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post #1 of 11 Old 11-02-2010, 06:41 PM Thread Starter
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Angry What is wrong with me these days?

Hi guys!

These days I don't know what to think of things. A few weeks ago we competed in our first out of town horse show and had a blast! We did great and it was a ton of fun. But ever since we got back I just don't feel like riding...

We worked SO hard leading up to the horse show, I'm wondering if that's the problem. Everytime I go out I just feel like bathing, grooming, grazing, or going on a trailride...NOT heading down to the ring to work on lead changes, my position, and everything else.

It's like I just want to enjoy my horse instead of working, but I'm worried that all of our hard work will go to trash, ESPECIALLY since my goal for this winter is to get lead changes after working years on the kick out that goes with it (don't ask, long story ). Plus, it doesn't help the fact that our past rides have been AWFUL! My right ankle is screwed up for whatever reason so it hurts unbelievably to put my heel down...so what does that mean? My right leg might as well not even be there since it won't function, and then my horse blows past my "imaginary leg" on that side!

My life is so busy it's as if I don't want to add yet another thing that involves work, I just want to play. I'm sure it'll pass, but I really just want to go down and enjoy my boy. Do you think we'll be throwing our work away if we stop training and just play? Have ya'll ever gone through this?

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post #2 of 11 Old 11-02-2010, 06:51 PM
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I don't think there is anything wrong with taking some time to relax with your horse. He probably feels the same way :) and is enjoying the down time. Its just like working a job, after awhile you get burned out, can't find anything good about going to work, then you go on vacation for a bit and come back and things don't look so bleak. When my hubby and I teamed truck driving we got so wore out (drove from Michigan to the West Coast and back again in 4 to 5 days) it was wearing us out and one day he got into it with the dispatcher. Needless to say our "punishment" was to take a week off. We came back in a much better mood and our job was a lot easier.
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post #3 of 11 Old 11-02-2010, 06:52 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you for your reply!
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post #4 of 11 Old 11-02-2010, 06:58 PM
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Hey! I know how you feel. I've been riding pretty frequently for about 2 years now and I am kinda disgruntled myself. My easy peasy horse has been all work for dressage and my other horses are just plain harder to ride anyways. I'm thinking I may take a weeks off myself and try to find my balance. *hugs* I'm guessing a phase and personally, my life outside of horses always affects my riding as well.

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post #5 of 11 Old 11-02-2010, 07:24 PM Thread Starter
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post #6 of 11 Old 11-03-2010, 01:22 AM
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Hey, you could always work on lead changes when you're out on the trail!
I use trail rides as training as well as fun times. I'll spend a few minutes at every so often on the trail to work on things. My old horse, I would get him warmed up and then work a little on getting him round and soft and then I'd let him relax and enjoy being out for a while then go back to working on getting him round or a slower, not rushed canter.
It made me feel so much better doing this out in the open and not being stuck in the arena doing it.
Everyone gets burned out. So do our horses. It's important to take them out of the arena or just spent time grooming them instead of training. Take some time off training and by the time you get back to it, you'll feel much better.
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post #7 of 11 Old 11-03-2010, 02:21 AM
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There is nothing wrong with needing some time off, and working with a horse is more desirable than other jobs, but it is still work. Take some time as if you are feeling it, your buddy probably is too.

I am a foster parent of teenagers and I appreciate my time off. Others think that I should not get any, but they can go to bed and leave their teenagers awake in their rooms, I cannot. So I get little time alone with my hubby, and when I do, we have a better relationship, and the same is true of my horse, as I am not stressed.

I used to be a work-a-holic until I truely had a 24hr a day job, and now I know what down time means and how important it is.

Down time does not mean that you can't do fun things like grooming or just sitting in a field with your horse, but you both need some relax time no matter what that means to you.
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post #8 of 11 Old 11-03-2010, 07:13 AM
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I felt like this a couple of weeks ago.. I'm sure it happens to everyone once in a while.

I just took a break and spent lots of time with him, went on trial rides and just relaxed. It was good :)
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post #9 of 11 Old 11-03-2010, 07:56 AM
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Take time off of riding and just spend time with your horse(s). I got the same way when I became overwhelmed with keeping my two horses in shape. I just lost my main riding horse a few weeks ago (to colic) and I regret not having fun and spending time with her towards the end.
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post #10 of 11 Old 11-03-2010, 08:04 AM
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Whole heartedly agree. There is absolutely nothing wrong with relaxing. When I was still showing, I would take a week or so (depending on our show schedule) to just chill, either trail ride or just groom and mess around. I'm a firm believer of riding is not just for showing off, but for the pure enjoyment of being with your horse.
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