I guess what I'm asking, in short, is why some people say, "My horse (or horse x) never gets treats because they get pushy [after I give them one]." as opposed to fixing it?
Okay, I've read most of the posts in this thread. Some I agree with, some I don't.
I'm beginning to believe that we have the most well behaved horses in the world!!!
First off, the only time we stall our horses is when we feed, or for the farrier or vet. Every day the two big ones get stalled to feed, and the two little ones are fed outside, under the run in. Why, so the big ones don't push the little ones off their feed.
When it comes to me and my wife, we are able to bring the big ones in by ourselves, without help from the other. Allie comes in first as she is the alpha, then John. No issues. they get fed first, then Fred and Angle. When Fred and Angle get done, they come to the back gate and get a small treat, then we take John out without a treat, which he gets after we get Allie out, she gets a small treat after she is clear of the barn. John gets his after we leave the barn.
Is this right way? A lot of folks will say no, but, they do what we ask, when we ask, so they get a treat. Once in a while, I'll take a few treats in my pocket out into the pasture and call them to me, if they come, they get a small treat, if not, they don't. We don't give treats when we halter, or saddle them, just rubs and word of praise.
To answer your question, no pushy horse should get a treat. They have to be taught that you are the boss, and do as you ask, not the other way around...