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post #131 of 134 Old 10-01-2015, 05:18 PM
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Horses are too expensive and too much work for you not to be enjoying them.

I will echo what others have said: get this horse into a trainer for 30-60 days. Do not handle or ride the horse at all in this time. Once the training is complete, I would have the trainer perhaps help you find a buyer. Then, work with an experienced horseperson, such as your BO, to help you find an seasoned schoolmaster - a horse who is forgiving and has been around the block. Once you bring your rideable horse home, sign up for lessons immediately.

My intention is not to be mean, but I think this horse is getting worse each time you try to work with her. You just don't have the experience to teach a horse who has no idea what you want because YOU do not know what you need to teach her.

I was in your shoes once. Horses became the point of stress in my life. Stress!! It was hard for me to let go, but once I did I found the horse of my dreams (as corny as that sounds). Words cannot describe how happy I am now.

Horses are a lot like relationships. Sometimes, you two just aren't meant to be together and no amount of effort will ever make the relationship succeed. Sometimes, you've got to let go.
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post #132 of 134 Old 10-01-2015, 05:23 PM Thread Starter
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I am sorry but I feel as if I am banging my head on a brick wall.

If it takes three corrections to get results then you are nagging.

You correct once and this bed not be with a whip, slap or punch it can be with a shake of the halter rope, a word or a pike with the finger.

Two things count more than anything, the first is timing and the second the belief that you are in charge. very, very rarely does a novice have the instinct to get this correct.

I agree with enh about getting th horse trained for you. Mares are often far less forgiving than geldings or even some stallions.
When I said 3 corrections, I mean on 3 different occurances, not at once over one situation.

SHaking the halter, a word or a pike with the finger wont do anything for her. Thats way too light. It may on some horses but not her.

I know what gets her immediate attention and that is a smack on the muzzle, belly or hind. Trust me, I started off with the light stuff but the more you do stuff that is ineffective, the more they will want to carry on and test you. This is what my trainers and people have been telling me, be more assertive (which I have) and until you are hard on your horse, you wont be able to set them straight.

That is why when I roundpenned her for the very first time over 2 months ago I saw a night and day difference in her. Even the trainers said it.

One of the worst habits she had with me was turning her butt to me everyday, often many times a day. Once I roundpenned her and started working her feet, she was a much different horse.

From what I was told my timing from when she does something to when I correct is really good. Obviously its something that im always looking to improve on but I have a good jist of the timing. Im quick and firm and I always try to anticapate because I know if you catch them right as they are about to do it, it catches them by surprise.

I was far too gentle with her from the start and I couldnt even back her up at all. Hell even trainers had trouble keeping her out of their space. I couldnt move her feet at all. But now that im a lot more assertive, she responds to lightest ques and I can move her feet quite easily. I have made great progress in this just from simply being more assertive.
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Horses are too expensive and too much work for you not to be enjoying them.

I will echo what others have said: get this horse into a trainer for 30-60 days. Do not handle or ride the horse at all in this time. Once the training is complete, I would have the trainer perhaps help you find a buyer. Then, work with an experienced horseperson, such as your BO, to help you find an seasoned schoolmaster - a horse who is forgiving and has been around the block. Once you bring your rideable horse home, sign up for lessons immediately.

My intention is not to be mean, but I think this horse is getting worse each time you try to work with her. You just don't have the experience to teach a horse who has no idea what you want because YOU do not know what you need to teach her.

I was in your shoes once. Horses became the point of stress in my life. Stress!! It was hard for me to let go, but once I did I found the horse of my dreams (as corny as that sounds). Words cannot describe how happy I am now.

Horses are a lot like relationships. Sometimes, you two just aren't meant to be together and no amount of effort will ever make the relationship succeed. Sometimes, you've got to let go.
I appreciate your insight but remember Ive only had her for 3.5 months.

I dont think things are getting worse at all each time I handle her. Like I said, its hard to describe fully on here, people need to see me in person. I thinnk we are still making progress, I just think the whole bridling thing is just another one of those bumps in the road that I have to work over. Just like I did with her groundwork. Yes Ive had to go back and spend a lot of time filling holes in her previous training but the most important thing is that we have made progress.

Yes last night was frustrating but its not like that everyday and I have lots of fun handling her, seeing her and working with her. I cant emphasize this enough.

Ive just been with the new trainer for 2 lessons now and its far too soon to give up.She and the BO are still confident with their help, I can make this work. even the previous trainer and the one at the old barn said the same, they feel with the right support and patience I can make this work.

The one thing I really wish I could do for everyone is to have them see what she was like the day I got her. And compare it to today. And then you would see how much of a change is in her.

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