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post #1 of 16 Old 08-17-2019, 11:34 PM Thread Starter
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How do you if someone is in the wrong sport

As a trainer/ instructor have you ever come to the conclusion that one of your students should just completely give up riding? How do approach that student? I often find myself in a dark space in my mind that my instructors have given up on me, I can hear their breaths at time. A particular problem of mine is leaning forward and I have come close to falling off bc of that bad habit. How can you tell someone should just perhaps look for something else?
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post #2 of 16 Old 08-17-2019, 11:40 PM
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Never! If the person wants to ride, must mean they enjoy it. If they don't improve, it would mean I would have to come up with different exercises to help them to improve. Its all on me as an instructor, to a point, students have to try! I can tell when they try and when they don't.
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Again, I agree with the above.

In many years of teaching I have only ever once told a parent that their child hated riding and was only doing it to please them. This poor lad was terrified and would be physically sick every lesson. (He was about eight)
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^Oh, that sort of thing makes me so sad for the poor kids, trying to live up to unreasonable parental expectations for... what? The parent's own thwarted aspirations? Why do that to a kid? How can they not see??!

Anyway, OP, sounds like this is about you as a rider/learner. Agree with above. If you WANT to ride & you enjoy it, then it's not up to any instructor to tell you to stop. Likewise, if you hate it, why do it & it's not up to any instructor to try to keep you doing it.

And if you want to ride, but are not improving & your instructor cannot seem to help you, then, assuming you've spoken to them, given them a chance to maybe explain or go about stuff differently for you, then it's probably time to find a different instructor. Horse riding is no different from any other subject, that if the learner wants to learn but is not improving, then the teaching is somehow at fault.
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Your instructor has given up on themselves. If, as you say, you have one problem that hinders your progress - think about whether your instructor has given you targeted exercises to tackle that one problem so you can go beyond it, or whether they just yell, "Don't lean forward!" ad nauseam.

Have you, for example, ever walked or trotted on the lunge line with your hands holding your elbows behind your back? If so, how did that feel? Are you able to recreate that feeling with your hands in standard position?
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Do you also ride when you are not taking a lesson? Maybe just getting out on a trail or even a nice relaxed ride around a pasture would help. Breathe, drop your shoulders, loosen your arms, let your legs relax down the horse's sides, sit up.
To me it sounds like you are tense and/or maybe hanging on to the horses mouth for balance. When this happens to me I have to take a deep breath and loosen myself up and then go on.

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If your instructor can't explain how to ride, you won't progress very well. And that is your instructor's fault. A lot of instructors are able to ride, but not really able to TEACH riding, which is quite a different thing. If the place you are at is your only option for riding, then you may need to tune out their bad vibes and concentrate on you & the horse. How Your Horse Wants You to Ride: Starting Out, Starting Over by Gincy Self Bucklin is an excellent book. Outstanding explanations and pictures. Study it, follow its advice, and concentrate on your horse and your body.

Or find a different instructor.
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If your instructor can't explain how to ride, you won't progress very well. And that is your instructor's fault. A lot of instructors are able to ride, but not really able to TEACH riding, which is quite a different thing. If the place you are at is your only option for riding, then you may need to tune out their bad vibes and concentrate on you & the horse. How Your Horse Wants You to Ride: Starting Out, Starting Over by Gincy Self Bucklin is an excellent book. Outstanding explanations and pictures. Study it, follow its advice, and concentrate on your horse and your body.

Or find a different instructor.
I second that book recommendation. I think it could be really useful for you. It definitely helped me a lot.
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The only time anyone is ever in the wrong sport, particularly with equestrianism, is when they are being cruel or neglectful to the horses. Other than that, there is no such thing as not being right for choosing and participating in the horse world. You have a lifetime to learn and improve, so there is no reason to quit trying to better yourself.
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post #10 of 16 Old 08-18-2019, 07:33 PM
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if the learner wants to learn but is not improving, then the teaching is somehow at fault.

^^This needs to be said again.


Not everyone has the capability to be an Olympic level rider, but everyone has the capability of riding. If you enjoy what you're doing, you can improve. Everyone improves at their own pace, however. To use leaning forward as an example, is your posture better than it was one year ago? If it is, then you're improving, but you may want a new instructor to improve faster. If your posture is not better, then you really need a new instructor (or at least a good book).
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