What has the vet said about the nerve damage to the tongue? Is it painful or deadened?
The vet hasnt seen anything wrong other than loads of scar tissue. The injury originally happend 7 years ago.
Are you working with a dressage trainer, or is it an eventing trainer who has to teach you dressage? How does she do in her dressage phase, has she done any pure dressage classes? There is a tenancy among event riders where they only do dressage because it's mandates, not because of the tools and skills it teaches.
Ive tried riding with so many different dressage coaches but majority told me to sell her and buy a different horse and the other ones said stop jumping her and do full time dressage with her.
Why 7 days a week? Even top level horses get a day off. Their body needs recovery time. I'm wondering if you have her too fit and it's working against you. Yes, you need a fit horse to event at prelim. It's much harder to teach relaxation and rhythm if they are constantly against the muscle. Tired is good for that. Also consider that while she may je fir, she might not be strong enough. Btv and rushing are common when the horse isn't strong enough to carry themselves in balance.
I currently work her 6 days, with the optional walk hack on the other day if my body is up to it. I struggle with neuro issues in my spine and hips which most likely isnt ideal for this particular situation so i end up getting tired before she is.
Her dressage work is rushed and short, even when jumping she consistantly gets in too close. It's not much, just a step or so, and she's athletic enough to make it happen.
Thats a me problem. My other horse jumps way better from the shorter distances and has a shorter stride, so when Diva was off for a bit i got used to jumping other horse for a while. This resulted in way different riding on my part. I agree that its not ideal, and im slowly easing other horse into dressage retirement, so ill be jumping Diva full time.
She needs more 'wait' to the fences. Are you able to halt before fences if you wanted to? Approach, halt 3-4 strides out until they wait, then once they start to anticipate the halt, take the fence. She'll probably give a more impressive jump. The poles before and after is good too, but when they are quick on their feet, they can still take it through.
Ive tried this with a few coaches but it resulted either in rearing or a bad distance to the fence because she doesnt listen fast enough.
Have you tried bits other than adding leverage? A Waterford is an option, also something like a kinton if she responded well to the hack. Those aren't legal in all phases. I'd prefer to use them as training tools then return to more conventional tack. FWIW, I wouldn't bother with something like a rope halter.
Ive tried a 2 ring elevator which she show jumps comfortably in currently, but hauls me around with on xc. Ive tried the pelham which i can mainly ride the snaffle ring with the leverage rein for a downward transition but it tucks her nose a bit too much for my liking
Ive tried a egg butt waterford but that basically was the same as a egg butt double joint, it didnt make a difference
Id like to try an elevator with the waterford mouthpiece and a traditional gag. A kinton is defiantly an option and ive seen people ride with a rein on the metal bit as well as the bit