I can relate to a certain extent. I haven't switched trainers, but I do find that my trainer would rather put her time and extra resources in other students who either have more 'promise' or have more money.
There have been certain situations in the past which stuck with me - and maybe I was reading too much into it, but I did feel like I wasn't being treated the same way as some of the others.
Things got better for me for a bit when many of the boarders left; suddenly my trainer had more time for me. But now that she got back some of her old clients I feel like I am put to the bottom of the barrel again.
I don't take it too personally - I still want to learn from her, and will continue to try to book lessons when it works.
I have felt and have been treated similar in some situations, but for me that was few and far between.
guy is very correct that controlling purse strings has a lot of power, and the transition to adulthood is really rough. I graduated two years ago and I'm still tiptoeing along because I grew up almost sheltered. I'm still trying to find my assertiveness..
I absolutely agree with
as well--you will come to stop caring what others have to say about you, and that- to me- is the first step in gaining some ground.
If you think your trainer(s) are treating you different, go to another one. I worked summer camp at my stable and was offered free lessons after camp. I at the time had a two hour bus ride to catch at around 6, so my lesson had to be at 5. My trainer at the time would frequently show up late or not at all even when this was explained. I was very upset, but I decided to do the most responsible thing and switch to someone who was willing to work with me and actually care about my progress. And trust me that is not too easy to find, as you are finding out. Even if you had lots of money, in this sport, someone with even more money will come along and take up your trainers time since based on what you wrote, she seems to gravitate towards a certain crowd. I've barn hopped and trainer hopped looking for some mutual respect. I understand the want for a client with more money, but don't give up- trainers that actually care about you will pop up. I tend to find trainers that teach lessons with everyday lesson horses are very delighted when a talented lessoner comes up, to say nothing of someone who has a young horse to train. Some trainers who are used to teaching owners imo and not lessoners will move on if you can't seem to do something. But this doesn't apply to everyone of course.
But now that she got back some of her old clients I feel like I am put to the bottom of the barrel again.
I don't take it too personally - I still want to learn from her, and will continue to try to book lessons when it works
If the respect isn't there, I'm not sure if I would continue with a trainer like that. It's like training:---you have "taught" your trainer that as long as you book lessons with her, she will simply continue treating you the same. I think you will be happier with someone else.