In order to live together, we must give the horse trust and in return the horse will give us respect. My theory is your horse lacks trust.
You are not being clear. You say you
need to give the horse trust, and they will give respect? In the next sentence, however, you say she lacks trust, the thing you
give. Personally, I think it is mostly respect and training.
If she is running away, perhaps you are acting predatory and not meaning to. Are you walking directly at her? Because that's what lions do.
Actually lions stalk
their prey, not just simply walk straight to.
Try approaching her by walking slightly to her left, slowly. And don't bring tack, bring a carrot or apple. Give her release by stopping once or twice, them approach her at her side, and start scratching or rubbing her shoulder (and give her the treat). This is how horses greet each other.
No. A lower horse will lower is head in submission and walk slowly; high horse will walk straight in.
To get this pony round, you have to almost become a horse. That's just simply learning how to understand horse language, and not force them into doing anything without listening to what they have to say.
No. I am a human and she is a horse. A horse should be treated as such . Yes, you should learn horse behavior, but if I listened to every little "No! no! no!" my horse gave me, I would be moving slower than turtle.
Focus on approaching her in the paddock like this. Just friendly. Don't walk towards her purposefully with a halter in your hand, because the horse just feels like you don't acknowledge her and just want to ride her, not to bond and spend time with her.
If she could be ridden, groomed, etc., the problem isn't with trust and bond; it is with the training.
Be confident, straight-forward, and firm, but be kind and fair. I suggest finding a trainer willing to go the distance or sell her. It is very dangerous for you and your young daughter for her to be acting like a disrespectful fool.