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post #1 of 4 Old 09-10-2013, 08:41 AM Thread Starter
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When you push it a bit too far..

Ever have that moment when you ask a hair too much of your horse and then get frustrated when they can't comply... And then feel ashamed later on for getting mad at something that was never their fault? I'm having one of those moments. I haven't goofed up like that for years because I try really hard to be very in tune with what my horse is and isn't [physically and emotionally] ready to achieve.

I guess it was just our off day.

Side note- I do know what I am doing, know how to ride and know it was my fault for not reading my horse and his abilities prior, but we are humans and nowhere near to perfect, so yes I messed up. I just had to vent about it.

I also see it as a blessing as it shows us how much more we can learn with our horses.
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YES! And I guess it's just one of the ways how we learn... I pushed my lovely gelding just yesterday and got frustrated. Have been thinking that over and feeling very guilty since then. I hope to learn one day to contain my emotions so that they don't come in the way like that, until that - getting better with it every time. What is more, these situations teach me humility. I always come to the conclusion how the horse was right and smarter than me from the second I started getting frustrated. Just have to breathe deep and remember that before a next time comes.

I have come a long way, to surrender my shadow to the shadow of my horse.
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It does happen occasionally...after all, when riding we talk to our horses with our body and at times the communication signals just aren't there. If I get to a point where it just isn't working and we are both getting antsy, I go back to a simple basic...I do a long walk on a loose rein to get the horse to stretch down and out, always keeping him marching and not just rambling. I do that for a minute or two and then pick the reins back up, do an exercise in which he excels, and enjoys at whichever gait and then stop for the day.

Always, always end a session on a good note even if it is only working on neck flexions at the standstill. I also always loosen up the girth and give a good forehead rub before leaving the arena.
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That's exactly what we ended up doing so that it didn't end badly. But tomorrow's another day. Just had to vent a bit, thanks for the words of encouragement :)

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. -Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
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