Please don't get me wrong! My mother is not a bad mother. She has always been supportive of both my sister and myself, and she has spent the last 8 years taking care of my ill father and aunt all alone (I am very far away, and my sister's daughter has cystic fibrosis, which is a disease that requires daily treatments every morning and evening.). So, I believe that that has taken it's toll, both physically and psychologically.
I'd hate to think what my children will say about me in the future!
I bet you don't call them himbos,
Yeah, I'm happy if your mother was supportive (as parents ought to be - children don't ask to be born, parents make that decision), but it still doesn't excuse her being rude to you like that, and neither does her taking care of your ailing father. Those things don't stand up when you're dissing a colleague in the workplace, and equally shouldn't stand up in a family situation.
"But officer, I only called you an ass because I've got a sister in chemotherapy!" Nope. Stupid excuse. Manners are manners and respect is respect. They aren't optional. I understand that none of us are perfect, but this is why we have, "I'm truly sorry - that was so out of line of me" and "I thought about what I said to you the other day, and it was really rude of me - please accept my apologies." (But no fauxpologies, as in, "I'm sorry you see it that way / I'm sorry you took it the wrong way" etc) And why we make reparations, instead of expecting others to put up with our crap because we feel entitled, or because we're not thinking about it. Has your mother apologised yet?
Here's a good song for when the world (or subsections thereof) is insane.