To be blunt, Iím sick of this stupid horse, his extreme buddy sour issues are irritating me. His brain shuts off, he is dangerous and disrespectful. Iíve taken to carrying a whip with me so if he invades my personal space he gets whacked in the chest or side, if for no other reason then to remind him not to trample me.
Sounds to me like you don't have a lot of understanding about the horse & his behaviour, so you're taking it personally, getting angry about stuff that's not warranted or helpful. If you're so sick of him, you could sell him to someone who will be happy to have him?
Why do I get the above idea? You lable him 'stupid' for being 'buddy sour'. No, this is just 'horse' - some are more insecure than others, but it is up to the *human* to ensure the horse is comfortable & confident in their environment, and if they are just 'buddy sour' when being taken out with a human, then it is how that human behaves, prepares the horse, reinforces what they want, etc. So if your horse is only 'buddy sour' going out with you, YOU are the one who needs to change.
You say 'his brain shuts off' - yes, that is pretty much what an animal does when they panic, especially if they haven't got anyone around they've learned they can trust & rely on. When someone panics, they do tend to stop thinking rationally & just react. It is NOT 'disrespect' or 'rudeness' that they may run over you in this state, it is just being oblivious about the little things, because emotions & reactions have taken over the show. For your safety though, yes, being ready to hit the horse or whatever it takes to stop them running over you may be appropriate. But not getting angry about it, not doing it as punishment for 'rude' behaviour.
So... studying equine behaviour & bodylanguage, to better understand & be considerate of him would be my first suggestion. Then you will better be able to train & respond to him more effectively & without being angry, so you will be able to start *earning* his trust & respect.
If I have this idiot out of his pasture to graze or whatever he seems fine even if he canít see my other horse. But if my other horse is out with me and grazing or whatever and he is in his pasture, he loses his mind.
So that's good, if he is OK going out with you. Yes, a lot of horses are insecure being left alone. I have a horse like that, he's more than happy to go out with me, or to leave his friends, but if any of them
, he throws a wobbly!
So basically my options seem to be...move this idiot so he never sees my other horse again, sell him or my idea was to begin working this horse hard everyday.
I have no idea about any 'method' by CA or such, but while I decided it was 'too hard basket' to worry about changing my horse's behaviour on this(as he doesn't get left alone, seems more... indignant than stressed), the only way I imagine to deal with it effectively is the same way as getting a horse to be confident & happy to go OUT alone - that is, in baby steps, not going too far to cause real fear, and reinforcing/rewarding him. It could also be helpful to give him a calming paste or such, to help matters.
IMHO it is totally unfair to separate him & keep him in solitary confinement because he gets stressed when you leave him. Perhaps if he wasn't left alone, but had another horse(or other animal) with him when you take your other horse out...
While if you worked him hard, so he was exhausted when you took your horse away, he may well be quieter, less vocal, but this would not cause him to stress any less. And you will have to work him harder & longer each day as he gains fitness, to to exhaust him.
I thought we had a great relationship but I see now I babied him and now he is a spoiled punk who just wants to eat all day and be with his buddy.
That he stresses when left alone is not in the least 'spoiled punk' behaviour. It is just 'horse'. Are there other reasons why you think he's 'spoiled'? I do think you could have a greatly improved relationship with him though, if you understood & so were able to empathise with him though.