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post #11 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 02:03 AM
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Bite your tongue, take his money, learn what you can and keep your eyes open for something better and the minute it appears go for it and laugh at him in your rear view window :)

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post #12 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 02:09 AM
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I would be looking for another job! Stick it out till you have something else, but I wouldn't go out of your way to please him.

He only wants to hire girls? Hm that sounds particularly fishy. He should be hiring on ability not on looks.

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post #13 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 02:47 AM Thread Starter
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Becca, he turned down eight girls before me who couldn't ride. Several of them I knew personally. He's a reputable trainer...Like, world level. He has nice horses. It's just the rest of it that's bad. lol

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #14 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 03:10 AM
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You know, on one hand I can sympathize because I am very sensitive to other people's remarks, BUT, I must say, you are lucky to have a job with horses at all!

How many horse crazy young girls would kill for a chance to actually get paid for being around horses? And not even riding.....just being around them!

I was one of those. I would have cleaned manure for free just to be near a horse. I lived in the city and never got that opportunity, but I am honest when I say that is how bad I wanted the opportunity, not even to ride, but just to be near a horse.

So, I understand your frustration BUT count yourself very lucky to have this opportunity.

If I were you I would try to make it into a learning experience as others have suggested. No matter how frustrated you are, it is an amazing opportunity to learn from someone at a high level. A lot of people would love to have that chance.

Step back, take a deep breath, and say "Wow, I am getting paid to ride!!!"

I don't know of anyone who actually gets paid to ride, well, except maybe for the trainer I sent my colt to. I'm sure this guy must have some knowledge to impart.
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post #15 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 05:31 AM
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I have a feeling his trying to insult you is in order to knock your confidence, so that you will do things his way and without thinking about how YOU want them done. For all you know this could be a test to see if you take the reins and stand up to the job.

I understand where you come from, not wanting to **** the boss off, but as it stands IMO you are just treading water. What have you to lose to take control of the situation? You get sacked? By the sounds of it, I don't think you will feel that is the worst thing in the world. This is a good test of you character. He hired you for you, not somebody who is going to roll over and take the beating.

From my own experiences, a lot of horsemen can have a screw or two loose. I've worked in studs, racing stables, riding schools - and the majority of the owners IMO weren't completely where they should be - that's why they have the likes of you to do the work for them.

Whats meant for you won't pass you - but it's up to you to take the situation and turn it in your favour :) Good luck :)
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post #16 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 06:01 AM
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Originally Posted by SorrelHorse View Post
Becca, he turned down eight girls before me who couldn't ride. Several of them I knew personally. He's a reputable trainer...Like, world level. He has nice horses. It's just the rest of it that's bad. lol
Oh well then thats not as bad as I was initially thinking!

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post #17 of 17 Old 07-16-2013, 06:19 AM
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I used to work with a woman (not horses, work place job) who was hot and cold. Had the biggest chip on her shoulder for being black, female and in the army. She would suck her teeth at me, yell at me in front of the soldiers, berate me, call me names.

I wish I had the hindsight to stand up for myself and say something. Now, after she left she got in contact and apologised.

Promised myself I would never put myself in a position where I let someone use me as such a doormat ever again.

You are learning from this guy, he is a reputable trainer. He also saw something in you if he chose you and let the other girls go. My thoughts would be to chew it through with him. Don't go in with bull horns on. Ask him, as your boss, what you can do to improve your riding of the colts. It will hurt like hell, but he may be testing you, and it sounds it to me, to see how far he can push you. Whether it is to push you away or push your riding I don't know.

If this guy is THAT good, I would stick it, but try and patch up the working relationship. I'm not asking you to suck up to him and forget what a hag he has been to you; but if he knows that much, he may be worth sticking around for. Think of the doors it can open for you int he future.

And the nice horses.

I have had some awful.. darn awful trainers. I used to go home sobbing. But I stuck with it. Because out of every tear down this one trainer in particular gave me, I always came away with the knowledge of how to ride different horses, and nice horses at that.

I moved on from him for other reasons that I won't go in to on here... but you're a tough cookie. Hang in there!
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