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post #1 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 12:32 AM Thread Starter
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When to talk!

I just dont know when to talk about horses with my parents! They just dont listen! its like they hate them and hate me liking them!
When i try talking to them they just say oh... in a boring annoyed voice and stop talking, or they say something along those lines.
Today at the pool it was my cousin my mom and i and none of us were talking then im like hey mom today sage ( one of or my best friend) brought home heer two new horses today! and her repley? " pick a subject we can all talk about" ) in the pretty mean voice) and then her aand my cousin start talking about cars! i dont care about cars!
I just dont get them, i know theyre a tonnnn of money but thats all i want to talk about until i can go riding, ugh i just dont get them ad how to get them to agree with me..

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post #2 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 12:46 AM
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lol. My parents have finally learned that I am going to talk about horses to them whether they like or it not, so they probably just tune me out because all they ever say is "Oh." "Mhm." "That's nice."


You just have to remember that they don't like horse riding as much as you. Just like they started talking about cars. You don't care about cars, so you are pretty much putting them in the same situation when it comes to horses.


You are more than welcome to talk about horses on here as you please.

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post #3 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 01:39 AM
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Awww!

I'm sorry that you're the only horse lover in your family! I was, too! I just saw that they'd never have the passion for horses, so never spent time trying to change them. Your time'd be better spent being with horses, or when you're spending time with family & they want to discuss cars--ugh!--have a horse book/mag with you! Tell your mom that just as you're no longer sharing horse info with her because she's not interested, she shouldn't insist that you discuss topics that you're not interested in! You'll be polite, of course.
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I was the only one, too! Once my Aunt moved away (and took her horses with her) the arguments started brewing.. And really never stopped! Don't let it come between you and your parents.. I know that sounds hard, but it came between me and my mom and we've really argued ever since. Just remember that horses ARE really expensive and cause injuries, but to those who love horses it's worth it. To those who don't it makes no sense.. Maybe start out by asking why they are so hesitant about you getting a horse. My mom said no because she was afraid of them.. My dad said no because he thought they were too expensive..

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If you need to talk to them about something important my advice is to do it in a car. Its the best place to talk about subjects because there are no distractions (on the highway), and its non confrontational, and they can really hear what you are saying, and they can't walk away.

Although if you're just talking about horses for the sake of them... well its not good. I know you probably love horses and that means you always just want to talk about them but you have to realise not everyone feels that way. They don't care about it at all. The more you talk about it the more annoyed the people around you will get and they'll grow to dislike horses, and maybe even dislike you.

Talk about horses to horse friends. Find topics in common to talk to others. Unless there is something in particular you want your parents to do then just don't talk about horses. Then they won't get bored or annoyed and when you do have something important to say about horses they'll listen.
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post #6 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 09:02 AM
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My dad does that. Right when I start talking he says "is this about horses again?" or "what do you want now?". Then when I talk to my mom about them she just knida sits there and acts like shes listening.

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My family is into ball sports. Football, baseball, basketball, but especially football. They talk about football all the stinkin' time. Drives me nuts. I hate football.

I'm the only person in the family who has horses. I could talk for hours about my horses, but my family finds those conversations as boring and nonsensical as I do theirs about football.

So you know what? I don't talk to nonhorsey people about horses. I talk to people who have the same interests instead.

For someone not into horses, talking about them is boring.

It's not your family's fault they don't like horses, and the topic isn't interesting to them when you gush on and on.

As I said, find someone with your own interests to talk horses. Everyone will be much happier.
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post #8 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 12:07 PM Thread Starter
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[QUOTE=Saskia;691806]If you need to talk to them about something important my advice is to do it in a car. Its the best place to talk about subjects because there are no distractions (on the highway), and its non confrontational, and they can really hear what you are saying, and they can't walk away.


Ive learned that haha. It does work.. better than other places

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post #9 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 12:21 PM
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Well, just think of it this way....the way YOU feel about them talking about cars is exactly how THEY feel when you talk about horses. Try to put yourself in their shoes...you roll your eyes at the cars, they roll theirs at horses...pretty much the same circumstance just reversed.
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I was the only one, too! Once my Aunt moved away (and took her horses with her) the arguments started brewing.. And really never stopped! Don't let it come between you and your parents.. I know that sounds hard, but it came between me and my mom and we've really argued ever since. Just remember that horses ARE really expensive and cause injuries, but to those who love horses it's worth it. To those who don't it makes no sense.. Maybe start out by asking why they are so hesitant about you getting a horse. My mom said no because she was afraid of them.. My dad said no because he thought they were too expensive..

Ive asked them, and they something along these lines...
" Its not that i dont want you to have a horse.. its just a lot of money"
" When woulod you have time"
" it will distract you from school"
and on and on..
none of those are true, well the first one is true , but id help pay, honostly i would i already have a part of it saved.. and they both have good jobs and my sister does lacrosse and is starting gymnastics and snowboarding, which are expensive sports, expecially when they get into competitions. Then all i do is run.. on foot, and its the most boring sport ive ever done

Okay quote two- I have a bunch of time! in the sumemr i could like sleep at the barn every night and ride all day i have so much time! while my parents are working im at home with my 10 year old and her babysitter.. My sister and her babysitter go dumb places.. like putt putt golfing or to a G movie, so i decide to sit at home, but if i had a horse my sisters babysitter could just take me to the barn! During school.. I really dont have much homework except for studing and the home work and studying i could do at the barn before i ride, I only have cross country in the fall.. Which goes until 4:30 after school and i would STILL have plenty of time to go to the barn, the meets may cut my riding days down a little but it would only be for a month or two.

Okay.. quote three- It would not distract me from school, When i rode reguarlly in 3rd- 5th grade my grades went up.. My grades are alreadyy good and theresz no way with a horse they could go anything but up.. Ive also offered for me to get a job but no again it would distract me from school, so i think thats there biggest concern...

I guess ill just stopp talking horses to them.. well at least less frequently, but i have to keep bugging my mom this week because she said i could get new riding boots when we were at south dakota this week (: and so far im bootsless

So thanks everyone!

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