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post #11 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 09:12 PM
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I'm so sorry! Just remember that everything has risks, if you let those take over your life, you will never enjoy it. You will never drive a car, walk anywhere, go up and down the stairs, and practically will just be sitting somewhere all day. The trick is just to ignore the risks and concentrate on the benefits. I hope you can ride again soon!
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post #12 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 09:17 PM
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My experience isn't near as bad as yours, but when I was 10, my horse was walking down the road just fine and then all of a sudden stopped and bucked, my dad was luckily right there and pulled me off, but I never got up the courage to get back on her. She ended up leaving. I have regretted it ever since. You just have to go against your gut, don't overthink it, and just do it.
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post #13 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 10:59 PM
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A horrible thing to have happen. I really have no better advice to give you than what has already been said but wanted to offer you words of encouragement. I believe in you, keep trying!
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post #14 of 27 Old 12-05-2014, 11:03 PM
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You might want to invest in safety stirrups too, just to give you a little extra piece of mind.
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post #15 of 27 Old 12-06-2014, 01:08 AM
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go slow. Have someone hold the horse the first time you sit on him. If you are not comfortable with your feet in the stirrups, sit there without them. work up to being led while you hold onto the reins or even to an extra attached lead rope.
you can find wider stirrups , and the safety stirrups. Do you use a western or english saddle?
if you are in an English saddle, try a western saddle it may help feel more secure.
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post #16 of 27 Old 12-06-2014, 05:23 PM
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Sorry to hear you had such a bad fall :(
When I was 12 something similar happened to me, I had a bad fall on a horse I trusted very much, and although I wasn't as badly hurt as you were, my beloved pony did break her leg and was also put down there and then. I loved her a lot, and the pain was hard, as I'm sure it was for you to. Is she had lived I think the recovery to riding would've been easier - I don't know about you?


But I had to move on, and I was in the same situation as you, pretty much. My mum brought me a plod-a-long, as a surprise. He was as sound as anything, and it was only 2 months after my fall. But I couldn't bring myself to get on him. For months, I did nothing with him. But then I watched some youtube videos, spoke to people who I used to ride with and really missed it so much. I realized I had a fab oppurtunity and should just take it. I began to take baby-steps, like everyone is advising (It works!!)
I got myself on him first, and just sat on him for a few minutes, then I'd get off.
I did some lead rein work on him and managed to begin walking in circles
Then I built it up to a trot and began to love it again. It all took off from there. 3 years later and he was sold to get something harder!
We did alsorts together after that - we did rallies, games, jumping, allsorts. xxx

Maybe this could help you too?
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post #17 of 27 Old 12-06-2014, 06:29 PM Thread Starter
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Sorry to hear you had such a bad fall :(
When I was 12 something similar happened to me, I had a bad fall on a horse I trusted very much, and although I wasn't as badly hurt as you were, my beloved pony did break her leg and was also put down there and then. I loved her a lot, and the pain was hard, as I'm sure it was for you to. Is she had lived I think the recovery to riding would've been easier - I don't know about you?


But I had to move on, and I was in the same situation as you, pretty much. My mum brought me a plod-a-long, as a surprise. He was as sound as anything, and it was only 2 months after my fall. But I couldn't bring myself to get on him. For months, I did nothing with him. But then I watched some youtube videos, spoke to people who I used to ride with and really missed it so much. I realized I had a fab oppurtunity and should just take it. I began to take baby-steps, like everyone is advising (It works!!)
I got myself on him first, and just sat on him for a few minutes, then I'd get off.
I did some lead rein work on him and managed to begin walking in circles
Then I built it up to a trot and began to love it again. It all took off from there. 3 years later and he was sold to get something harder!
We did alsorts together after that - we did rallies, games, jumping, allsorts. xxx

Maybe this could help you too?
The hardest part is Google looks just like Opal somedays I can't stand to even look at him let alone groom. Feeling this way makes me even more depressed. I've been trying to get back on for almost 2 years now. All my husband says is it'll take time and I hate him for saying that because I know that. I miss horses so bad . Am I just being baby about it Google is such a good horse I hate a banding him like this. I just wish I could have Opal back even though she was the most hot headed stubborn horse I ever meet she got on my nerves all the time and now I would grade my live for hers any day. Not that Google isn't amazing. I just don't know what to do. The hunter that shot Opal came to Thanksgiving this year I flipped out and hit him in the face thinking it was all his falt but really it was all mine.
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post #18 of 27 Old 12-06-2014, 07:06 PM
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I know how you feel with the transference.

