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post #11 of 17 Old 06-13-2013, 04:48 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Speed Racer View Post
Yes, the OP did very much imply that she wanted her aunt to 'not be afraid' of the horse, and stated that she thinks selling the horse on is a bad idea. How could you have read the same thing wetrain and I did, and NOT get that from her post?

The OP personally likes the horse, so wants it to stay. You can't make someone like horses if they've always been afraid of them, and the aunt and the horse in question already have bad history.
I could have been more clear in asking what I wanted. What I was trying to get out of that is if there is any way to help ease her fear of him long enough to help them have a positive experience for once? She isn't afraid of the new horse so I don't actually think she's afraid of the species as a whole.
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post #12 of 17 Old 06-13-2013, 08:00 PM
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She also implied (actually, she outright stated) that she's already aware there's nothing she can do about it if her aunt decides to sell, and was asking a separate question. So why not try to help with the topic at hand?
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post #13 of 17 Old 06-17-2013, 09:37 PM
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Some horses just do not click with some people. It cannot be explained because they cannot express what sets them off about the individual.

Maybe it's her handling, her attitude, etc.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
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post #14 of 17 Old 06-17-2013, 10:11 PM
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There are two kinds of people when it comes to horses: horse lovers & the other kind.

If your aunt is a horse lover, she'll know that it's never, ever the horse's fault. (Her accusing the horse of being dangerous is a clue that she's not a horse lover, especially in light of the fact that you get along fine with the horse.)

If she's a horse lover, she'll take on this horse as a challenge to her savvy & at least learn to get along with it in leading it from point A to point B.

The horse absolutely senses her fear, which tells him that he must take charge of her, since she's too scared to be the leader. (In horseville, SOMEone has to lead - equal division of power doesn't work).

If she cares, she will gain the skills & confidence to be his leader, because she acknowledges that he's not at fault. She'll do that by developing herself with easier horses, getting a mentor, getting a home study course like Parelli Levels, which go into adult learning & fear issues, or some combination thereof.

I suggest that you present her gaining some savvy in a positive light, because it really IS positive to overcome your fears & enjoy a horse rather than blame it & send it down the road. You can tell her that fear is normal, no shame in the brain trying to keep one alive, but that it's a real high to gain the skills to move past fear.

If she's uninterested in developing any capacity with the horse, I suggest that you try & get her to admit that the horse isn't dangerous, but that she simply doesn't want to gain the savvy. Then the blame game on the horse will be finished.

Hope you get to keep him!
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post #15 of 17 Old 06-18-2013, 04:10 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you so much!
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post #16 of 17 Old 06-18-2013, 06:41 AM
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My horses were good about having their feet done except for one particular person. Like others, he treated them well yet the horses picked up on something-nervous or negative energy, I don't know. It's unfortunate your aunt missed the warning signs that the horse was going to bite. The horse is testing her to see what he can get away with. Perhaps if you could convince her to think soldier, how they walk so straight, shoulders back. This causes a horse to pay attention. If I do this and glare at my horse as I approach, he backs away. When I relax this stance he does also.

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post #17 of 17 Old 06-18-2013, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted by Saddlebag View Post
It's unfortunate your aunt missed the warning signs that the horse was going to bite.
Actually there are horses that bite or kick with no warning. I've seen a horse bite with ears forward looking as perky as all get out. They think it's a game.
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fear , help needed!

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