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post #11 of 15 Old 12-05-2012, 11:21 AM
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It sounds like your horse probably had a good foundation to start with. What you said about the trainer is not encouraging. It sounds like he had you and the horse there for whatever amount he could get out of you. It's a good thing you left.
You might look around for someone else to take lessons with (you and your horse together). Don't be afraid to ask for references. There are talented people out there with the ability to make you feel more confident with what you want to do.
Good luck...and it sounds like you have a nice horse.
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post #12 of 15 Old 12-05-2012, 02:11 PM
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Your gut is telling you that this trainers ways of doing things are probably not the best. Trust your gut.

Don't go back to that trainer. You said that you took lessons somewhere else prior to this guy. Can you contact that trainer and see if they will come out and work with you?
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post #13 of 15 Old 12-05-2012, 02:26 PM
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I don't know that "natural horsemanship" and "pull the reins as hard as possible" should go together...isn't natural horsemanship about being light and supple?

I'm curious how you found this guy anyway? If he was training your horse, why didn't he let you ride your own horse during the lessons? It seems like that would have been the most logical thing. Either way, it sounds like you need to find someone else to take lessons from.

And I agree with everyone else...in order to become a better rider with better balance and coordination, you have to ride more. Even if all you do is ride in an arena or pasture or wherever for an hour a day at a walk until you feel balanced, and then start trotting little by little until you feel comfortable. Just work with your horse and work on building your confidence.

Also, check out this book. I started working with a horse who hadn't been ridden in a long time, and followed this book and had awesome results! The thing I like most about it is that it has one english rider and one western rider who have problem horses and throughout each exercise, there is an interview with them both that tells you things that were hard for them, and tips to make it work. It's also broken down in a way that is very easy to understand, and there are sections within each exercise "typical problems with the horse & how to correct it" and "typical problems with the rider & how to correct it"

The book starts with groundwork and works up to being in the saddle and all of the exercises teach your horse to be light and supple and it's a great way to build a bond and establish authority with a new horse. I highly recommend!

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post #14 of 15 Old 12-05-2012, 06:55 PM
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I have a new mare. Had her about 2 1/2 months now. I didn't feel confident to be the first one to ride her even though Ive done all her ground work and have her respect, I have no reason to be scared of her but anyways I got a trainer to help with my insecurities. The first ride by my trainer was no more than 10 mins and she was tossing me in the saddle. I was terrified lmao. I'm a decent rider but on my new mare everything I ever knew flew out the window. So now we are relearning together. I have put all of her rides/miles on her. I'm learning sooo much more by being the one to ride/train her with supervision of course. Its super beneficial for the both of us. She us learning my cues and I'm learning hers. This is just my experience and it's working out amazingly well. Good luck!
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post #15 of 15 Old 12-07-2012, 02:46 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone for all the advice you've given. I believe I will leave this trainer and ride my horse on my own. Then maybe take lessons again later on from someone else if I want to get into showing; and don't worry, I know what real natural horsemanship is and this trainer isn't it. I'm certainly not a fan of pulling, yanking, and constantly fighting with the horse. I'd rather enjoy the ride and actually feel good when it's over.
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