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post #21 of 28 Old 07-16-2010, 12:13 AM
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Saskia--she would board him at my place, come over to do half the feeding and half the stall cleaning. We're 13, so we can ride together on trail and such. I worked out the cost of board, farrier, regular vet visits, tack, feed, shavings, hay, etc, and gave her the numbers, and she has to come up with the money to pay for a year of that before her parents will take over the costs.
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post #22 of 28 Old 07-16-2010, 12:23 AM
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I know how it is. My family isn't horsey either and I didn't get my first horse till I turned 18. I have a job and can pay for her myself. Before that I just learned all I could about them and spent time with other people's horses.

I have gotten my mom interested in horses a bit though. She really likes Berdi and thinks she is very sweet and gentle. I've even got her riding a bit and sometimes we'll hop on double and ride around the field. However I know that it isn't something my family is hugely into so I don't talk about her non-stop.
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post #23 of 28 Old 07-16-2010, 08:50 AM
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Saskia--she would board him at my place, come over to do half the feeding and half the stall cleaning. We're 13, so we can ride together on trail and such. I worked out the cost of board, farrier, regular vet visits, tack, feed, shavings, hay, etc, and gave her the numbers, and she has to come up with the money to pay for a year of that before her parents will take over the costs.
This sounds like a great plan.

Not to rain on your parade but I think they need to plan on paying for 'real' board some where else as a back up plan.

People, horse people even more so, are notorious for suddenly not getting along anymore. Add being a teen age girl to that and it is more likely than not at some point there will be an issue.

It would be foolish for them to buy a horse and expect the fees to only ever be the discounted rate of boarding with a friend.
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post #24 of 28 Old 07-16-2010, 03:32 PM
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True! So many people have no idea what it will actually cost to own a horse for a year. If they did, there would not be so many horses at rescue faciliites right now.
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post #25 of 28 Old 07-16-2010, 04:56 PM
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So true

My dad did riding when he was younger, but he only cares about the riding, not much about the care of them (one of those people who jumped on a horses back while it was grazing)

So I try to avoid the subject all together unless it's after a riding lesson.

Also all my friends except 3 don't ride horses and one of my friends hates them and isn't scared to express it.
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post #26 of 28 Old 07-16-2010, 07:10 PM Thread Starter
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I think you're getting a bit into it. Think logically. If you don't own a barn you can't just sleep there. There is duty of care that both your parents, and possibly the barn owners will have because you are a minor. Secondly horses are dangerous. I figure that because you don't baby sit your own sister you're probably under 16? I would not just let my U16 go out and ride alone! Its not just getting a horse and dumping you there, its getting a horse and driving you there and watching you ride and taking you to competitions and taking time of work for the farrier and the vet and the dentist and going out to feed it if you're sick or away on school excursions.

You're delusional if you think its not going to distract from school. Either you and your family forks out more than some families pay in rent for full board where you have no responsibility or you do it yourself. If you do it yourself, feeding, travelling etc. morning and night that can easily be 4 hours of your day that you "lose". That is 1/6 of your day gone that you can't use for study. No offence, but do you even get grades in year 3 - 5? I didn't think there was even homework...If you are contributing as much as you say, full board will just mean you have to work more.

It doesn't matter how expensive those sports are, horses will cost more. Your sisters hobbies require no time from your parents or responsibility. She is in the care of others when she does stuff, and if she gets sick, or goes on holidays or is really busy studying she can easily skip a week. You can't skip a day with horses.

Ask for lessons, find an affordable riding school maybe on a bus route from your school or house and try and get lessons. Then get two lessons a week, and then three and then maybe they'll start looking at getting a horse.

Sorry - its super long and you probably don't care but I just wanted to explain to you my view because it seems that your lack of horse riding is making you unhappy, and your parents are being blamed for this. I wanted to show you the flaws in the argument so a) you can fix them and b) you can understand why your parents don't want this. Unhappiness leads to anger and anger leads to hate and hate leads to astranged parents and you don't want that.


about " are there even grades in - grade" well you have a point, not really, well inth grade we started getyting letter grades, but now in middle school, you can say they made my grades go down until you try.. but they wouldnt.. lessons would be nice, i could ask for them... but it seems like i feel more comfertable riding at my friends house, when i took riding lessons in elementary i was hesitant to canter, i did want to jump but i felt uncontrolled at the canter.. but now at sages house im like alright! lets go canter and jump three foot! haha so maybe both would be a good combo

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post #27 of 28 Old 07-16-2010, 07:17 PM Thread Starter
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.. my moms kind of getting it now, i didnt even have to drag her into the tack shop to get me boots, and she offered to pay for half of my boots, and we're here in south dakota with almost all of my family and my famly always asks me about horses and she gets involved with it. But she likes me running, which i dont mind but the more she forces me to go run the more i hate it, i get it , she doesnt want me to become univovled in school, but when we bought the boots she said i better be riding a lot and muckin out stalls even more, so im gradually having her understand.. but its so hard to explain what i like about horseback riding, i never know what to say when someone asks(: because there are horsepeople. and thats all im gnna say (:
( haha sorry i got a bit off topic towards the end)

Also if i did end up getting a horse in the next couple years equiniphiles house would be my boarding place, i dont know what you mean by a REAL place.. Our parents have talked a little about it, theyre friends.. there are many boarding stables where i live but i prefer to have it at my best friends house where i can go ride whenever with out other people bugging me (: haha

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post #28 of 28 Old 07-17-2010, 03:00 PM
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my mom is not into horses therefore i get her "listening" but really zoning out lol..my boyfriend on the other hand gets an earful hehe
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