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post #1 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 12:12 PM Thread Starter
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Why does everyone assume you have NOTHING better to do with your time..

No shows! Do I look like I have nothing better to do?

Some of you know, I've done a lot of horse rescues. Get them into better shape & then I work on the basics (ground manners, coming when called, standing tied and cross tied, clipping, bathing, trailering, farrier - basic arena work and creating a solid trail horse) This has led to the re-homeing/sale of many horses over the years and inevitably dealing with people.

More recently, due to our personal reasons and my health we've decided to cut back on our own and not take in any "needy horses" this year. Some have been sold, some were/are offered free to the perfect homes.

People will call or e-mail to set up an appointment to meet said horse. Most are the over eager "Don't sell the horse before I get there!!!" types. I will say not once, but twice, "HERE is my phone number. CALL ME if you are running late or cannot make it, Please!" And I can tell you in all my years... that has never happened. The scheduled time comes and goes. I've taken a chunk of my rather busy day to wait with a ready to be looked at horse. Isn't it just common courtesy? Call if you cannot make it. Nearly everyone confirms the night before. What happens in the over night hours? I had GOOD mind to write wordy e-mails back to the no show folks but I'm sure it would fall on deaf ears and some how "I" would be the ***.

Last week, in fact, I had a lady call to ask if we had any room for boarding. I told her yes and she wanted to set up a time that evening. I told her if I had to be back from our plans in town, we could do so by 8PM. She was over joyed. I told her to call if ANYTHING changes. We head home, wait around, at 9PM I call her. Try again at 10. No answer. No returned call. No e-mail.

This morning was a new one. I was chewed out via e-mail by a girl who said she'd like to come see a horse but cannot making it until Aug 10th. I said we can plan and if the mare is gone I'll let her know. Her response was "Well you can just forget it! I'm NOT getting my hopes up so you can just go sell her to someone else." Seriously? Maybe I should just hold a horse you've never met, for free, for two weeks so that you can not show up along with the rest of the horse-world.

Is it just me?!
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post #2 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 12:20 PM
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Nope, it's not you it's THEM.

Crazy abounds when it comes to buying as well as selling. I was GIVING AWAY a horse for a friend, and oh my the loonies that came out of the woodwork!

One lady set a time to come see the mare, but I told her someone else was coming earlier than she was, and I wouldn't make a decision until both of them had seen the horse.

Well, the first lady was great and the mare loved her, but of course she knew the other woman was scheduled to come out and see the horse, so was very content to wait and see what happened.

The second woman's time came and went with a no show, and so I called the first lady and told her to come get the horse. She was happy, the horse was happy, and I was happy.

Second woman called THE NEXT DAY, wanting to reschedule. I said sorry, horse went home with the first woman, since she couldn't bother to pick up the phone the day before. Good heavens, this crazy read me the riot act about how she was sooo disappointed, and God was going to punish me for giving away HER HORSE! Nutbag.

I hung up on her after telling her, "No, God would only have punished me if I'd given the horse to an insane beech like you!"

All of this happened well after I'd scheduled numerous people who never even bothered to show up, and just dropped off the face of the earth. So yeah, it's not you it's them.

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post #3 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 12:39 PM
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It's not specific to horse people either but the market. People chasing after free things have a fairly high rate of no-showing. No idea why. When I was moving to a new state some years ago I had an easier time SELLING things on craigslist and other public means than I did giving stuff away for free. I had a very hard time getting people to actually show up to pick up free stuff than I did getting people to show up with cash in hand. Go figure.
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post #4 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 12:40 PM Thread Starter
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Its just insanity. I wont even go into detail on some of the response to ads that I don't bother with all together. Or after chatting with the person I decide it isn't in my horses best interest to even set up a time. So the SAD thing is that these no-shows are people who have made it threw my initial screening...
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post #5 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 01:09 PM
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Ive noticed it too actually when i was selling my arabian mare ( basically giving het away due to her ending up to need way more retraining then i knew how to give at the time ) i had a guy whos brother was interested in the mare ,but didn't want to make time to come see her, want to buy and have her shipped for him and when i refused to do that as it seemed fishy he started cursing me out and being straight rude.
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post #6 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 01:25 PM
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I agree there are lots of people like that, but there could be also certain circumstances.

Years ago I set up couple appointments to go and look at the horses I was interested in (my 1st horse search and all). However day before the appointment I was told my department will be closing very soon, and I have to look for the new job. Clearly horses were NOT on my mind anymore at that time (plus financially I wouldn't be able to afford one). I let sellers know about the situation ASAP, but from what I remember at least one was not happy at all.

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post #7 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 01:30 PM
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I dont make apointments or change my schedule when I am selling something. To many ruined/wasted weekends. I just say give me a call or text an hour or so before you get here to make sure I am home. Also I wouldnt ever hold anything for anyone without cash in hand. Money talks, BS walks.
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post #8 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 01:46 PM
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My father, a minister of a large congregation, was a very busy man and evenings were often not family time. He was a stickler for appointments. If he could be on time for appointments, so could everyone else. If you're late he wouldn't see you. Sometimes people came to the house and he'd be out the back door leaving my mother to tell them he had to leave as he had an appointment elsewhere. I do the same.

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post #9 of 9 Old 07-30-2012, 01:52 PM
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some people are crazy to say the least

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