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post #11 of 18 Old 05-03-2013, 07:37 PM
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I'd contact other barns.

There might be many reasons your barn owner would say 'thanks, bye' that you are not aware of, things often erupt in my house, and that's my response (foster parent).

However if you have had lessons for 18 months, you should know how t tack up at least, have you asked if you can arrive early and be taught this?

Either way, you are not happy so find a new barn.
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post #12 of 18 Old 05-03-2013, 11:59 PM
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If you have limited options to ride somewhere else then maybe you should speak to your instructor first and see if things can be improved there before leaving. Tell her that you want to gain some handling experience and would like to be able to tack your horse or any horse for that matter if your horse is always ready to go when you arrive. Or like someone else said get there earlier, I'm sure she wouldn't say no to an extra set of hands if you are polite about it.

I don't think you would have much luck finding work as a stable hand with no experience but you never know.

Remember that this lady is probably really busy with lots of other things going on and if you say you aren't riding then you aren't riding. Its not her place to question why you aren't coming.

You need to learn to walk before you can run, I wouldn't be in such a rush. If you are already a bit low on confidence then moving things along too quickly probably wont help.
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post #13 of 18 Old 05-04-2013, 12:24 AM
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i had to learn to tack up before even getting on a horse, and basic horse handling , like leading, grooming and stuff like that
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post #14 of 18 Old 05-04-2013, 12:53 AM
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It could be a number of things:

if you don't know how to tack up a horse, or even halter a horse, and you admit that you aren't comfortable around horses, I'd bet that your trainer sees that and doesn't feel like you are able to move on yet. I'm slightly confused if these are your first riding lessons, OR if you know how to ride very well and these are your first JUMPING lessons. IFFFF and ONLY IF they are jumping lessons, you should be doing more than trotting over ground poles in 6 months' time. BUT if you are a new rider and have only been riding for 6 months, total, ever, then you should worry less about jumping and more about flat work. I know it isn't the "fun" stuff, (tho honestly I loovveee flat work as much as jumping) but it sets a good foundation.

However, for arguments sake, lets say your trainer really doesn't care much about her students and is truly NOT teaching you properly: If you can't go to another barn entirely, can you get a different trainer at THIS barn? There is no shame in changing trainers. I rode at a barn years ago for about 2 years and in that time I had 4 different trainers before I found one that worked for AND WITH me. (I don't ride there any more tho). Maybe see if someone else out there can give you lessons.

It is very important to first feel secure and confident around a horse. I suspect that if you don't know how to take care of a horse (generically, like tacking up and haltering) that maybe your trainer isn't really doing you any good. always learn the basics first before trying to learn anything else.
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post #15 of 18 Old 05-04-2013, 10:30 AM
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Jumping takes a lot of confidence. which you admit you do not have.
I would not allow you to gallop a horse I own if you did not take the incentive to try and tack up your own horse.
Be patient and trying to second guess what some one thinks and says rarely proves itself true.
You need to learn how to communicate your feelings and frustrations to the BO.
If not be prepared to remain frustrated and continue to walk over poles.
It appears your trainer is concerned about your safety more than making money from lessons. That is a good thing. If she were rushing you to jump then you would really have a problem. Shalom
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post #16 of 18 Old 05-04-2013, 11:11 AM
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Do you have any friends with horses that you could hand out with? Get some basic hands-on time on the ground and learn some of the skills you need to become a horsewoman? It sounds like you are learning the mechanics of sitting on the horse without a clue of the horse itself. I can't imagine learning to ride with out a basic knowledge of how to attach the equipment to the horse and how it all works together, etc.
Is the barn owner your instructor? You need to have a conversation with her/him about your concerns and what your goal is. I know there are frustrations but that is true for just about anything in life. You have to start with the basics, be persistant and patient. The good riders didn't get that way by just being plopped on a horse and taught how to sit there...they have put in years of hard work and taking it a step at a time.
Good luck to you.
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post #17 of 18 Old 05-06-2013, 05:01 PM Thread Starter
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I decided that I'm going to talk to my Intstructor, and if by June nothing happens that I'm moving to a new barn. Thanks for all your help!
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post #18 of 18 Old 05-08-2013, 09:12 PM
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You said you didn't have a lot of confidence, that is probably why you aren't cantering..... It took me over a year of riding lessons before I started cantering.
Also why on earth would you get upset over that phone call? Sounded fine to me for two reasons.
1. I absolutely hate it when on the odd occasion my instructor asks me why I can't come because I then feel like I have to justify my personal reasons to her.
2. Barn managers are INSANELY busy. I am lucky if I can get a whole sentence in to the one at my current barn, and that's in person. So don't be offended that she isn't your BFF that wants to talk about your life all day. She is just really busy.

You can change barns if you feel you will be more comfortable there, but that will probably set you back in your lessons even further. You may even have to start over when you start lessons at the new place :S
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