[QUOTE=bsms;1970703097]Watching his example, I don't see ""Do do" vs "Don't do" so much as I see "When I say don't, I mean don't!" Before, she was saying, "I don't enjoy being crowded when feeding". After, it was, "If you crowd me, there will be negative consequences."
And part of what he had her focus on was the attitude. In the first case, the mare stood back, but was still showing irritation at the feeder. The irritation indicated there was still a problem. The mare was still challenging. The problem wasn't the distance but the attitude.
I think the thing that WS was emphasizing is that when you only say 'don't, and the horse stops being too close to you, but has not made any change, you are only building in its ability to lean right on you. Sure, it moved off enough to satisfy the command of ' don't push on me!", but, it is doing 'air pushing', in that it is looking for any breach in the wall to come back in. It NEVER let go of it's intention to push on you.
The "DO go over there!" approach is really about helping the owner focus her intention. She wants and needs that horse to wait , consistently, 'over there'. If she thinks only, "dont come any closer", the horse will more or less obey that, but keep pushing. If she says, (and reinforces) "Go OVER THERE!", and only rewards that, then she will be training in a greater respect for space in the hrose, and more goal oriented focus in herself.
I went for a wonderful ride today, ( I am so blessed!). X did every thing I 'asked', (and I did ask). I worked with the ' go forward' thought, verses the "don't slow down" thought . . . and it worked!
When we came home, and I dosmounted, put up the stirrups and looseneed the girth and gave a treat (the usual), and walked down the driveway, Sweaty X leaned toward the bushes with the intention of rubbing. I caught his thinking, and my response???? I thought, "Oh no you don't!!!!" (this because we had this experience before, which resulted in him damaging the saddle, and me getting myself kicked. long story)
I immeditately realized my thinking pattern, and I restated that as " OH, please come off those bushes, this way, right now!". And, it worked!!!