I agree that taking a crop/lunge whip/ stick in with you if they're getting pushy with you when you feed, until you know how to move them around without one. It's good if you don't need to use it (crop or whatever) but you should not hesitate to give a good whack if someone is being pushy or rude ... just not on the face, unless that is what they're using to be rude with - your safety is absolutely
the most important issue; having a thousand pounds or so of rudeness coming at you can be really dangerous. And coming on a little strong now will save you having to *really* come down on them later on if they fail to straighten up and put you in any danger.
"How can I get them to go into a stall or paddock to eat?"
LOL - you'll probably have to work harder at keeping them *out*. If they think there's food around, they'll typically try to get at it. Horses tend to be quite food motivated. So do not
feed them when they're doing something wrong - pawing, acting aggressive towards you or the other horse, banging on the fence - it reinforces the behaviour and makes it very difficult to undo.
Although you are not supposed to mess with your horses while
they're eating, there's nothing wrong with using feeding time to do a bit of training - it also reinforces your position in the herd if they have to do something for you in order to get their food. My horses would try to snatch bites of whatever I had before I set it down - very rude - so now they don't get their buckets until they turn their heads away from me and the food - even better if they back up a step or so. If they don't keep their heads turned, or they start rushing at me, I pull the food back until they get back (this is where a fence or panel is good to use between you). You might be surprised how quickly they figure it out (the better your timing is, the faster they learn). It is a difficult thing to teach if you have more than one at a time, the other will always mess it up, so separate stalls or corrals are necessary.
But now I'll be outside cleaning the corral out and they will approach me and turn their heads away. Looks kinda strange, lol, but they have the idea down....
Hope I haven't rambled too much, best of luck!