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post #11 of 27 Old 10-02-2013, 09:38 PM
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Originally Posted by KylieHuitema View Post
I mentioned dropping my hardest class to my dad just now.. Well he said "You need to struggle now instead of in college"... Thing is, this will deter me from going to college. -sigh-
I'm sorry to hear that. It's one thing to struggle and overcome and another to struggle and yet consistently fail. Well, just hang in there I guess! You could still talk to the guidance counselor if it's something you really feel would help you. Hearing from a professional might make him take you seriously. They may be able to direct you towards some kind of tutor you could use as well. If you have any friends with the same classes you could try studying together. It will make the time go by quicker and when you are done you can reward yourself with going out to the barn. If it's not very busy out there, could you bring your books with and do homework at the stable? The most important thing is for your gpa not to suffer, so whatever gets you there!
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post #12 of 27 Old 10-02-2013, 09:54 PM
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It's worth it to sacrifice time with your horses for the next few years to get a good education. A job flipping burgers isn't going to pay the bills along with a horse. I'd rather sacrifice a few years and be able to have a comfortable living for the next 60 years rather than spend the next few years with my horses and struggle without them for the next 60 years.

I'm 17, and I'm about to graduate in a month because I busted my butt last year. I'm bringing up my GPA to get into Texas State for pre-vet, then on to A&M for another 4 years for vet school. With between 15-16 credit hours, and working, I won't be owning horses again for awhile. I even worked full time all summer to try to save for a horse, but after seeing how demanding work/school was, I decided against it. I do have a free/training lease horse I can ride, but even with only going to school 8am-12pm I barely have time.

Just remember, education now = good career and horses later. :)
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post #13 of 27 Old 10-02-2013, 10:11 PM
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OP: This is just the beginning. And you being a female will only make it worse. today it is high school. Tomorrow college, full-time employment, then a life-partner, and possibly kids.

say good-bye to that elusive lover called "free time." In another 10 years your biggest fantasy will be having a single hour to yourself without feeling guilty for what else you are neglecting.

horses are after all pets. And at times, although we love them dearly, they need to take a back seat to our other commitments and obligations, unless you can find a way for your horse to help pay the rent.

The more advanced and independent your life becomes, the more constrained your available time will become. the two are married together. HOWEVER, with greater independence also comes greater choices. now that I am a well paid professional, i can hire a housekeeper to clean my home so I have more free time to myself.

As you get older you will find a way to make balance. But, there will be times when you cannot find the balance you want. However, the priority always must be given to the activities that allow you greater independence and more choices in life. Your horses will thank you for that one day.

You will also identify those things that matter most and the things that don't you won't waste time on. You will also learn how to maximize efforts and create efficiencies by avoiding double-work for yourself.

Your horses will still love you. Maybe there is a younger girl in your school district who would love to groom and love on your horses while you apply yourself? sort of like a horse sitter? then you will have a good peace of mind that your horses are being cared for properly while you are otherwise distracted?
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post #14 of 27 Old 10-02-2013, 10:14 PM
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SlideStop and LovesMyDunnBoy summed it up perfectly. I know it feels terrible now, but it is well worth it to sacrifice your time with the animals for a good education and be able to afford horses later on in life than get to spend a little time with them now and struggle for the rest of your life to make a living, much less enough to spend on the luxury of horses.

I'm 17 as well, and a senior. I will not be graduating early (although I COULD if I wanted, I have all of my credits done) because I opted for taking dual credit (nearly free) college classes this year in order to put myself at an advantage. I already have 16 hours under my belt and a 3.8 average in high school, with 3 AP classes and 6 honors classes in finished. I don't say that to brag on myself, but to say that yes, succeeding in High School is HARD. I'm not extremely smart and have some learning/health challenges, so I go feed my horses, spend a good 8 hours in classes every day (no early dismissal since I go to the college), go to work, feed my horses again, do 2-3 hours of homework, and go to bed. I wake up before the sun does. Its exhausting, and I'm actually about to put both of my beloved horses up for sale because I realize just how exhausting it is, and that I can't do my best in college when I'm stretching myself so far.

But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. Or make me sad. I simply realize that I must 'suffer' if you will, now, if I want to prosper later on.

That may be something you have to do. At the same time though, you don't want to make yourself so stressed that you get sick (I learned that the hard way) so you DO need to make a little down time for yourself. Maybe schedule a certain amount of time (30 minutes-1 hour?) once or twice a week to have a little 'me time' to wind down, then hit the books hard for the rest of the time. Think of that as your reward.

You can do it! I know its exhausting and you want to give up, but don't. Selling yourself short is the worst thing you can possibly do for yourself, I promise you.
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post #15 of 27 Old 10-02-2013, 10:59 PM
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Okay this is going to sound harsh but I'm going to throw it out there: If you can't handle it now having AP classes and are thinking about dropping you won't make it through college.

