"You've never ridden a broke horse" [boss rant] - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 12:01 AM Thread Starter
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"You've never ridden a broke horse" [boss rant]

Ughhh.

I swear to god, my job becomes more unbearable every day.

Look, I can stand the homophobic rants. I can stand the lack of sense of humor. I can stand the heat and the dirt and the old fashioned cowboy methods that I wouldn't use on my old horses.

But honestly? I'm already getting on my last leg.

I literally get up every morning and dread going to the barn here, because I never know if it's gonna be good or bad. I don't know if my boss is gonna be mad at me again or happy with me. And it just feels like I'm failing his "standards".

He keeps making comments like, "Now I know you've never ridden real nice broke horses..." and "I know you've never learned anything". Really, really frustrating.

I know he doesn't get along with my trainer, who i miss so dearly, but that's no reason to tell me I don't know a damned thing. An admittedly, I could show it better, I'm just so scared he's gonna jump down my throat if I take the initiative and do what I know because I know he dislikes the way I've learned up to this point. Yet here I am, still working for him.

For the record, I have ridden nice broke horses. MY mare is a NICE, BROKE horse. She's up in the bridle, does everything, shows well, kid safe, all the buttons and body parts are loosened up on her and she's effortless. He put me on one of his finished horses so I could "feel" the way the colts need to get, and I swear to god it was like I was sitting on my own horse. They were just the same, training level wise. Only difference was that horse stops a little bit harder...um, duh. Selena is never going to be a dynamic stopper. But she sure as hell will put her butt in the ground should I ask.

I'm just really frustrated. One minute he's great, the next minute he makes it hell. He asked me today, "Can you do this? Train these colts?" and I told him yes I could. Later on, he made a comment that I didn't know how to ride a colt....I've ridden almost nothing but solid colts for the past two years, with great results, it's just that I'm too damned scared of ****ing him off that I freeze up instead of reacting and fixing problems.

I told him straight out that I would do whatever he wanted with his horses, but my main focus is barrel racing. Ever since then, he's treated me like a speed demon with no horsemanship skills. He's done nothing but talk bad about barrel racing and talks about how it "ruins a rider" or "ruins the horse." I tell him repetitively that's not true, it's just a stereotype, but does he listen to me? Of course not...I'm just a young girl with no riding ability whatsoever.

I know it's partially me and my fear, but he just makes me so uncomfortable and stressed out...

end of rant :/

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #2 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 12:06 AM Thread Starter
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Now I am not sensitive by any means, as most of you know, but I'm just sitting here thinking about some of the things he's said (Everything, not just about the broke horses) and I'm just in tears. I'm wondering how long I can tough this out, and if it's going to get better or if it's just gonna get worse until the final straw is gone?

I mean, I have to tough it out for now. I desperately need the money...but, later maybe I can find something else...

What do you guys think?

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #3 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 12:11 AM
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Awe I am sorry you are going though this

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post #4 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 12:16 AM
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Id quit. jobhunt now, put in your notice as soon as someone hires you....
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post #5 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 12:27 AM
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Look for another job AND try to glean everything you can that is worthwhile from this yay-hoo.

Most of us in the industry have horror stories. Mine was with a cheap outfit full of igmoes after I messed up at a good outfit.

I walked away knowing more about lameness in a few months than I ever would have learned at a good outfit in a couple years. In fact, I know people who are serious about being the best, who purposely seek out nasty trainers to work under just to find out what the nasty folks know and how on earth they stay in business. Even if you learn "what not to ever do" you have learned something!

Someday you may have a "real sweet" horse, doing great, with a completely offensive owner and you will know you can get through it and keep the lights on at your barn because of this experience.

If the guy is wholly whackadoodle, just kind of picture him in the window of a hospital. Honestly I have done this. I just imagine them as sick/ill and it gives me a bit more tolerance. Goodness knows how or why some develop the attitudes they do! But it ain't right! lol
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Sucks when he's the one who signs your paycheck.
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What happens if you just.. close your eyes and ride the horse without being scared of ****ing them off?

I know the feeling... I am that way with riding. I am a little china tea set on any horse other than mine.. because I don't wish to upset the owner/instructor.

But yeah it does sound like he's killing your confidence in your own abilities. Girl you can rock it.
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post #8 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 01:17 AM Thread Starter
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Barely even worth the paycheck...As it turns out I might be good with problem horses and barrel horses, but I was too young when we were still doing cow horses to remember all this stuff. Maybe if it was just reining horses this would be better. He tells me I've "ridden too many reiners and barrel horses" which is why I can't grasp the cow horse stuff. I don't even understand what he means by that, and he won't explain it.

Seems like all I do is bitch these days! LOL

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #9 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 01:21 AM Thread Starter
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What happens if you just.. close your eyes and ride the horse without being scared of ****ing them off?

I know the feeling... I am that way with riding. I am a little china tea set on any horse other than mine.. because I don't wish to upset the owner/instructor.

But yeah it does sound like he's killing your confidence in your own abilities. Girl you can rock it.
Thanks girly, I'm gonna call my old trainer tomorrow and see if she needs any help. It's a longer drive but I'm pretty miserable without her and everyone at the barn right now. Even if it's a couple extra dollars in gas, at least I won't be miserable.

Tomorrow I decided I'm just gonna bite the bullet and do things my way. Just see what the hell happens. What's he gonna do at this point, fire me? Good. Otherwise, I'm still gonna get paid for that ride, and his arm is broken right now so it's not like he has anyone else who can ride for him. He already told me he had eight girls out to ride. And he specifically wants girls...Because this years colts are tinyyyy.

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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I am a firm believer if you are not happy at your job don't stay. It doesn't do any one any good by staying if you are not happy. I know you need the money and are unable to quit, but you can look for a new job now.
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