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post #1 of 51 Old 04-16-2019, 08:30 AM Thread Starter
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Maybe I'm an old grump, but......

....it bugs me when an O.P. doesn't post a response in a timely manner after folks have taken the time to think through their issue and type their response with suggestions....suggestions that often involve safety issues for both horse and human. So, I'm wondering what time frame you think is reasonable Vs ?rude for an O.P. to fail to respond to the replies on their post.

Eg. O.P. posts their issue , I post my suggestions the same day, within 2 days several people have offered tips, another day, no evidence that the O.P. has read any of them,,,another day,,,still nothing from the O.P. ...it ruffles my feathers a bit but as in my title, maybe I'm just an old grump about it.I do understand that we all have very busy schedules, but when I have an issue and ask about it, I'm eager beaver checking for replies and trying to update often to thank people for responding. Guess I'm just curious what the time frame is (if any) before you begin to think the O.P. response is overdue.

Any other old grumps out there?

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post #2 of 51 Old 04-16-2019, 09:08 AM
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Hi Fay_the_Grumpus ;-)

Yea, I have seen this regularly, both here, and on other on-line forums.

Sometimes life does intrude, and it may take several days, or even a week to get back to an on-line discussion, but more often, IMO, it is because the OP doesn't like the answers they are getting.

I see _so_ many people coming here looking for a simple solution to their complex problem, and almost all Human-Equine problems are complex, usually involving the Human part of the equation needing to re-evaluate the way they are approaching the relationship. This tends not to sit well with some personality types; alas for their poor horses :-P

And the same situations come up again and again, with the same forum regulars trying to be helpful, whereas if the OP had done a simple search before posting, they would have already known the answers they could expect.

Honestly, I have gotten to where I just shake my head, and move on for the most part.

Maybe they should put a "sticky" at the top of the Home page to the effect of "If you want a push-button ride, get an ATV."

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post #3 of 51 Old 04-16-2019, 09:32 AM Thread Starter
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Hi Fay_the_Grumpus



And the same situations come up again and again, with the same forum regulars trying to be helpful, whereas if the OP had done a simple search before posting, they would have already known the answers they could expect.



Maybe they should put a "sticky" at the top of the Home page to the effect of "If you want a push-button ride, get an ATV."

Steve_the_grumpy_old_fart_from_Krones-&-Kodgers
LOL !!! you reminded me of another pet peeve-ish, the same old issues that are rehashed over and over because the O.P. doesn't do that simple search before posting....man, am I G.R.U.M.P.Y....(and guilty that I didnt search THIS issue before posting...ooops)
Thanks grumpy_old-fart-Steve, at least I'm not alone in my grumpiness

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If I see a post that is #1 for that poster, and is along the lines of "what do I need to know to ride horses?" I assume we will never hear from that person again.

Generally if a first-time poster wants an answer that nobody is going to give (Yes! Breed your poor-quality grade mare! Great idea!) (Yes! Buy that crazy-eyed yearling although you barely know how to ride! What could go wrong?) it is rarely worth the trouble to craft a gentle reply.

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post #5 of 51 Old 04-16-2019, 09:59 AM Thread Starter
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@ Avna, you are wise,,,,,Thanks for the reply, I will try to absorb your wisdom and not be so grumpy.

Fay
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You KNOW I’m grumpy! Can’t be bothered with “It’s ok, honey, you are doing the best you can(lie), bless your heart”!!!

My favorites are new horse owners’ EMERGENCY posts....
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If I see a post that is #1 for that poster, and is along the lines of "what do I need to know to ride horses?" I assume we will never hear from that person again.

Generally if a first-time poster wants an answer that nobody is going to give (Yes! Breed your poor-quality grade mare! Great idea!) (Yes! Buy that crazy-eyed yearling although you barely know how to ride! What could go wrong?) it is rarely worth the trouble to craft a gentle reply.
One topic that I find highly irritating is when someone, typically a newbie on THF, starts in with "I have a chance to get a _free_ horse . . ."
Don't even get me started . . . I have had the forum moderators censure my replies on this subject ;-)

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I would say it annoyed me, but I’m sure I’ve done it before also...cause sometimes (a lot) I completely forget about stuff. Now, I’ve never posted IS MY NEW MARE PREGNANT?!?!?! and then never respond to anyone’s comments after I post that. Or say the vet will be here in 20 minutes to do an ultrasound and then literally never log into HF again.
That is like the #1 pet peeve of mine on here. Cause like, I wanna know if the horse is like, gonna pop out a foal or something and all I get is no response? Rude!

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post #9 of 51 Old 04-16-2019, 10:23 AM
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I don't care one way or the other. HF, to me, is a place to shoot the breeze about horses. If OP has an issue that I can address because I have experience with that issue, I'll relate my story. If OP has a "general best practices" issue, and I think I know what the best practices are, I'll share my opinion. Ultimately, for any issue, nothing beats experienced eyes on the ground, and even then more than one pair of eyes is better than one.

I post here because I rarely have the chance to talk "horse" elsewhere. Flapping my electronic gums is intrinsic reward enough. I like it when nobody says, "Oh dear - why on earth would you say that??" That means my own comments aren't too far off the mark in the bigger scheme of things, so that's another reason for posting here: test-driving my understanding in a peer-reviewed environment.

Whether OP acknowledges my response or not is quite irrelevant to me, actually.
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@greentree ,,,thanks for admitting to being Grumpy, I DIDN"T know...welcome to the Gumpapaloosa Gang...

@GMA100 , I appreciate your admission that you've probably done it, so YOU might have annoyed me previously...LOL !! Wow, now I might start worrying about foals popping out.....

@mmshiro , you've made me realize once again just how blessed I am to have several local friends to talk horsemanship with, and we do , like , all the time. I like your observation that our advice given on the HF is a test driving , of sorts , of our opinions in a peer-reviewed environment.I like that concept. I aspire to adopt your chill attitude about whether or not the OP acknowledges my response. If I dig deep, maybe my grumpiness over it is a sign of a need for validation, but imho, it's more of a joy when it is confirmed that I did help someone, which is nice to feel, so I feel grumpy when denied the joy. ....LOL....deep, yes?

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