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post #1 of 8 Old 10-13-2010, 10:50 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy What to do with a too helpful horse friend?

This is my first post on a horse forum, and I'm wondering about your opinion on this:
I have a very good friend who posts about my horses on another horse forum... she has her own horses, but yet she sometimes posts about mine. I just found out today, and I feel really hurt by this. My horses are well cared for. They are in excellent health. I have friends who are veteranarians and professional horse trainers. I feel that I have experts who are close to me that I can count on for a diagnosis or for schooling questions. I told my friend that it hurt my feelings that she was posting questions to the world about my horses without discussing it with me.

Am I being too sensitive? Would you post a thread about your friend's horses?
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post #2 of 8 Old 10-13-2010, 11:31 PM
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That depends on what she was posting? If she mentioned them or an issue of theirs in passing on a certain thread or was trying to find a solution for you it may not be so bad. If she was starting threads about them then maybe i wouldn't be too impressed, especially if she was pointing out things she thought you were doing wrong without you being there to defend yourself.

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post #3 of 8 Old 10-13-2010, 11:35 PM
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Welcome to the HF!

In this forums rules, it states that you are not allowed to ask advice about anybody's horses but your own. I don't think you are overreacting, but I would discuss it with your friend. Tell him/her that you are uncomfortable with him/her posting questions about your horses without your consent.

I don't own any horses myself, but I do help care for my instructors horses. I would never post anything stating they were mine (Because they aren't); and I certainly wouldn't post any questions regarding their training/care without my instructors consent.

I don't think trying to help somebody out is that terrible, I just think it is the courtesy rule at play in these issues.
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post #4 of 8 Old 10-14-2010, 08:54 AM
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Ya I'd be frustrated if it was questions concerning the way my horse is trained, acting, fed or any other thing that wasnt my friends place to talk about. Unless I gave permission. You know what, honestly I've done this without realizing I've done it. I think there are alot of us here that have done it without realizing that we could be hurting someone or over stepping our boundries. Are we counterdicting ourselves? Probably. I dont think most of us are intentionally trying to hurt someone. Just trying to get help from others and suggestions on situations.
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post #5 of 8 Old 10-14-2010, 11:31 AM
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I personally would NOT post without asking first. Well, in fact I'd not post at all - why should I in 1st place? If someone would post MY horses... Well, as long as it's NOT for critique I wouldn't really care. They both are very well cared for, round, and cute, so I have no problem with people looking at my animals.

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post #6 of 8 Old 10-14-2010, 12:14 PM
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Originally Posted by A knack for horses View Post
In this forums rules, it states that you are not allowed to ask advice about anybody's horses but your own.
Hmm. I don't think that is true.

You are not supposed to post photos of others horses but nothing is said about advice.
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post #7 of 8 Old 10-14-2010, 12:21 PM
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To me it would depend what she was saying as to how offended by it i was....but the key point is that it has obviously upset you and that is the bottom line of it...I would be tempted to join the forum and let rip but you would probably only end up embroiled in an online row.....How good a friend is she?....
If she were my so called friend i would be cutting her loose especially if i had already spoken to her regarding the issue....what was her response by the way as you havent mentioned her reply to you...?

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post #8 of 8 Old 10-15-2010, 05:14 PM
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Originally Posted by mls View Post
Hmm. I don't think that is true.
Your are right mls, it is pictures. My bad.

I'd still ask somebody first before I would post asking anything asking for advice.
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