Baby spam as requested! If you head over to my journal, "The Trail Less Traveled", you can read the birth story. Little baby is growing so fast. I'm gradually getting used to her doing new things and making new sounds. The first time she made a different sound, I had a freak out moment, I thought something was wrong. Everybody comments on how strong she is. She's smart, strong, and a quick learner. I can't wait to see her riding or practicing martial arts or ballet, whatever she wants to do. Hopefully riding will be a no brainer.
Yes, I'm in Virginia right now. Shan is in Ohio. We'll be in Ohio with Shan in the spring. I get to introduce my baby Aria to Shan when we drive through around Christmas. Looking forward to that. I miss Shan bunches, and can't wait to see how she will react to Aria. She adores babies.
I think if you take things slow with Joy, you'll do fine. The 30 day thing is really more of a commercialized aspect of training. People have a young horse, they don't want to pay for several months of training at say $600 a month. So the trainer gets as much done as possible in those 30 days.
Introduce new things from the ground at first. Then apply those same methods under saddle. If you use say, a dressage whip, to tap her on the ground and get her to move away from pressure, then use the whip in the saddle in the same area, in conjunction with the new leg cue. It gives her a way to understand what you want.
One thing that took me a long time to learn was that while it is great to address things from the ground and a good way to go about it, what you've taught on the ground doesn't really translate to under saddle as well. It is sometimes like dealing with a whole different animal when you move to the saddle. Treat it that way. Introduce the new concepts just as slowly in the saddle as you did on the ground. And, IMO, there's nothing wrong with walking on eggshells, or in other words, simply being cautious and wary of doing things that would put her into overload and cause an explosion. Build that confidence and trust in the saddle before you attempt the more difficult things. Again, it's like starting from scratch, a completely new, different animal. If she's exploding when you try to get her to move away from pressure or whatever, it's probably just because she doesn't understand.
Shan used to explode, run out on you, whatever, if you tried to make her do something new and she didn't understand. I HAD to walk on eggshells with that horse. Any trainer that tried to coerce her would have a massive fight on their hands, and even if they won, she'd often just fight harder the next time. But we've come through all of that and figured out how to communicate, and now she's my go to steady eddie horse, I can go with her anywhere and do anything. The trick with her is, if it's something new, take it very slow and let her understand what is happening. Once she learns it, you never have to revisit it. She never forgets it.
"You can do something wrong for thirty years and call yourself experienced, you can do something right for a week and experience more than someone who spent thirty years doing the wrong thing." ~WhattaTroublemaker