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post #11 of 29 Old 03-04-2019, 10:13 AM
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Thank you! I actually found a place that would be a good starting point for me...

So I bit the bullet and submitted a volunteer form. The place is a therapeutic riding program, and accommodates people with disabilities of all sorts.

On the list under “Skills” they had ‘American Sign Language’ as something I could check.

And let me say… that one little thing was a big self esteem boost.

Oftentimes people don’t recognize ASL as an actual skill, or an actual second language that is as valuable as say, knowing Spanish or German.

Allowing me to say “heck yeah, I know ASL and that is a skill I have, which I could use to help others!” really means a lot to me.

Anyways, fingers crossed I can get something to work out. :)

That is GREAT!! I too hope everything works in your favor.
Keep us posted with the progress.


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post #12 of 29 Old 03-04-2019, 10:17 AM
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That is great. Hopefully this will work out for you.
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post #13 of 29 Old 03-17-2019, 02:54 PM Thread Starter
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A small update.

I'm scheduled to meet with the therapeutic riding place on the 25th.

Yesterday I visited another barn nearby, and was pleasant with how it went. The trainer there was very welcoming and willing to learn what it takes to communicate with me. I taught her the sign for "horse" ;) I appreciated the laid-back environment, and the training style she does with her horses aligns with my own values. It was a great tour, and she invited me to come by and help out with her lessons if I was interested in doing that. Since I'll be moving away soon, I figure I'll take her up on that opportunity for as long as I can. Although it'll be temporary, I think that easing my foot into the horse world would be good for me. It'll be beneficial for me to learn how to find a place for myself at a barn where I'll be around a lot of other people and horses that I don't know.

And I got to pet a lot of horsies! I also learned how to tie a rope halter. Never used one of those before!
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post #14 of 29 Old 03-17-2019, 05:27 PM
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I forget, perhaps you already said, but can you read lips?
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post #15 of 29 Old 03-17-2019, 08:08 PM
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akihba,
That's great. It's such a goood feeling to be able to work with people who understand that just because you have a slight handicap, doesn't mean that you don't understand and can't be productive...
I'm happy for you and look forward to hearing more...
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post #16 of 29 Old 03-17-2019, 10:00 PM Thread Starter
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I forget, perhaps you already said, but can you read lips?
A little bit. It's a lot of effort though, and I often don't know 100% what they're saying until after they finish their sentence and I try to quickly piece together the words that I did catch. If I'm not fast enough to assemble the words into a sentence that makes sense, I end up leaving the other person 'hanging' while my brain is working in overtime. Oftentimes in body language, you nod as you listen to the other person to indicate that you are paying attention and understanding them. I do that, but sometimes after nodding, I piece together what was said in my head and realize that I don't understand, or that a question was asked of me, and I have to shift 180 to the appropriate body language. Yesterday I had my girlfriend come along to interpret for me, but going forwards I'll be on my own.

Fun fact: only about 40% of the English language is distinct on the lips. This results in a pretty big margin of error ;)


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akihba,
That's great. It's such a goood feeling to be able to work with people who understand that just because you have a slight handicap, doesn't mean that you don't understand and can't be productive...
I'm happy for you and look forward to hearing more...
Yes exactly, thank you! I left the barn yesterday feeling really great. The trainer and I spoke a bit about my deafness, and she was very enthusiastic to listen to my perspective on some things. She asked me a question which I found interesting, as I wasn't expecting such a thing to come from a horse trainer, which was: "Do you feel fulfilled in your ability to express yourself?"

I said, well... it depends. Not everyone gives me the opportunity to express myself. I explained that some people shut me out due to my disability, and so I am unable to truly be myself in those situations. I'm still reflecting on that question. I think it's important for me to figure out how to overcome that in situations where it's out of my control, maybe? Dunno, just thinking out loud.
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post #17 of 29 Old 03-18-2019, 08:02 PM
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akihba,
"Do you feel fulfilled in your ability to express yourself?"

I worked for a national company as a personnel recruiter for a few years. We went through periodic training sessions for interviewing potential employees. While not exactly the words she used, we had a similar question. It does get you to thinking, doesn't it?
Your expressions don't necessarily have to be verbal. They can be facial or through body language.
When people you're around "shut you out", because of your disability, it's mainly because they feel uncomfortable and are unsure of themselves with their inability to be able to communicate with you. And then their are those that don't want to take the time to TRY to understand you and communicate with you.


Think about it, you'll get it.


Best of luck,


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post #18 of 29 Old 03-19-2019, 09:17 AM
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I think that sounds lovely. Glad everything is going so well. Yeah, rope halters can be confusing at first. LOL, took a bit for me to get it, but now it's cake.

Ride more, worry less.
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I have a hearing loss, for which my family is not patient or understanding, particularly my husband. He will say something that sounds just like that video you posted, like "The fish are in the goat pen." I stand there trying to figure out what he was really saying, and he gets really upset and angry because, as he says, "You're not listening!" No, I'm not understanding.

Here is a funny story about my grandmother and grandfather, who both had severe hearing loss. My granddaddy had been quite sick, and their pastor from church stopped in to visit him. My grandma said, "He's out walking," because he was finally feeling better.

Their pastor said, "Oh, then he won't need me."

And my grandma, thinking he said, "Oh, then he won't eat meat," replied, "No, he never did."

When she saw the horrified look on the pastor's face, she knew she had mis-heard something and replied something completely wrong.
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post #20 of 29 Old 03-20-2019, 03:14 PM Thread Starter
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I have a hearing loss, for which my family is not patient or understanding, particularly my husband. He will say something that sounds just like that video you posted, like "The fish are in the goat pen." I stand there trying to figure out what he was really saying, and he gets really upset and angry because, as he says, "You're not listening!" No, I'm not understanding.

Here is a funny story about my grandmother and grandfather, who both had severe hearing loss. My granddaddy had been quite sick, and their pastor from church stopped in to visit him. My grandma said, "He's out walking," because he was finally feeling better.

Their pastor said, "Oh, then he won't need me."

And my grandma, thinking he said, "Oh, then he won't eat meat," replied, "No, he never did."

When she saw the horrified look on the pastor's face, she knew she had mis-heard something and replied something completely wrong.
that is hilarious! I have my fair share of misunderstandings, but nothing like that lol!
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