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post #2891 of 3230 Old 05-13-2019, 02:52 AM
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@bsms , it is so sad that so many of us have experienced such pain early on in life. I'm sorry about those horrible aspects of your childhood. I'm sure I can speak on behalf of our little journalling group to say we love you and wish you every happiness for your here and now. And here's something nice from Kahlil Gibran, which I and some people close to me have personally found to be very true:

On Joy And Sorrow

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, "Joy is greater thar sorrow," and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater."
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.

to all of you, and I hope all y'all have a great week! Including Paulie!

And don't forget to ride!

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post #2892 of 3230 Old 05-13-2019, 08:00 AM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by bsms View Post
One of the ways horses have changed me, starting at age 50, is to teach me to accept things. Not to be "perfect", but to accept "good enough". And by extension, to learn to look at people around me, in my family, church, etc and learn to accept them by their "try" instead of wanting them to meet some goal set by someone else that they cannot meet.
I have decided that every creature struggles with food or weight in some way. I mean look at our horses, dogs, cats, they're all either bordering on thin or fat.
Everyone I know either tries to lose weight or gain weight or eat something different than they are. I agree with @Knave (who I agree has super powers - liking that post twice!) that being fit is the most important thing. Who would want to be one of those supermodels, with their thin yet flaccid arms and legs? What I think is great is being strong and able to do things like lift bags of grain and run all the way home after your horse after you got bucked off.
Besides, what feels comfortable to you and meets your idea of feeling good is what is important, right? Who else is going to live in your body except you?

What @bsms posted is excellent. I am understanding more and more the beauty of mediocrity.
...We equate excellence with accomplishment, and mediocrity with a lack of accomplishment. But does life really work like that ?...

...Human beings find themselves in a kind of trap. They cannot have it all — glory, omnipotence, fantastic wealth — and also love, respect, intimacy, closeness, a well lived life, if you like. Not now, not ever. There is a very solid, empirical, tradeoff between the two — which is, of course, what all the prophets and sages and wise men of history have said, too. The most they can do is find the right balance, mean, point between the two...

...We are only little things, made of dust. Never let us suppose for a moment that we must be anything else.
Do you know any people who are the best at horse shows, or great musicians, fantastic athletes, or great at anything that are also very happy? I've come to realize that being great at something means you must neglect many other things that give happiness. Including great relationships with people and even animals.

DH and I were discussing the other day how we don't seem to accomplish a whole lot of things that others would feel are important; they take us a very long time. Our house does not look like anything on HGTV inside, not up to date or stylish. The furniture is a mish mash of stuff that works and all I can ever promise is hygienic. The grass often gets long and weeds grow in the yard. But that's because neither of us can help wanting to enjoy life as we go, rather than living for some unknown future where we accomplish enough or get everything perfect enough. I don't give up any horse rides in order to shop or organize the house, and we practice our violin and cello when we might be thinking about what would make the yard look fancier. We get enough sleep and go to the beach and play with the dog and cats. I don't succeed at any horse shows or win running races, because I don't make any one thing the focus of my life.
So we don't seem very successful, but I think the mediocrity of our lives makes it great.

Here's to "good enough," the secret to happiness!
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post #2893 of 3230 Old 05-13-2019, 09:17 AM
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I’m much like you! I’m an “experience” over “possession” type of person. I’d rather spend money on a vacation, or a fun day out with my kids.... then home decor, or a new couch. My house is also sanitary, but not stylish. I will not have the newest, most stylish clothes or the most trendy hair, done every 4 weeks. I cut my hair a few times a year, when it gets too long lol

My husband is a bit more on the materialistic side, so it’s sometimes a conflict area for us. Not because he really cares, but more out of social anxiety... he worries how our family is perceived. All I worry about, is how healthy and happy our family is

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post #2894 of 3230 Old 05-13-2019, 09:53 AM
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Superpowers! Actually, the forum has been glitchy for me the last couple days. It locked me back a few pages, put that post, as well as one on @SueC ‘s journal, right in the middle.

Anyways, it was like, oh, I can’t believe I missed this. Then, when in the correct place later it said I didn’t already like it so I did.
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post #2895 of 3230 Old 05-16-2019, 02:35 AM Thread Starter
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I had a post about a ride on Monday but it seems to have disappeared. Forum glitches.

Anyway, we got some video of Paulie during the night. He took his last wrap off his paw and every time I've seen him he was looking comfortable, so I was hoping maybe he only had a sprain or something and he didn't need a splint. But in the videos he doesn't put any weight on his paw, so we will have to get him splinted again tomorrow. I've been watching some videos online of how to splint animal legs, so hopefully we can get one that will stay on this time. I think we'll have to keep him for awhile.

