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post #1 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 07:24 PM Thread Starter
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Exclamation This horse is too much for me, but is she dangerous?

Hi all, I'm very new here and making my first post about my mare because I am at wit's end. I read Justdressageit's post about "playing the hero"-and i am really coming to terms with this situation myself.

I got my young arab mare as a gift, i had worked with and started a few youngsters before but she was my first entire project. she did not know how to lead and was uncomfortable with being touched anywhere behind her shoulder when we first got her at 20 months. she was in a big field with 20 other horses, and she was as sweet as can be.

we stayed at that farm for a while before moving to one closer to home. it was a smaller herd and she quickly became the boss. we continued with ground work and eventually i began riding her. she was very sensitive and responsive. she is now 5 years old.

I have been riding her for a while now, usually 4-5 times per week, mainly in a ring and on trails. she is smart and sure footed, and leads rides or goes alone. What i have noticed with her is that in the summer time, she is always in season. she goes into a cycle almost every 2 weeks for almost a full 6 days, and she is just constantly expelling mucus. Usually she just needs a light leg and a light hand, but when she is in season she does not respect your space, refuses to back up, and when she is undersaddle she refuses to take even one step forward.

recently she has gotten to be very mare-ish. she pins her ears at me whenever i walk up to her, and she has always had a little bit of food aggression. I chalked the food aggression up to having to fight for her food at her old barn in a coral. she is currently just on a weight control type food so she gets all her vitamins and minerals. i make her stand in the back of the stall and wait for me to leave the stall before she can eat.

She has never kicked me, but this past week she kicked my mother very hard. The mare approached my mother with ears up in the field. my mother held out her hand, then went to grab a little mane before catching her. the horse spun around 180degrees and kicked my mother square in the chest. the mare knew exactly what she was doing, and took aim before kicking. it was totally unprovoked and i was floored.

The vet will be out this month to check for any pain issues. But my question is, if nothing is found, should i try her on some sort of regumate/depo medication or just sell her? she is a beautiful egyptian arab, registered. I would just like to find her a loving home. I feel like i give her a great life, 10+acres to run around on, laid back riding, and the best quality hay. she is on 24 hr turn out in the summer and she comes in at night in the winter. where did i go wrong?

For now i am re-starting her training from the ground up. Hopefully i can figure something out. I will be leaving for college in the fall and i would not be able to sleep at night if i leased her out, I would be too concerned that the leasee would get hurt.

sorry for the novel. I hope you guys can help! thanks so much
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post #2 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 07:29 PM
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I would say see what the vet says. It could be hormonal or marbling might help. I guess with her issues where do you see her going? If you don't feel safe and you have a home available for her I would rehome. Finding someone who wants to take a horse with these problems can be a difficult find.
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post #3 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 07:33 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by rookie View Post
Finding someone who wants to take a horse with these problems can be a difficult find.
Thanks rookie,
this is my biggest concern. I would humanely euth if i had to, but i think she can be helped, its just beyond my level. How does one go about finding a home for a horse like this?
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post #4 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 07:38 PM
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Agree with rookie. Have her checked, put her on a supplement, there are several, if it's not a medical problem, do the right groundwork, in short, all has to work together. She might have a hormonal/ reproductive problem and might change completely once it's taken care of. Until you know what you're dealing with I'd make sure you're the only one handling her.
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post #5 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 07:46 PM
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you know, if you are heading out to college, I would seriously consider selling her. you don't need this additional challenge. I remember college being fairly time consuming as it was, and having a horse that was needing more training and had some dangerous behaviors sitting back at the barn waiting for me woule NOT help me be the best college student I could be. College is expensive. you need to give it the ALL that it deserves.
Sell her and reconsider a horse when you are done with college. And don't take a gift; go get the one that is right for you.
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post #6 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 07:48 PM
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Have her checked and something you could ask about is spaying.

Spaying mares used to be very common practice in some parts of the western US. Not so much anymore. As I recall from a mare I knew was spayed, she had a small scar on each side just ahead of and below the hip bone. Apparently she is cut, the ovary is snagged, tied off and then removed. I suspect this is done in the winter when the horse is in anestrus...

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post #7 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 09:08 PM
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I would sell her and find a nicer horse sounds like she's quit dangerous too me.
Any horse of mine kicked my mom would be gone in a big hurry.I won't tolerate a horse who kicks .too many nice horses to put up with a moody craby mare that kicks .
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post #8 of 15 Old 12-31-2012, 10:19 PM
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She is the type of horse I like to work with and an arab to boot. Ah well.

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post #9 of 15 Old 01-01-2013, 01:01 AM
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I've got two mares, two geldings and another gelding boarded here. I have never noticed my one mare being in season until this year but it only lasted a couple days. She was her same sweet self while riding or if I was out in the pasture........I definetly would have her checked out, I know some ladies that give their mares some type of herb that has helped theirs but I'm not sure what it is.....

My horses are the joy in my life.....
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post #10 of 15 Old 01-01-2013, 01:15 AM
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How is your mother?
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