Danes & Scandinavians: I am often asked if I am Scandinavian, and I have even had Danes and Swedes approach me in their languages in Madrid. I have often though it would be fun to visit a Scandinavian country to experience the feeling of "fitting in", which I never get here. I stick out like a sore thumb and turns heads in Spain.
My mum's cousin (diplomat) married a Danish woman. They were not able to have children, so they adopted two children while stationed in Korea in the 70's (so, the kids are my age). Apparently, they had lots of fun shocking people in Copenhagen by speaking perfect Danish, way back when before there were Asians in Europe.
lol well there you go. The Danes have a very particular language and loyalty to each other. I also think it's why the Norwegians and Swedes and even many Danes say Danish is a garbage language. They make it so distinct in sound from Norwegian and Swedish that it really is quite terrible to hear
it's all based on old norse but pronunciation is terribly different.
Maybe you should try Scandinavia and see if you feel at home here. Scandinavians are pretty welcoming but I will say they do
incredible story. I think everything happens for a reason, even the painful ones. Maybe you werent meant to make this great change, move away and meet that homeless man to help you. I really believe God sends up people we are meant to meet at different stages in our lives to learn, grow and know there is hope. And to bring us to where we're meant to be. It doesnt always have to make sense but we get there!
With everything going on with my ex, I met two men randomly. One in London and one on a bus ride to Copenhagen. We exchanged stories and spoke. The one in London was struggling with overcoming an ex who was a lovely person but distance was too much and how he has a moral code and he finds it sad that today's way is just fast and loose without self respect or actively thinking about the choices you make, just take and do and dont care about the consequences. It's all about feeling good in the moment, not thinking about the road ahead. We exchanged a lot of stories and he showed me there are far better men out there than the one I was broke up with and there is better waiting for me. The other man on the bus had lived in Africa for a few years, married a psychopathic African woman and had a child. We exchanged stories and I helped him see that the psychopathic woman choosing him wasnt a sign that he is weak but a sign of his character and who he is as a person. He is someone who works to understand and work through problems without blaming or pointing fingers. Really good soul. I told him psychopaths dont go after weak, stupid, or unsuccessful people. They prey on the best they can find and think they can keep. They go for big hearts and smart people who may be naive to their manipulation and conditioning. He also told me "you deserve so much better than what has happened to you," and "he never truly loved you if he could do all those things, when I love a woman she is the only one I want." And he said "better is coming for you, dont lose faith in that." And I told him the same. Better is coming, have faith even when it is dark.
I've had a few ugly relationships. Truly this last one is by far the best, and the break up the cleanest I've ever had. I think women learn to love themselves with more fierce determination with each one. I think you learn to be more independent and to stand for yourself, your value and who you are with less sway. I also think women figure out it is better being alone without someone lying to my face and disrespecting them with selfishness. Being able to focus on themselves, their interests and what makes them passionate. I think it's important for women to prioritize themselves. It's too easy in relationships to prioritize the relationship or the other person.