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post #2896 of 3230 Old 05-16-2019, 05:38 AM
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Oooh, isn't he lovely! He does look like he needs splinting; maybe a bitterant will be useful, or one of those head-cones. It's so hard to stop even our dog from interfering with dressings, unless something like that is used. Best wishes with it!

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post #2897 of 3230 Old 05-17-2019, 12:07 PM
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@gottatrot , this one's for you!


(Sorry I can't embed the video here, but it's a Facebook link so not allowed on HF. The guitarist is a friend's son's music teacher )
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post #2898 of 3230 Old 05-18-2019, 09:08 AM Thread Starter
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@egrogan , that was great!!

I was hoping the forum might end up restoring the post I lost about our horse ride on Monday, but it didn't. It's hard to tell the story again because thoughts move on.
The highlights were:
-We ended up crossing some mud flats as in the above picture, which Hero did not believe he could cross at all. Nala was prancing all over them, but he thought he'd sink until I got off and led him through.

-Our reroute took us through a posh neighborhood, so Nala of course pooped on the road.

-I left my crop at home and discovered I don't need it anymore.

-I experimented with various ways of riding Hero's canter and had some very comfortable moments. He definitely prefers that I move the reins actively with his movement rather than bridging over his shoulders and having his own movement pull the reins forward.

-Both horses did massive spooks when we passed a bonfire we thought they were tolerating fine, until something crackled or moved in the fire. Both Nala's rider and I rode it fine, and on the way home it was entertaining to see the deep plants the horses' front hooves had made in the sand, and just how far we'd veered off our path.

-Just like I originally realized Hero had a stifle issue when I could predict his bucking and kicking with going down hills and in deep sand, now I can definitely say that any behaviors he does now have no correlation to any particular activity. Meaning, I can predict that he will be able to go through deep sand, and down hills, with no problem. Every issue he has now with squealing, rearing, hopping etc have quite obvious triggers by emotionally distressing moments (passing something scary, Nala running out of sight).

This is great, since his physical issues are not in play and all he needs is more practice and experience with controlling his emotions.
Nala's rider still hears me yelling, "Stinker!" quite often.

Hero's hooves are looking better and healthier each trim. All four have gained more concavity, and he now walks over gravel without gimping. They look very small, but are functional. It is a problem that people look at TB hooves and think they should be bigger, but making them bigger by letting them flare out does not make them healthier.
Tiny hooves, big body. In contrast, Amore is tiny and has great big hooves.

I believe a crooked hoof makes a crooked body makes a crooked hoof. When you get a horse with hoof and body issues, there's almost no way to tell what will correct and what will not. They always say you don't trim a straight hoof onto a crooked leg. But it's also so tricky knowing which is compensating for what. What I do is try to get the body functioning better, and trim the hoof according to how the sole appears to want to grow in. Eventually, over months, things change. I just manage the flaring and see if it grows down better, and try to get the hoof capsule to grow on tighter.

The hoof improvements slowly change the body function, and the body function slowly changes the hoof growth. So you need both to improve or nothing will change. Most of Hero's body and hoof issues are slowly going away...but I'm not sure if we could have managed any of this without the stifle injections he had and the Equioxx he's still getting. I am hoping that if his body strength gets to a certain level, and his hoof health gets to a certain level, he may function so normally he won't need the medication. But I want to wait until I feel quite sure everything is balanced so we don't go backwards.
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post #2899 of 3230 Old 05-19-2019, 01:38 AM Thread Starter
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Today my friend from work was given a horse named Bandit. She's been without a horse for a couple of years, just bought 5 acres which doesn't have fencing or a barn yet, but someone offered her this horse so she will board him for awhile across the road from my barn. He's pretty cute, a bit different looking from the other Bandit we know.

Hero went out with me for some lunging exercise on the beach. TBs are like greyhounds sometimes, when they're not running full bore they're often sleepy. Hero just has so much character, and does not believe in letting anyone wonder what he is thinking or feeling - he just lets it all out.

It was quite funny how he was falling asleep with his feed bucket before our outing, and also at one point where he took a bite off a drift log on the beach and spat it out.

I'm rather proud of how he is finally getting some chest and neck on him.

He was being quite a goof on the beach:

Well, the song from Audioslave says "Be Yourself."
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post #2900 of 3230 Old 05-19-2019, 10:00 AM
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Your horse is beautiful thanks for sharing him!

I've come to realize that my problem with the bucking tb I ride isn't with getting her not to buck. I need to ride better. She's just expressive. You never have to wonder what she's feeling! I love that about her!

For me, there has been a big difference between falling off a horse and getting launched off at higher speeds. All the falling I have done up till now hasn't affected me like this mare has. I haven't ridden her in a year due to fear.
Now I am paying someone to ride out her...strong opinions...while I get comfortable with her milder ones. We are making progress! If we both relax our attitudes, maybe we can meet in the middle...
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