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post #1 of 22 Old 06-17-2013, 09:24 PM Thread Starter
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When is this a sickness?

Last week I headed out to my local resivor where there is 17 miles of horse trails I have never ridden. I get dusty unloaded an we are standing there having a pre-ride discussion when two ladies ride up pulling there trailer an horses and ask if I've ever ridden here. I politely respond no and go back to talking-to dusty. The two ladies unloaded there horses an acted kinda weird afterwards. After riding a few hours I was discussing the strange behavior again with dusty when I realized the issue. They road up on a grown man carrying on a conversation with a horse. I do it all the time! Lately I've noticed more and more I prefer conversations with him over people. I've quit talking with most people even close friends. I spend almost all my spare time with him. At night I'm planning our next trip it's been one of the worst years of my adult life. Honestly, I don't know how I'd make it without him. Really hadn't considered any of this till Last week. Is this unhealthy?
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post #2 of 22 Old 06-17-2013, 09:33 PM
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Naw, just horse owners being horse owners :p
I've always been sort of anti-social, don't like talking with people, and definitely not strangers! The horses have always been my escape. Especially when I'm having problems I don't want to talk to my parents about, and I want to talk about it right then and there, and can't call my friends. Don't have any siblings, so my horses take that role :)
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post #3 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 12:08 AM
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Glad to know I'm not the only one to prefer conversations with horses over people. I have had 2 horses that I really connected with more then any other horse or most people for that matter. I find it somewhat therapeutic and my secrets are always safe with them. Also, sorry you are having such a rough year, hope it starts looking up for you.
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post #4 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 12:19 AM
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Horses are always better conversationalists than people. Don't worry about it, you're perfectly normal.......for a horse person!

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post #5 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 01:15 AM
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Humans are stressful companions. You have to be very careful now not to offend, step on toes, or start any other drama. Horses are simple creatures that don't have toes to step on.

They don't care about a single worry that you have. At that matters to them is right now. That helps your mind. Being able to just live in right now with no worries or drama.

Don't pull away too much from your friends though. Human herds are not like horse herds. You can't be gone for months and expect to walk back into the group like nothing happened.
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post #6 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 03:59 AM
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Yep I talk to the horses I ride too! Its not a sickness its just horse love (and maybe a little obsession).

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post #7 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 06:35 AM
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Talking TO your horse is perfectly normal. Acting as if you're having an actual conversation with them is not. No wonder the two women thought you were a few fries short of a Happy Meal.

Being antisocial isn't something of which to be proud, it's dangerous for your mental health. We're as much herd animals as horses and need the company of our own kind. If you don't cultivate human relationships, don't be surprised when you find yourself left alone with no one around when you need help.

Being a loner doesn't mean you have to be a creepy weirdo who speaks only to your animals. I've always been a loner, yet also have human friends. People can and do enrich your life.

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post #8 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 09:30 AM
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I can't say I have actual conversations with a horse. I'll make a comment here and there i.e. "oh, you lost a shoe again." type of comment. I'll even make the occasional remark of "the weather is too nice to do ring work, we're going on a hack." But I dont stand there and tell the horse about my day or talk to it like I would a friend. I quite enjoy the silence that comes when pulling a mane or cleaning tack.

Just be careful you're not replacing human interaction with a horse. It's not the same thing. By no means do you have to go out with people all the time. Given the choice, I will always take a quiet night in by myself. But its important to have relationships with people, not just animals.

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post #9 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 10:55 AM
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ill talk to annie. ask how her day was, if the heat was bad. was spotlight being a jerk today? and i tell her about my days. work went like such.... fiance and i are..... im thinking about doing such and such with your feed/tack.etc

she'll snort, flick her ears, react to me touching her or my tone of voice. i know she doesnt get what im saying, but she understands the mood, and its comforting.
if he listens, keep talking. he may find a way to tell you a secret of his own one day.
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post #10 of 22 Old 06-18-2013, 11:31 AM
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Talking to your horse, normal.

Spending every waking minutes thinking about, planning and being around your horse "friend" is not. Humans need contact with other humans and let's face it, it can cause us some stress or anxiety. It's totally normal and better you learn to handle it then to cut yourself off from society. The longer you go the harder it will be to reconnect with your friends.

I would find other people who have the same intrest as you, your horse. If you can afford it get another packer and bring along some of your non horsey friends.
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