It's better to walk away when getting frustrated and doing something that is really damaging.
Yes but I will say that I think the visual image that everyone has (from reading my original post from last night) is that I was screaming on the top of my lungs, letting out grrs and roars verbally, lots of heaving breathing, stomping, throwing down the bridle, roughing her up, forcing the bridle on her, pulling her on the lead like a bull. That is totally not the case.
I was MUCH more frustrated AFTER heading home (when I had time to reflect) as I was typing my post because I needed to vent, than when actually working with her.
One of my best qualities is that I have very good self control, this is in general and I feel this quality could really benefit me in horse ownership. If I have people get on my case, I never show it. If people make me upset, I never show it. Its when Im OUTSIDE of the situation (in this case, the people) that I will sometimes let it out. And this would be the case for last night. I showed my frustration a lot more after leaving the barn when typing my post then when I was at the barn.
Yes I was frustrated and I know she sensed it. But I wasnt doing any of the above. I was just firm and stern as time went on. I didnt raise my voice anymore near the end than in the middle of the hour. I was just persistant. Rinse and repeat.
I was most aggresive when I was correcting her for trying to get into my space. I made it well aware to her that rubbing on me, using her muzzle to push me away or the bridle was not acceptable and I made her work. She knew it because after each time she did it, I immediately would drop the bridle on the ground and work her. She knew she was going to get corrected because her ears and head were up right away and she was giving me full eye contact.