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post #1 of 7 Old 12-24-2010, 01:10 AM Thread Starter
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Would you say something?

So I was advertising to give barrel racing and pole bending lessons, and girl emailed me about them and asked for pics and videos i sent them. We talked some and she told me she was interested but wouldn't have time until after her finals. Well her finals are over, and I still never recieved a call. She's a very beginer rider and to be blunt has no clue what she's doing. She pulls back on the reins and kicks at the same time, her horse doesn't know the barrels, I've seen her at a few shows. But anyway she's friends with this girl who hates me. I've never really talked to the girl that hates me, I'm always nice when she does talk to me. She ruined it when she gave me the dirtiest look after I outran her time in barrels. I know she talks crap about everyone, and I'm pretty sure she told this girl something. The girl that hates me doesn't know me, she knows nothing about me. But anyway the girl that was supposed to come for lessons has been coming out and riding this past week at my barn, once with the other girl and once today alone (I was leaving for someplace when she got here) but she told me last time she didn't have time. I know that other girl told her something.
But I don't know what to do, either go up to her and say something like "hey I don't know why your not taking lessons from me but have time to come out and ride anyway, but if Blah said something about me, don't believe she doesn't even know me"
just let her see me ride out here, she knows I win at shows, I'm starting a 3 yr old on barrels right now. within 1 week of just now cantering barrels (we trotted them for a month) he's doing better than her horses.

It's just really bothering me, I don't like people talking crap about me just because I'm better at something I've been doing my whole life and she's never bothered to listen to any advice given, running off people that need help.
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post #2 of 7 Old 12-24-2010, 01:14 AM
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You have no proof anything was said to this girl, so you shouldn't approach her about it. Maybe she's low on cash or time and cannot commit to lessons just yet or has changed her mind. Either way, speaking to her is starting drama that will reflect poorly on you as an instructor and person.
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post #3 of 7 Old 12-24-2010, 01:17 AM
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If you are giving lessons, you need to be professional about it. Don't soil your reputation by getting into drama or make assumptions.
If she doesn't call you back, she doesn't. It wouldn't be the first time it's happened.
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post #4 of 7 Old 12-24-2010, 11:07 AM
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I agree with other posters.

Teaching riding is a job, you are offering a service. If you went to a saddle store, looked around and asked questions about a saddle, but then bought a saddle elsewhere, how would you react if the first store approached you about it when you're off doing something?

Let it go and move on. People are allowed to dislike you.
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post #5 of 7 Old 12-24-2010, 12:24 PM
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First of all, the situations can be different. I canceled lessons in past for various reasons. Plus it's holiday season and the person indeed may not have time. All I gonna say don't think it was canceled because of you or because something was said. Be above it. Be professional!

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post #6 of 7 Old 12-24-2010, 12:27 PM
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Spastic has a good point. You will have clients come to you and seem very interested and then never come back and take lessons. Heck Ive done it, not to be mean to the instructor but because I just decided I could do the lessons. You will have more people do this in the long run. You need to learn early that it is not something you should let bother you.
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post #7 of 7 Old 12-24-2010, 12:52 PM
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Give it some more time, maybe casually mention, "hey, are you still interested in taking lessons?" But don't push it. If she avoids the question, leave it at that. Don't be pushy about it.
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