Interesting thing to think about Desert! hmm.. We were already having our moments since I was busy with work and travel this summer .. but things did drastically slide downhill when the new one came on the property. I will usually ride/groom/feed/grab Whiskey first solely because he comes running to meet me when he sees me. Drifter is like "Come get me". So of course I grab the first one thats there. I never really thought about it but maybe Drift is having "only child syndrome". That would explain a lot hahaha. Whiskey is also the only horse I have ever had Drifter kick/bite/etc. Whiskey is definitely the dominant one but boy if Drifter doesnt try for it.
The lease is a good idea. My best friend who rides with me is currently facing some stall rest time with her horse, so I might approach her with the idea. Money wouldnt be a priority for me, so even a free lease would be fine with me.
My options for riders for him are really limited. I have some really good friends who are pretty decent riders who I have put on him for a trail ride before, and boy does he hate it. He takes "testing" to a whole other level with new riders. He is great walk/ trot, but as soon as someone tries asking him for more he either goes balistic or shuts down. I've jumped on him after an incident to make him work- but it never helps because as soon as I get on hes back to behaving well. My best friend once spent 2 hours on him until he decided she wasnt giving up so he would give in. I kept telling her "dont give up!! It will just reinforce it!" so she stuck to him. Now hes fine with her for the most part. So she is definitely an option.
I actually had my BO approach me about her leasing him for use in lessons since he is so good at walking around with beginners but I turned her down due to his testing behavior. A testy, 16.2 appendix just doesnt sound like a good "beginner" horse to me.
Ugh. It's always frustrated me and now it frustrates me even more so. I have always tried to have as many people as possible ride him under my supervision so that he wouldnt become a "one person" horse, in hopes to avoid problems like this if I ever did want to lease him in the future. Of course, that still didnt work out haha. Ugh. Horses.
I will talk to my friend about the idea of her riding him while hers is rehabbing. I'll also start catching him first every once in a while, even if he is farther out. Maybe theres something to the jealousy thing. Will be interesting to see. Thanks for the other options. I really feel in my heart of hearts I could not be okay selling him.