I figure I'd make this an open-face journal to talk about all things horse that pops into my mind. So this week's topic...barn friends and a life with horses. The question I ask myself is 'how'. We'd all love to be close like the saddle club haha, but honestly for barn friends, I have few. I have that one special friend that I do nearly everything with at the barn. She sprained her ankle a while back and hasn't been able to ride, but her and I groom and take care of the school horses every weekend. I'm thankful for that. I always wanted true barn friends, but I also wonder about my life after college. At this point I could just walk over to the barn, but in some ways I feel a little like an outsider. Or rather going there alone is a little uncomfortable. I'm just someone who takes a weekly lesson now. As I used to be on my varsity team, it made more sense to be there more often. Nowadays I just have to remind myself to do it for the horses, and nevermind what people may think. I will still treasure the weekends I send with my barn-mate just grooming the horses and catching up. Sometimes you have to walk alone, and it's okay.
Only time can tell what I'll be doing with horses in the future. I'd imagine taking more lessons or at least continuing them. Living in Long Island is difficult and sometimes I worry about what lies ahead. But I will do my best not to let that anxiety control my thoughts 100%. Today I think I'll go groom Theodore if he's not out for lessons. I need some horse therapy.
I understand what you mean about being an outsider. I am a former Long Islander and I now live in Maine. I was not raised around horses, and now, at 30, I own 2 rescues. I have no clue how to ride, and it is something I plan on working on this spring. Whats the use in having 2 great horses if you don't ride or let them work? I have made friends with one of the BOs friends who is always there, and has said she will help me learn to ride. All of the owners there seem nice enough...
All of the boarders at my barn are very nice, but they all ride. For me, I love just going down there and grooming the horses, making sure they are clean, have clean stalls, clean pastures. My BO is always telling me that is what I pay her for, but for me its not about the money, its about getting to spend time with and bonding with my horses.
I try to just go in there, and do what I want to do. If somebody wants to have a conversation with me, go for it, I won't be rude or anything (or at least I try not to be).