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post #1 of 7 Old 09-12-2013, 10:55 PM Thread Starter
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When do you know it's time to sell?

When do you know it's time to sell your horse? I have gone back and forth over this issue with Drifter a lot these past few months. My brain keeps telling me it is probably time, but my heart keeps wanting to hang on.

We seem to have lost that "click" we used to have. I have had him checked all over for pain, sickness, etc. Nothing. He has become tense and ornery.

I retired him from eventing training thinking he just didnt like that job. He is not happy as just a trail horse ever.

I am kind of at my wits end. Does the fact that i am so conflicted over selling mean its probably time to move on?

I would miss him so much, and I would always wonder what happened to him. Especially since after researching his past I had discovered he had been passed around to 6 or 7 owners in just a year and a half. I hate to end up just another owner on a long list...

*sigh* Sorry for the novel. I'm just conflicted and frustrated and I don't know what to do. Trying to get my thoughts down in writing and organize them a bit I guess.
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post #2 of 7 Old 09-12-2013, 11:11 PM
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Since you say he got tense and kind of ornery, I'd be having a chiropractor check him out. I know you said checked for pain but .... most vets don't know how to do a good thorough chiropractic exam.

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I've had a chiropractor out Dreamcatcher. I have regular work done on him because he came to me all out of whack and it usually keeps him feeling better.

He has been one of those horses that seems to do better with more riding time but since changing his job to "trail horse" I have had less time to focus on him work wise. Especially since I spend most of my free time out of work and school working with my new eventing project.

I still see Drifter every day but its usually to just bring him up, feed him, look him over and let him go. I ride him about once a week, maybe twice.

Maybe something I can try is balancing my time better between my two horses. Not trying to humanize him but I have always got the vibe that Drifter is one of those horses that sometimes just wants to "hang out" with you and lately I have been all business trying to keep to my schedule and get home to bed. Maybe thats putting a damper on things.
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post #4 of 7 Old 09-13-2013, 01:00 AM
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Have you thought about leasing him to someone that can ride him regularly?

You could still keep him and maybe make some money leasing him to someone you trust to ride him.
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post #5 of 7 Old 09-13-2013, 01:30 AM
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Sounds like he wants to be number 1. The lease might be a good idea if you can find a fit. Some horses thrive with work. Others are jealous. He might be both....
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post #6 of 7 Old 09-13-2013, 01:49 AM Thread Starter
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Interesting thing to think about Desert! hmm.. We were already having our moments since I was busy with work and travel this summer .. but things did drastically slide downhill when the new one came on the property. I will usually ride/groom/feed/grab Whiskey first solely because he comes running to meet me when he sees me. Drifter is like "Come get me". So of course I grab the first one thats there. I never really thought about it but maybe Drift is having "only child syndrome". That would explain a lot hahaha. Whiskey is also the only horse I have ever had Drifter kick/bite/etc. Whiskey is definitely the dominant one but boy if Drifter doesnt try for it.

The lease is a good idea. My best friend who rides with me is currently facing some stall rest time with her horse, so I might approach her with the idea. Money wouldnt be a priority for me, so even a free lease would be fine with me.

My options for riders for him are really limited. I have some really good friends who are pretty decent riders who I have put on him for a trail ride before, and boy does he hate it. He takes "testing" to a whole other level with new riders. He is great walk/ trot, but as soon as someone tries asking him for more he either goes balistic or shuts down. I've jumped on him after an incident to make him work- but it never helps because as soon as I get on hes back to behaving well. My best friend once spent 2 hours on him until he decided she wasnt giving up so he would give in. I kept telling her "dont give up!! It will just reinforce it!" so she stuck to him. Now hes fine with her for the most part. So she is definitely an option.

I actually had my BO approach me about her leasing him for use in lessons since he is so good at walking around with beginners but I turned her down due to his testing behavior. A testy, 16.2 appendix just doesnt sound like a good "beginner" horse to me.

Ugh. It's always frustrated me and now it frustrates me even more so. I have always tried to have as many people as possible ride him under my supervision so that he wouldnt become a "one person" horse, in hopes to avoid problems like this if I ever did want to lease him in the future. Of course, that still didnt work out haha. Ugh. Horses.

I will talk to my friend about the idea of her riding him while hers is rehabbing. I'll also start catching him first every once in a while, even if he is farther out. Maybe theres something to the jealousy thing. Will be interesting to see. Thanks for the other options. I really feel in my heart of hearts I could not be okay selling him.
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Yup, definitely sounds like he wants to be the only man. And has a weird way to show it. Let him know he's number 1. He'll appreciate it.
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