So I have owned my horse since 2006. I bought her from a friend as a 1.5 year old who had never been ridden. I was in my twenties and struggling with infertility. I had horses when I was younger and never had confidence issues but as an adult I have struggled with this. I had my horse professionally trained for a total of three months. I rode her pretty consistently, I even built a small arena and bought a round pen. In 2012 I had a foster child who stayed for about 4 months and then in 2013 I finally found out I was pregnant. Fast forward to now and I have a wonderful horse who has not been ridden in eight years. I want to get back in the saddle and my six year old daughter who is taking riding lessons wants to ride too.
My struggle now is that I am not sure I have the confidence to restart my horse. Should I take her to a trainer for a month? Should I buy a round pen (sold mine like a dummy) and use Downunder Horsemanship methods to get back on track? I really don't want to sell my horse, she was there for me in a time when I desperately needed her. Thanks in advance for your advice!
In that time off you've had to have handled her and know better than any of us what she is like to be around. Also she was trained and you could ride her in the past, I assume with little or no issues.
Since you are starting with a horse you know very well, have ridden, and hopefully is not a "troubled horse", I think DIY training with a step by step instructions from DUH (really the only one that actually has this) is entirely reasonable, will be successful and of course is the most affordable.
If you DIY then I highly recommend DUH and follow the program step by step exactly and be strict with yourself about staying off youtube and other horse training videos/opinions and advice until you are all the way through the Intermediate program which will produce a solid and safe and rideable horse for general riding. The youtube channel and RFDTV episodes are not the training program, they are commercials for the training program. If you want to do DUH, get the subscription and do the steps exactly in the order they are given because it is as clear and black and white as this gets.
It isn't that those other videos, opinions and advice aren't valid, they are. There are about 800 and something ways to do anything with horse training; you can pick and choose and do that afterwards and make the training your own once you have a good horse you trained yourself.
But before you start think about the time you have for training. With any training program the horse needs about an hour of your time per day 5-6 days a week to make good progress. If you can only commit to training one or two days a week it could work with some horses but will take a very long time to make progress. In the case of simply not having the time it takes I recommend a trainer with a good reputation in your area. Good luck!