[quote=UriAmiel;1970713295]1. It seems like he does not respect us or any other trainer. When we lead him sometimes he "walks on us" or steps on us.
Well it seems that 'respect' means different things to different people. Some think of it purely as 'obedience' or 'manners'. I think of it as a '2 way street'. You must show respect for the horse, before you can begin to *earn* his respect. And for that it takes understanding & consideration of him as a horse. What's different & what's similar about the way they think to us... So reading up on equine behaviour/psych & bodylanguage is important - for that you should be able to search online for free, but others will no doubt have some good book etc recommendations too.
If he doesn't 'respect the space' of a *good* trainer, it may be purely that he's never been taught. Just like a little kid with 'bad manners', can't blame them if no one's ever taught them better. So I don't automatically think of that sort of thing as a 'respect' issue.
Or maybe, due to previous handling, coming to a new place & owners... whatever, he is worried about stuff. And when horses get worried, they tend to just react, not think - not very productive to training in that frame of mind. So I don't automatically think of that sort of thing as a 'respect' issue either. Except in that if you have earned the respect of the horse, he should feel safe with you, so less inclined to panic, more inclined to listen to you in 'scary' situations.
2. Another phrase to that behavior but a bit different is that he also tries to bend his head and eat while leading or riding.
For this & walking on you, you'll find other threads here on 'pushy horses' or such with more info, but essentially, horses learn from immediate consequences to do what works & quit doing what doesn't work. So to teach him to keep his head up when asked to 'work' or to stay at a 'respectful' distance from you, you need to reinforce/reward that
(it works for him). Focus on what you *want*
him to do and reward it.
And when need be, make it difficult/uncomfortable for him to do the wrong thing, with *instant* punishment - make sure it doesn't work for him to do it. It could be an arm wave or elbow jab if he gets too close(you're not hitting out at him
, he just got *himself* in the way), could be a jerk on the bit, or a smack to the rump to get him moving forward, when he starts
to put his head down. If your timing is good, the punishment quits & the horse is reinforced the instant he stops whatever, and you're consistent with your rules
, you're as gentle as possible BUT as firm as necessary to be effective
, then the horse will learn and I believe it's fair punishment.
But I do believe it's so
important that primary focus is on teaching what you DO want, & rewarding it. Then punishment is little needed anyway.
3. He is not stable, he trips while riding around every 5 minutes (while walking). ... he is thin (he came to us thin and we are trying to help him put on weight)
As said, that first is a physical problem. I'd actually hold off riding him until he's in good condition & whatever the prob is corrected. Without information, it could be as simple as he needs a good hoof trim, or it could be some body issue, or it could be your saddle fit. Who knows.