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post #11 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 03:42 PM
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I have no problem bringing people out to the place where I board because like Boots put it, it makes me and them feel good. Some people have no chance to interact so I let them come out and handle my mare, even if they have 0 riding experience I let them go and walk and trot around. If they're more experienced I let them canter her. In my mind nothing gets people more interested in something then doing it hands on. I know that with my mare she's not going to develop bad habits because someone other than me rode her (well she better not ). My gelding on the other hand is very particular about his riders and so no one other than me, my mom and my trainer are allowed to get on him for safety's sake. Though if someone's quite enough and calm enough I'll let them cue him for his tricks and spend time with him. He's a ham once he warms up to you!

I cannot stand horse people who are closed minded and diminutive towards others and their methods so when I do find people I get along with it's a happy day and I can talk about my horses 24/7.
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post #12 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 03:44 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by boots View Post
I especially like listening to new riders or owners who are discovering even the most basic things. They get so excited!
That is an excellent description of me I sure wish I had one of you in our barn. Lol

Building my own barn has become an urgency to me because of these differences of opinions. Honestly, there is no need for me to build a barn because my MIL has plenty of stall space and she lives less than a quarter mile away. Currently I am taking care of all of the horses at MIL's barn because she is laid up for an indefinite period of time. She's 65 and has a torn ligament (?) in her hip. It makes for some real lonely hours when I'm not "allowed" to have company :(
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post #13 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 03:59 PM
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I love sharing knowledge with other 'horse' people and I think you learn a ton that way! Even if you have different ways of doing things you never know when someones suggestion might come in handy - or, when you're stumped you might need someone to turn to! There is a fine line between being choosy about friends and being a downright snob! Frankly I've never had enough money to be in the 'snobby' horse circles, so most of my barn friends are usually very welcoming! (I hope no one takes this the wrong way, but I think you know what I mean)

Of course, we all have experienced the 'know it alls' or snobs but I'm really good at the 'nod and smile' 'nod and smile' technique, just let them talk and never let them know what a pain in the *** you think they are! ;) I think when you exile yourself you limit yourself a lot and if your SIL and MIL won't let anyone else around it's their loss (too bad you have to suffer as well).
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post #14 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 04:04 PM
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Unfortunately, when you're boarding on someone elses property, there's the rub sometimes.

I agree; you definitely need your own barn where you can do things your way.
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post #15 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 04:10 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Speed Racer View Post
I agree; you definitely need your own barn where you can do things your way.
Right. I know I cannot change their minds or their ways - I just needed to vent and get some reaffirmation that I'm not alone in my thinking (crazy) Lol : )
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post #16 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 04:48 PM
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I really don't have any non-horsey friends. I like it that way though, I really don't know how to interact with non-horsey folk. All I do is horses, it's my job, and on top of that I have two of my own (well, technically one is boyfriend's mare). I have one friend who is non-horsey, he's like a brother to me and I have known him forever. He has tagged along to the barn a couple times, which I have no problem with - I like showing off my mares.
I am very particular with who handles/cares for/rides my mares. While one of my mares is laid back and literally anyone could ride her, she has way too much potential to be ridden in the wrong hands. She's worth too much to mess with her current level of training, IMO. My other mare is just a "loose screw" honestly. Anyone can handle her on the ground, but she is very much a one person horse under saddle, and takes an experienced rider and one who knows how to get all her screws in one place to get her going correctly and keep her going correctly. I'm very picky and OCD in general, so when it comes to my mares care I prefer to do it myself, or have somebody I trust doing it - there are very few people I would trust to care for my mares, thankfully I have found an amazing barn where the care and handling of horses is actually up to my standards!
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post #17 of 17 Old 09-25-2013, 05:16 PM
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Originally Posted by BornToRun View Post
I think I'm probably 50 - 50.

I have a thing for people who are open minded. Love them, can't get enough of them. But that's the problem, I can't find enough of them. A lot of the horse people I know (personally) can be down right rude and ignorant about training methods, conformation, breeds, and riding and training abilities. That's when my inner snob comes out.
This is SO me, in the horse and dog world. I'm the first person to step up and learn something new that will benefit my animals or myself. I have ZERO oatience for those who refuse to reach out for their own knowledge and education, especially when they're having issues. Gag!
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