I'm a college student myself. I have a full schedule, taking 4 very heavy classes and have 3 several hour long labs during the week. I don't have any hobbies - I mean I DO, but I haven't had time to do any of them since classes started. I'm often up late studying, cramming, doing lab write ups.

I also have two horses - a mare that needs constant work (or she regresses into herdbound behavior very fast) and a 2 year old unstarted filly. Thank god my filly is the most willing, obedient, quiet horse in the entire world or honestly I couldn't do it. I get out at least twice per week - as opposed to 4 or 5 in the summer - and I typically only have time for one horse per visit. I board so I don't have to feed - I haul one of them in, do a basic groom to save some time and relax with them for an hour or two, and then I have to go.

There has been times I put off sleep to go out. I wake up earlier than I want. Run out when I have a scant half hour. I MAKE time.... But to do it I don't have much of a social life. It's hard, I'm not going to lie. I went from being out many times per week, sometimes for several hours, to stealing time to quick run down and work one of them. But to me, it's worth it. I love my horses, and I'm willing to give up time to go and see them... though it DOES kill me that I can't go out as often.

All in all if you feel like you can't do it now then you're in for a shock when you get to college. Don't drop the AP classes - if anything it'll prepare you a bit. I found my first year of college easier than my senior year of high school, but it gets progressively more difficult as you go on and progressively harder to make time to ride. Not trying to be all doom and gloom.... Just throwing out my experience. Hope it gets a bit better for you. :)

ETA: Everyone is exactly right. Don't put the horses before your education. They will be there waiting for you... But your education won't go on hold while you go out to the horses instead of study.
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post #16 of 27 Old 10-03-2013, 06:21 AM Thread Starter
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I'd like to thank you all for who responded on this thread. Education does come first, and now I'm going to dedicate myself to it, which will be extremely hard for me, but rewarding. I'm making my own little schedule for after school so I can maximize my horse time, but still get my studying done. I need these horses in my life somehow, even last night when it was dark I just rode bareback for 10 minutes and came in a lot more focused and less stressed. I think they will help get me through the hard classes. My mindset has changed on my grades. They are important, even more important than my furry friends..

I might even start going to tutoring sessions regularly put on by our Honor Society..even though I'm in it. Heck, I might try to make some friends in these hard classes and make a study group. A lot of new things to me, but I'm sure it's better to have a hard time now than struggle through college.

Thank you everyone :)
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post #17 of 27 Old 10-03-2013, 06:38 AM
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Good choice!!
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post #18 of 27 Old 10-03-2013, 07:12 AM
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As as college student who works full time i wanted to put in my input, when I was in highschool i never did AP classes cause well im not an academic person but i struggled they way you are with your classes, I found that if i got up earlier in the morning i could go to the local barn and do morning rides, or ride on the weekends, where there is a will there is a way. don't give up on college you will need it and finding riding time is actually easier in college, I pack all my classes down into two days, and one of those days is redonc spread out so that between things i can come to the barn and ride my new lease horse. you will find a way you just have to look for one!
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post #19 of 27 Old 10-04-2013, 09:50 PM
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I know exactly how you feel!
I know it's really difficult but you need to try to have good time management and get a good schedule. If you have a schedule that is realistic for you and your training, then you will get much more done. Quite honestly, you can't deal with riding all 4 horses and all of your classes without being up very late at night... and you will need your sleep too and time for yourself to just relax.
So, if I were you, I would focus on one or two of your horses to work with regularly, and maybe ride one every other day and then do all of them on weekends. Fri-Sat-Sun could be your days to work with all 4 of them, maybe some lunging, some trail, but being sure not to overwork the ones that either don't have as good fitness or that have been working all week already.
I personally work best by doing some work in school, going to the barn after school (doing some in the car, which may not be your scenario), and then doing the rest when I get back. When riding is a priority, but you know school is too, it sort of falls into place.
Write a schedule out and know when you're at school which horse you'll be riding when you get home and what work you'll be doing. You can even get specific as to identify what exactly you will work on... bending, jumping, trotting, etc.
I hope this works out for you! My classes are way tougher this year too, but hey, we have to deal with it and adjust, that's the biggest thing. You will get the hang of it and so will I, but just focus and take time for yourself to relax and love your horsies :)
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post #20 of 27 Old 10-06-2013, 10:53 PM Thread Starter
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Well this week I am planning on making a new schedule to follow! Right now I am laying off my main horse to get his weight up after show season, so he will probably just need to be lunged a few times a week. My main concern is my rescue horse, who I need to work with everyday, so next spring she can start looking for a new home or lease home. Plus she has minor arthritis and a confo flaw that will make riding harder for her unless consistently worked.

Good thing is that I got my grades up from slacking so much! It's just about staying ahead now..
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