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post #1 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 03:10 PM Thread Starter
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Can someone cheer me up like a lot

So I just bought myself an adorable gelding very laid back best ever. Yesterday I went out saddled him and put my foot in the stirrup but I wouldn't do it I just couldn't get on him.
Here's the reason why
When I was 12-13 I was riding ( by myself ) a huge German Shepard ran up and tryed to attack us ( me and my horse opal ) I tryed to get off Opal but my foot got stuck Opal reared and I was hanging there my shoulder caught the fall I broke it. Opal took off running (throw the woods) I tryed to stop I really did but she was I hit head and didn't really like to listen anyway let alone a dog was chasing us and a girl was hanging their. Well what happened next scarred me for life. Opal tripped fell on top of me and broke my thigh bone and arm my leg came loss but I couldn't move she tryed to jump up but the bone was sticking out of her leg. I woke up in the hospital my parents told me a hunter ( the one who owned the dog ) found he had to shoot Opal and he shoot the dog. He carried me to his truck and rushed me to the hospital.

This accident has scarred me I want to ride again but I just keep thinking about this does any one have any advise.
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post #2 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 03:22 PM
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That sounds like a very traumatizing fall. I am sorry you had to experience that, but I am happy you lived and are back into horses.
How long ago was this accident?

I would strongly suggest you work with the horse and ride with other people present for now. Take baby steps. Do lots and lots of ground work. Saddle up and stand next to the horse on a mounting block. Take some deep breaths, step away. Come back and put your foot in the stirrup, breath into some relaxation, and step away again.

When you do get on, have someone teach you emergency dismounts. I feel empowered when I know I can safely get out of the situation if I need to.

Many members here have had a similar journey as you. The support available on this forum is phenomenal, hopefully you will get some advise from those who have more experiences like yours.
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post #3 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 03:30 PM
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Wow! I'm not sure I followed everything exactly, but it sounds like a traumatic experience.

TBH, I would probably seek some type of equine therapy or trained professionals (with both horses and humans) who deal with this type of thing. I know there are some outfits that use equine therapy to help deal with PTSD or mental illnesses. I would suggest taking it all very, very slow and not doing it on your own without a professional present.
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post #4 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 03:34 PM
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that does sound like a terrible experience, and like others said take baby steps, but did you buy your new horse without riding him at all? I'm just confused because it sounds like you haven't ridden in a while, and bought a horse and just went to hop on him for the first time, correct me if I am wrong

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post #5 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 03:47 PM
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As others have said, take things in small increments. Try to make a little progress each time, but you will have some setbacks. Don't let them get you down. Most importantly, don't go it alone. As suggested, the best option there is professional help. Most folks who have never dealt with PTSD have absolutely no clue. They may or may not be of any help.
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post #6 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 04:17 PM
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Others have good advice. I'm not versed on PTSD or professional anything, but I have worked with people with brain damage and severe disabilities in riding therapy. It sounds like you have no fear of being around the horse on the ground - saddling. That's a step forward - feel good about that.

Consider having two other people work with you. One to hold the horse, another to stand by you at the saddle. Also use a mounting block or make a ramp of some sort, so it doesn't seem so far to get up into the saddle. With someone at your side, mount as far as you feel comfortable and then come back to the block.

Maybe you can't get your leg over. Maybe it will take days to even sit in the saddle. Maybe even weeks before someone can lead you around. Doesn't matter. Try not to focus on your frustration, focus on a tiny goal.
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post #7 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 07:33 PM
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I understand where you are coming from right now I was "broken" twice in 6 mos. always loved horses but somehow I just could NOT get my leg over. I got mad at myself , frustrated with everyone's "advice" -- people can't get how it is to want to do something sooo bad-- and then you just can't-- but -- now and it's been like six yrs I ride all the time , have three great horses. to be honest with you - for a while I didn't ride I just went and spent time with my horses , I became friends with them, for almost a year we just went for walks together , and eventually , you will get to feel that your desire will out weigh that fear. small steps like everyone says-- try to remember that this is a different horse and you are a different person and it is a different time. even if you are like me and "HAVE TO GET OFF" after 3 or 2 or 5 steps- please don't get upset that -- it was only 2 steps- look back to where you are now and congrateulate yourself that it was 2 steps and tommarrow we will do 3!!!you are NOT alone, and it will come back. true love never dies-- corny but true.
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post #8 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 08:39 PM
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Sounds like a really horrible experience, sorry it happened to you.
As others have said take small steps and don't work alone, have someone with you.
I don't know if you are using a western or english saddle but I would recommend safety stirrups if riding english. You might never need them again but it might make you feel better about riding if you have them.
I now ride with them all the time.
All the best to you and your riding.
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post #9 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 09:02 PM Thread Starter
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that does sound like a terrible experience, and like others said take baby steps, but did you buy your new horse without riding him at all? I'm just confused because it sounds like you haven't ridden in a while, and bought a horse and just went to hop on him for the first time, correct me if I am wrong
My geldings name is Google because he knows every thing western my husband let his four year old cousin have him for almost a year before he gave him to me. I've been trying for a while to get on him
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post #10 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 09:58 PM
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I've been trying for a while to get on him
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Google sounds like the perfect horse for the job. I don't know how long "a while" has been, and it doesn't matter one bit. Keep trying for another while. Then another while after that. And again, and again. We're pulling for you.

It is my hope that your husband has the patience to wait this out. I hope you let him read this thread. If he has not gone through something similar, he may never understand, and that's alright. I do hope that he can accept that you really want/need to do this. And that it will most likely take a long time.

Take encouragement from Paulaf's post above. Tiny increments, no matter how small, are victories. I'm not one to put much stock in the "unicorn farts and rainbow" aspects of some folks relationship with their horses, but I think this horse is going to become your friend. Spend time with him. Put him through his paces from the ground. Care for him. Groom him and tack him up. Talk to him. Tell him about your day. Tell him what you told us. Tell him your frustrations and cry in his mane...... And then try again.
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