice that suits my horses the best - I don't tend to give it as i'm the one learning, but I do say what's worked for me - and after hearing a few horror stories of behaviour on yards, I'm not bothered that it's just me and my horses! I don't think they're bothered - Fox was at the bottom of the pecking order when she was on a yard and now she's queen of her own land along with her foal - so she's happy
I'm very sociable and love to talk to people and this site has been invaluable - I have so many "friends" on here and love to hear their stories - but I also like my own (and horses) company and to be honest, if it was just me, my family and my horses, that'd be fine with me . On the other side, I have friends who if they don't see company for a few days, are climbing the walls in frustration.
But if everyone were the same, it'd get pretty boring I guess. xx
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post #9 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 03:27 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by DuckDodgers View Post
I love it when people are interested and want to go to the barn with me. I love to show my boy off, and like it when people who haven't otherwise been around horses have the opportunity to experience them.
DuckDodgers: that describes my personality perfectly. Except that I'm not "allowed" to bring anyone to the barn. Granted I know it is not my property and that makes it not my decision... but, I am 36 years old and far from irresponsible. I would not invite or allow anyone to RIDE any of the horses on our farm. Hell, I'm not even allowed to ride without supervision and 2 of the horses are mine (grrr).
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post #10 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 03:28 PM
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I think I'm probably 50 - 50.

I have a thing for people who are open minded. Love them, can't get enough of them. But that's the problem, I can't find enough of them. A lot of the horse people I know (personally) can be down right rude and ignorant about training methods, conformation, breeds, and riding and training abilities. That's when my inner snob comes out.
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