Ok, just got home from work and read through all this.
I do wanna clarify a few things.
1. Yes, I knew the moment they 'gave' me the mini that he wasn't really 'mine'. When they said that I couldn't sell him, I knew... but I felt bad for him because he's in pretty bad shape. Because he's NOT mine I cannot and will not pay to have him gelded by myself. I'm not willing to spend that much on a horse that isn't mine. If my cousins would be willing to go half with me, I'd probably do it, but they are only willing to pay for small things like feed and hay and wormer.
2. I figured that if I were doing small things for the mini, such as worming him, grooming him, and keeping his hooves in good shape, it would help him out in the long rub, because otherwise, he'll go the rest of his life out here never being messed with, never being groomed, and never getting wormed or having his hooves trimmed. At least with me doing that basic care, he'll not suffer so much.
3. I am well aware of what my cousins are planning for me doing. I know they want me to 'train and tame' the mini, then they'll take him back for their kids. Honestly, I don't mind working with the mini for my cousins every now and then... but I'm not going to go out of my way and neglect my own horses care just to appease them. I'll get the mini halter-broke where he doesn't rear up and try to strike out when being led, and I'll try to get him calmer and less spooky around people, but as far as cart-training him like I think they want me to, no way. Not only do I not have time, but I wouldn't even know where to begin and I don't want to cart-train a horse... especially when I don't know how.
4. The mini has been in the big pasture (50 acres) with my great uncle David's two mares and my cousin Sherry's mare for several months now. We did not put him in there, he got out of the paddock my cousins had him in and got in the big pasture himself. They didn't care to put him back up in his paddock and just left him out. I managed to catch him twice and put take him back to his paddock, but they didn't care to fix it and he got out again. At that point, I was like, yall don't care, it takes forever to catch him, they're not my horses, it's not my problem. However, I did and still do feel bad about the condition of the mini (wormy, no hoof trimming, unhandled, etc...) so I agreed to take him when they "offered" thinking that he might get at least a little better care if I could afford some basic things for him (that don't cost a whole bunch, I already knew that he wasn't really "mine", and so because of that, I'm not willing to spend a lot of money on him, because he isn't mine).
5. My two horses, Gypsie and Dakota, aren't pastured in the big pasture that the mini is out in. I moved my horses almost a year ago to a much better pasture, albeit smaller (about 30 acres) because of some of my family members complaining about/threatening/messing with my gelding and making him completely disrespectful to me and others. I'm also in the process of building my own pasture behind the house just for my horses, but since where they are at now is big and nice (and there's no issues with people being upset and/or messing with them where they are at now), I'm not in any huge hurry to get my pasture built. But they ARE NOT in with the mini studs.
Horseshoe Loop Farm: Home of Gypsie (22 y/o TWH mare), Dakota (10 y/o TWH gelding), Codie (18 y/o Walkaloosa gelding) & Harlow (9 y/o APHA mare)