Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Germany- but not German =D
I used to work with a woman (not horses, work place job) who was hot and cold. Had the biggest chip on her shoulder for being black, female and in the army. She would suck her teeth at me, yell at me in front of the soldiers, berate me, call me names.
I wish I had the hindsight to stand up for myself and say something. Now, after she left she got in contact and apologised.
Promised myself I would never put myself in a position where I let someone use me as such a doormat ever again.
You are learning from this guy, he is a reputable trainer. He also saw something in you if he chose you and let the other girls go. My thoughts would be to chew it through with him. Don't go in with bull horns on. Ask him, as your boss, what you can do to improve your riding of the colts. It will hurt like hell, but he may be testing you, and it sounds it to me, to see how far he can push you. Whether it is to push you away or push your riding I don't know.
If this guy is THAT good, I would stick it, but try and patch up the working relationship. I'm not asking you to suck up to him and forget what a hag he has been to you; but if he knows that much, he may be worth sticking around for. Think of the doors it can open for you int he future.
And the nice horses.
I have had some awful.. darn awful trainers. I used to go home sobbing. But I stuck with it. Because out of every tear down this one trainer in particular gave me, I always came away with the knowledge of how to ride different horses, and nice horses at that.
I moved on from him for other reasons that I won't go in to on here... but you're a tough cookie. Hang in there!