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post #1 of 27 Old 10-02-2013, 08:31 PM Thread Starter
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Vent- Horses vs School

Decided to write my first ever vent to get my mind off of school for a little while.

Here we go. My family has a total of 4 horses, 2 of which are mine. One is green, one is untrained, another has a little bit of show experience and one has a lot of show experience. All of them need work, and they are by far the best stress relieves. I love being able to just groom them, or just walk them around the field. Riding is a plus during school. I used to be able to ride one of them every day after school.. Until school got hard.

This year I decided to start making myself look good for colleges, as I am a junior. I'm in 2 AP classes, 2 honors and 2 regular. It's only the first month of school and I feel like dropping all the hard classes. I get zero time with the most important things in my life now. All I have time for is to feed, water, pick up poop and say bye now, and it hurts. Over summer I make so much progress with them and then throw it all away when school starts.

I'm sitting here balling my eyes out thinking about how much I neglect spending time with them, when I know they don't really care as long as they get fed, but I feel so guilty. I'm constantly stressed, and not being able to ride isn't helping. One day I'm going to just crawl underneath my bed and quit going to school. I know school is important and all, but it doesn't feel like it anymore. Heck, I got my first F on a test..or first 5 F's...

Ugh. Anyone have any ideas on how to juggle school and horses?
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That's essentially what happened when I started nursing school. No more barn, no more riding, no stopping by to say hello. I get up early and go to work at 7am, go right to school and don't get home until 8. I have one day off. Sometimes I'll ride but I frequently have other things to do. It bothered me a lot in the beginning. I'd frequently stop at the barn and cry on my horses shoulder from all the stress.

The good news is horses will ALWAYS be there. The bad news is sometimes we have to cut back the things we love for the things we need. In mine and your case it a good education so horses can be apart of your life in the future.

It's tough, but where there is a will there's way!
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Earlier this year I took five college courses (3 in person, 2 online) worked full time (40 hours a week), was in a dance troupe (regular meetings and lots of practice). In addition, I'm married, have several pets at home, am the sole cook/cleaner. I also have my one horse who was in part care board so I had go everyday to bring him in and feed him if nothing else.

Now that I've established my credentials... ;)

The keys are: no down time and a schedule. Sometimes I could just run to the barn, bring him in, chuck him some food and just spend a few minutes looking him over. Sometimes if like ride.

No downtime. I couldn't just sit and do nothing. I cleaned in spurts along the way. When I would go to the bathroom, I'd give the counters and mirror and toilet a swipe. After a shower I'd give it a scrub. I made a lot of schedules and rigidly stuck to them. I also didn't sleep in. Extra time at the barn meant everything had to be kept on top of. Projects, papers and tests were scheduled out such that for example I might work on a project in 20 minute chunks instead of spending six hours at once on it.

Schedule schedule schedule.

In case you're wondering, that was the last semester left for my associates degree. I graduated with high honors.
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Earlier this year I took five college courses (3 in person, 2 online) worked full time (40 hours a week), was in a dance troupe (regular meetings and lots of practice). In addition, I'm married, have several pets at home, am the sole cook/cleaner. I also have my one horse who was in part care board so I had go everyday to bring him in and feed him if nothing else.

Now that I've established my credentials... ;)

The keys are: no down time and a schedule. Sometimes I could just run to the barn, bring him in, chuck him some food and just spend a few minutes looking him over. Sometimes if like ride.

No downtime. I couldn't just sit and do nothing. I cleaned in spurts along the way. When I would go to the bathroom, I'd give the counters and mirror and toilet a swipe. After a shower I'd give it a scrub. I made a lot of schedules and rigidly stuck to them. I also didn't sleep in. Extra time at the barn meant everything had to be kept on top of. Projects, papers and tests were scheduled out such that for example I might work on a project in 20 minute chunks instead of spending six hours at once on it.

Schedule schedule schedule.

In case you're wondering, that was the last semester left for my associates degree. I graduated with high honors.
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All of this learning stuff sounds terrible. Every single day I go through the whole "sorry horses not today" my college dreams shrink and shrink. Last year I wanted to major in psychiatry (around 10 years) and that ended. It went to a patent lawyer (6 years) and that's done. Now I'm looking for an occupation that will be 4 years or less. -sigh-

But I am working on changing my habits starting tomorrow -fingers crossed- Right when I get home I will finish all of my homework, study a bit and then spend my night with horses. Who cares about dinner and sleep, it's so last year.
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You could try talking to your parents or guidance counselor about dropping one class for a study hall or switching to an easier class. When I was in college I made the mistake of trying to do to many hard classes at once while also working a lot. I tried to stick it out but the best thing for me to do was rearrange my classes. It's good to give it your all but sometimes it's also good to realize when you are in over your head. That's why I suggest talking to your parents or guidance counselor since it seems like you are really overwhelmed right now.
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Horses and time in school were a big factor in my career choice. I wanted to go into something that I could do anywhere, even from home, any industry and that would be fairly recession/bad thing proof.

So ta da, I became an accountant. I'm back in school to finish my bachelors.
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You could try talking to your parents or guidance counselor about dropping one class for a study hall or switching to an easier class. When I was in college I made the mistake of trying to do to many hard classes at once while also working a lot. I tried to stick it out but the best thing for me to do was rearrange my classes. It's good to give it your all but sometimes it's also good to realize when you are in over your head. That's why I suggest talking to your parents or guidance counselor since it seems like you are really overwhelmed right now.

I mentioned dropping my hardest class to my dad just now.. Well he said "You need to struggle now instead of in college"... Thing is, this will deter me from going to college. -sigh-
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Horses and time in school were a big factor in my career choice. I wanted to go into something that I could do anywhere, even from home, any industry and that would be fairly recession/bad thing proof.

So ta da, I became an accountant. I'm back in school to finish my bachelors.
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That's what I'm looking for in a career, I just have no ideas.
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I strongly encourage you NOT to drop any classes. In the beginning it takes time to get used to, but you will adjust. You sound like you are VERY bright and have an extensive career ahead of you. DON'T sell yourself short! In the end it WILL be worth it. Better then working a mediocre job that hardly pays the bills. Some semesters will be better then others time wise, and some worse of course. I think this is a dilemma almost all young people go through when starting "life after high school". Suddenly responsibility kicks in. Tough it out! It will get better!

Some things you may consider is studing/doing homework in the paddock with your horses or recording lectures and listening to them while you ride or groom.

Where theres a will theres a way!
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I mentioned dropping my hardest class to my dad just now.. Well he said "You need to struggle now instead of in college"... Thing is, this will deter me from going to college. -sigh-
These classes in high school is easier and A LOT cheaper! Your better off struggling in school then financially struggling through the rest of your life because you decided to give up school to spend more time with the horses.
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