At one point in my life, I had a husband, 3 boys, 10 horses, 4 dogs, 4 cats and 3 iguanas at home. I also worked a full time job that often exceeded 50 hours a week. My husband was kind enough to do the morning feeding (he was an early bird) and get the boys cycled through the shower. I had breakfast duty, approved attire, and ensured they were out the door to catch the 6:15 a.m. bus. Husband and I were at work by 7.
I was the only person in the family who rode and trained, although husband would help (hold the lead) for the first ride(s) and stand ready for ambulance duty, in needed (never happened). I did the grooming, and evening feeding and the boys did stall duty (probably why they don't like horses). I rode at least 2 horses for 30 minutes each every night with longer rides on the weekends. I also cooked dinner, ensured all the other animals were fed, did laundry, cleaned house, etc.
Fast fwd 30 years (I'm pushing 60). I have 2 horses of my own at home - 1 green - and 1 here for refresher training/conditioning. I still work full time but I don't ride every day anymore. I'm no longer married, but I have my youngest son (disabled), teen-aged granddaughter and 3 dogs under my roof. I feed morning and night and scoop manure at least weekly. Granddaughter waters and helps with the poop-scooping. I do most of the maintenance of the acreage/outbuildings/house with as much help as son/granddaughter are able. House chores are shared.
What does all this mean? If you love horses, and love riding, you make it work, no matter the circumstances.
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