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post #1 of 46 Old 05-27-2019, 08:13 PM Thread Starter
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This week will change my life

Five years ago, my neighbor adopted a mare from a rescue. Long story short, I spent about 10x more time with the mare than my neighbor did, and formed an incredible bond. After riding dozens if not hundreds of different horses, none of them captivated my heart like she did. A year later, my neighbor sent her back to the rescue, and I was devastated. I was 15 at the time and didn't have the means to adopt her myself. I saw she got adopted in the following month, and decided I needed to put that chapter of life behind me if I had any hope of moving forward in other parts of my life.

Fast forward four years, and on a sheer stroke of luck I found her back up for adoption on the rescue's website! I wasn't actively looking for her; I just remembered the rescue for the first time in four years and decided to explore the website. I immediately contacted them and asked about her. They said she was just returned from her previous adopted home and is now back up for adoption. My irrational mind started to plan to adopt her. I am currently financially independent, so month-to-month expenses wouldn't be an issue, but I'm also a full time college student with a part time job, and once this ends, it's off to vet school.

I decided I'd poke around for boarders anyway. It was surprisingly easy to find a very great pasture board opportunity very well within my budget - boarding, check. The stable owner gave me vet and farrier contacts - references, check. I asked around my horsey friends and one agreed to trailer for me - transport, check. I applied to adopt. I don't know if I even knew what I was doing; I just wanted to see how far I could get before they said no. The rescue got back to me and said they really don't like to home their horses out-of-state (the rescue is in Maine, and I moved to PA for college), but I could come visit. So I did. 800 miles round-trip in my rusty old Corolla, just to visit this mare. After my visit, they agreed to overlook the out-of-state policy because they had never seen her respond so well to anyone else before, including their trainer (very high-energy Arabian/Standardbred cross mare). She obviously remembered me, and it felt like the four years in between never happened.

Now all that's left is a Skype virtual site inspection (so the rescue can see the boarding facility she would be at). That's scheduled solidly for this Thursday. They agreed that if it goes well, I can trailer her down this Sunday.

Holy. Crap. Am I crazy?? I have never owned a horse before (but have 10 years of at least 3-days-a-week horse experience). Everyone says don't get a horse in college, don't bring a horse to vet school, wait until your education is finished. Well, I can afford it (perhaps with a little more debt upon graduation), and I (surprisingly) have the time. I just didn't think I'd get this far in the adoption process, and I'm keeping the craziness of vet school in mind. Now, it's basically down to one last hurdle. Either they give me the go-ahead and I'll officially adopt her, or they don't, and all this time and energy - two months of emails, phone calls, planning, coordination, and an 800 mile drive - is wasted. Both options are equally nerve-wracking. I so desperately want her back in my life, and would be incredibly honored to provide her a forever home. At the same time, moving to vet school with her and finding another boarder nearby will be a big challenge. But if the rescue says yes, there is no way in the world I'll back down.

I just wanted to put this all down somewhere to put a small part of my mind at rest. Am I capable of it? Absolutely. Will it be difficult? Yes. There's no doubt in my mind the rest of my education with her by my side would be like (both literally and figuratively) flying through the woods dodging low branches and swerving around boulders, just trying to hold on. The alternative of no adoption seems simpler and easier, but since when have I liked simple and easy? The end result of the rest of this week might drastically change the next 10+ years of my life. Here's to hoping for the best, whatever life has in store for me and this mare - whether together or separate.
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post #2 of 46 Old 05-27-2019, 08:29 PM
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It sounds like you've done all your homework, and you're at a boarding place where you can ask for help from the barn owner and get more hands on experience. It's wonderful that you found this mare again, it's like you were meant to be. Share pics! I wish you the best of luck!

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post #3 of 46 Old 05-27-2019, 09:20 PM
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When it is meant to be, it shall be...

All the hurdles tossed in your way, you went your own way and yet...
You found each other after a long time apart...
Sometimes it is fate or whatever you want to call it. isn't always bad.

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post #4 of 46 Old 05-27-2019, 09:37 PM
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Aw. What a great story. I hope you enjoy many happy, healthy years together.
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post #5 of 46 Old 05-27-2019, 10:30 PM Thread Starter
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@Countess , I'm not at all concerned about experience! I've got 10+ years of horse experience under my belt, I was a working student at two stables, and now work at another. When I started riding this mare five years ago, she had less than half a dozen rides on her, and I spent a lot of time training her up as my first true project. I cared for her as if she was my own; I was there every day for at least two hours cleaning her stall, riding her, filling water buckets, feeding, etc. The only thing I didn't do was pay the bills. What I am worried about now is how I'll keep a horse through the rest of college and then vet school! It'll be a big deal trying to move to vet school at the same time as trying to move her to a new boarding facility, especially when I might have to travel many states away for whichever vet school I end up at. Thanks for the encouraging words from you and everyone else! Hoping Thursday goes well and they'll approve the adoption.
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post #6 of 46 Old 05-27-2019, 10:45 PM
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Good luck! Sounds like she's meant to be your horse. Please keep us posted on what happens Thursday and pics are a must when she officially becomes yours.

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post #7 of 46 Old 05-28-2019, 10:08 AM
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So happy for you and your new mare. Fate has a way of bringing things together
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post #8 of 46 Old 05-28-2019, 01:56 PM
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If they say yes then I would just take her on with no regrets. Otherwise you will kick yourself and always wonder what if and what happened to her. This is an amazing opportunity and a wonderful story--what a blessing to find her again! Boarding a horse is never convenient so don't let that stop you. Just knowing she is safe and happy could actually help you get through college. Wouldn't it be great to go visit her and unwind at the barn after school? You can do this--sure hope it all works out!

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post #9 of 46 Old 05-28-2019, 04:08 PM
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Sometimes things are just meant to be and everything falls into place.
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post #10 of 46 Old 05-28-2019, 04:35 PM
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I sure hope that you will be able to get her. I wish you the best of luck and both of you the best of good times. I'm sure there will be plenty.

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