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post #11 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 12:48 PM
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Horses are a lot of money. They cost much more than you in your teenage imaginings can ever conceive.

Their initial cost is nothing compared to what they cost over the course of a year, and that's just feed and routine maintenance.

What if something happened that resulted in a massive vet bill? Your piddly little savings aren't going to cover something like that.

Horses are a massive commitment in terms of money and time, and it's unfair to ask someone else to foot the bill, especially if it's not something they deem a useful expenditure.

What do your parents having good jobs have to do with you wanting a horse? It's their money to spend as they see fit, not yours.

If you're being allowed to ride/take lessons, be grateful! There are many, many young people out there who would love to be in your shoes right now, and yet you're whingeing because your parents won't cough up the dough to buy you a horse. Give me a break. :roll:
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post #12 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 02:12 PM Thread Starter
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Horses are a lot of money. They cost much more than you in your teenage imaginings can ever conceive.

Their initial cost is nothing compared to what they cost over the course of a year, and that's just feed and routine maintenance.

What if something happened that resulted in a massive vet bill? Your piddly little savings aren't going to cover something like that.

Horses are a massive commitment in terms of money and time, and it's unfair to ask someone else to foot the bill, especially if it's not something they deem a useful expenditure.

What do your parents having good jobs have to do with you wanting a horse? It's their money to spend as they see fit, not yours.

If you're being allowed to ride/take lessons, be grateful! There are many, many young people out there who would love to be in your shoes right now, and yet you're whingeing because your parents won't cough up the dough to buy you a horse. Give me a break. :roll:
OKay i knoow BUYING a horse is going to take a while but hey its my dream, but i cant even take lessons!! i only get to ride when my friend sage invites me over!! Im not going to invite myself over so its not a ton, all im saying is they dont get how much i need to ride, which is more than once every 10 days

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post #13 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 06:34 PM
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Many adults & kids have had to let go of their horses due to the economy, so that's even harder emotionally than not being able to buy one, because they had to let go of the relationships, as well as their horse-related goals/dreams. Perhaps this fact'll help you to count your blessings; plus, you must remember that everything happens for a reason. Just rest in that understanding & enjoy the good things in your life.
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post #14 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 07:01 PM
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You can always talk about horses to me, I'll listen!

I know it's frustrating....I can sympathise but not really empathise as my parents raised me on our little horse farmette and were just as into the horses as I am. Just know that for your parents, it's like me bringing a stack of car magazines to your place and saying "forget about the horses for today, let's read up on the pros and cons of diesel used in Fords!!" Lol doesn't that sound boring? It's like that for them, though I'd be willing to bet most of their reluctance to talk about horses is derived from them not wanting to have to cart your butt home every day from my place after hours of riding!! Bahahaha!

BTW, invite yourself over whenever you please--I'm bored to death most days in summer lol

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post #15 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 07:08 PM
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You dont like talking about cars... they dont like talking abou horses... it goes both ways :) do YOU listen when they talk about their interests?

Luckily my mom loves riding too, sowe talk a lot. but my poor dad, listens to something he knows nothing about!

Why dont you talk to them about it, tell them that you feel ignored.

BTW isnt your dad getting you a horse....??? when you move out to a 10 acre farm??? thats pretty dang good!

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post #16 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 07:10 PM
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You dont like talking about cars... they dont like talking abou horses... it goes both ways :) do YOU listen when they talk about their interests?

Luckily my mom loves riding too, sowe talk a lot. but my poor dad, listens to something he knows nothing about!

Why dont you talk to them about it, tell them that you feel ignored.

BTW isnt your dad getting you a horse....??? when you move out to a 10 acre farm??? thats pretty dang good!
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oh, DARN! wow, my memory is failing me at a young age............ LOL

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post #18 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 07:18 PM
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oh, DARN! wow, my memory is failing me at a young age............ LOL
Lol we all have those moments. I remember reading that post a few days ago too
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post #19 of 28 Old 07-15-2010, 11:07 PM Thread Starter
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haha! i was gonna say.. but that would be a nice suprise! haha i wishh, and oh sage.. i will haha, but first YOU need to find your phone!!!!! i just feel bad like saying hey wanna have me over to go riding this day and that day (:, but at least i got boots today! So i have an excuse for my mother " i didnt use my money on these boots for nothing!" haha

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Ive asked them, and they something along these lines...
" Its not that i dont want you to have a horse.. its just a lot of money"
" When woulod you have time"
" it will distract you from school"
and on and on..
none of those are true, well the first one is true , but id help pay, honostly i would i already have a part of it saved.. and they both have good jobs and my sister does lacrosse and is starting gymnastics and snowboarding, which are expensive sports, expecially when they get into competitions. Then all i do is run.. on foot, and its the most boring sport ive ever done

Okay quote two- I have a bunch of time! in the sumemr i could like sleep at the barn every night and ride all day i have so much time! while my parents are working im at home with my 10 year old and her babysitter.. My sister and her babysitter go dumb places.. like putt putt golfing or to a G movie, so i decide to sit at home, but if i had a horse my sisters babysitter could just take me to the barn! During school.. I really dont have much homework except for studing and the home work and studying i could do at the barn before i ride, I only have cross country in the fall.. Which goes until 4:30 after school and i would STILL have plenty of time to go to the barn, the meets may cut my riding days down a little but it would only be for a month or two.

Okay.. quote three- It would not distract me from school, When i rode reguarlly in 3rd- 5th grade my grades went up.. My grades are alreadyy good and theresz no way with a horse they could go anything but up.. Ive also offered for me to get a job but no again it would distract me from school, so i think thats there biggest concern...

I guess ill just stopp talking horses to them.. well at least less frequently, but i have to keep bugging my mom this week because she said i could get new riding boots when we were at south dakota this week (: and so far im bootsless

So thanks everyone!
I think you're getting a bit into it. Think logically. If you don't own a barn you can't just sleep there. There is duty of care that both your parents, and possibly the barn owners will have because you are a minor. Secondly horses are dangerous. I figure that because you don't baby sit your own sister you're probably under 16? I would not just let my U16 go out and ride alone! Its not just getting a horse and dumping you there, its getting a horse and driving you there and watching you ride and taking you to competitions and taking time of work for the farrier and the vet and the dentist and going out to feed it if you're sick or away on school excursions.

You're delusional if you think its not going to distract from school. Either you and your family forks out more than some families pay in rent for full board where you have no responsibility or you do it yourself. If you do it yourself, feeding, travelling etc. morning and night that can easily be 4 hours of your day that you "lose". That is 1/6 of your day gone that you can't use for study. No offence, but do you even get grades in year 3 - 5? I didn't think there was even homework...If you are contributing as much as you say, full board will just mean you have to work more.

It doesn't matter how expensive those sports are, horses will cost more. Your sisters hobbies require no time from your parents or responsibility. She is in the care of others when she does stuff, and if she gets sick, or goes on holidays or is really busy studying she can easily skip a week. You can't skip a day with horses.

Ask for lessons, find an affordable riding school maybe on a bus route from your school or house and try and get lessons. Then get two lessons a week, and then three and then maybe they'll start looking at getting a horse.

Sorry - its super long and you probably don't care but I just wanted to explain to you my view because it seems that your lack of horse riding is making you unhappy, and your parents are being blamed for this. I wanted to show you the flaws in the argument so a) you can fix them and b) you can understand why your parents don't want this. Unhappiness leads to anger and anger leads to hate and hate leads to astranged parents and you don't want that.
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