A few years ago, when I first got my gelding, I was pretty much fearless. I schooled naughty horses at a Girl Scout horse camp, so I wasn't afraid to get on new horses. I was being nice to a new boarder and helping her with her new rescue mare. She lied to me that the horse was broke and asked me to try her out. I ended up rodeo-bucked off this bat-crap crazy mare before my butt was even really in the saddle and fractured my left ankle. She also came after me with the intent to harm/kill while I was semi-conscious on the ground. If my friend hadn't been in the round pen with me, I probably would be dead. The mare was a black and white pinto.

Now, fast forward a few months. My gelding was broke in (he was unbroke when I bought him) and my friends were wanting to ride with me. But I had panic attacks every time I even thought about climbing up on my horse. My old BO (who I bought my gelding from and who broke him in for me) is a tough old cowboy and didn't understand my reluctance to ride. He would constantly harangue me to "just get on the ****ed horse and ride!" It didn't help.

When I finally did get up on my horse, I would panic when he'd so much as twitch. I kept having flashbacks of that mare tossing me and then coming after me on the ground. It didn't help that my gelding is a black and white pinto. The first time I climbed on him (for all of fifteen seconds), I nearly started crying because I was panicking so badly. I went on a trail ride or two and was fine, but I'd still get panicky when I'd go to mount him.

It didn't matter that he has never put a toe wrong when I've been in the saddle. That fear was still there.

Fast forward a couple of years. Life happened and I didn't do much with my gelding except groom him. My best friend was after me to ride (she'd never seen me ride before). I finally relented and got on. She almost teared up when she saw me start having a panick attack when I went to mount him. He was standing there like a rock and I was on the mounting block. She said I was as white as a sheet and my breathe was coming in short, shallow gasps. It took her just talking to me soothingly to get me to put my foot in the stirrup and swing on. I'm fine once I'm on board.

The biggest thing that helped me was making a "game" of it. We had a thread here on the forum called the "Big Girl Panties Thread." We would talk about putting on our BGPs and doing things that scared us. One day I joked that I was going to literally put on a pair of BGPs, mount up and ride, and have pics taken. I got such an overwhelming response that I decided to do it for real. I bought a pair of huge white satin granny panties and put them on over my (black) riding pants. I had my friend take pictures of the whole thing. I rode for a good fifteen minutes in the arena, rode back up to the barn, and even rode out a small spook and bolt when a mare we were walking behind decided she didn't like my gelding and tried to kick him.

Google might be a great horse, but if he reminds you so much of Opal that you can't even groom him, maybe you need to find another horse. I don't say that in any way to be harsh, but as someone who understands something of what you're feeling.

If selling him and finding a horse that doesn't remind you so much of Opal isn't an option, then just start out small. Take a lawn chair and sit outside his stall or in his turnout with him. Get comfortable just *being* around him. Work your way up to grooming him. Then, start doing groundwork with him. Groundwork is a great way to get to know and trust your horse. Once you're completely comfortable on the ground, work up to just tacking him up, then leading him around and untacking him. I think you get the picture.

The biggest thing is to not move on to the next step until you are completely comfortable and not panicky at all with the step you're on.
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post #19 of 27 Old 12-08-2014, 06:49 PM
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That sounds like a pretty strong reason for a 'phobia'!!! Sounds like you were lucky to have gotten out of it with a few broken bones! Yes, accidents & mishaps happen. But there are many things you can do to minimise their likelihood and severity.

First thing, always ensure you use proper(not grippy) shoes & safety stirrups with a cage or such, to prevent getting caught & hung up like that. Ensure the horse is well enough trained that she's controllable & not 'spooky' if taken out on the trail by herself... or don't take her into situations she's not ready for. Keep to controlled environs until you're sure you are prepared for 'outings'. So saying, horses as prey/flight animals are prone to the occasional panic reaction, regardless how well they're trained, so teach & ensure you can enforce a good 'one rein stop' in case of emergency. And always ride with company if possible, at least until you're confident.

Now, for building your confidence again... What's your situation & your new gelding's training like? If you're on your own, I'd wait until you have experienced company/a trainer present to get on if you can. I'd also ensure that the horse was well trained & pretty safe & quiet. Baby steps is the main key to desensitising 'scaries'. Your aim is to push yourself *a little* past what you're comfortable with, but not far enough to get scared. So maybe going out & putting a foot in the stirrup & no more is exactly what you should be doing at this point. Repeat that over & over until you're blase about it.

BUT speaking from experience of seeing people 'hung' from stirrups of a panicked horse, perhaps the stirrups are something you should ignore until you're more confident with the rest. Teach the horse to come camp next to a mounting block when you ask, & practice leaning over him, or put one leg over him, while still standing on the block. Once you're fine with that, practice sliding on & then sliding straight back off, before your nervousness gets the better of you and the horse. Repetition until you're confident & relaxed, building up to your goals in very gradual, baby steps, will help you get over your trauma.
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post #20 of 27 Old 12-10-2014, 07:26 AM
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How long ago did this happen? How old are you now? What country are you from?

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