I had a horse that died, Ebony. She was black with a white star and a white hind leg. It's not like it was in a accident or anything like yours, but she was my first horse and had taught me everything. I started shopping for a 2nd horse. I found a mare (Ebony is a mare) that had the exact same markings as Ebony. I said no, but she kept coming back to me. I did not want a horse that looked like my precious Ebony. Eventually, I came around and got her. I rode her once and it was really hard. I didn't do anything with her for a while. I would ride her and I would have to force myself to remember that this wasn't Ebony because they were so much alike. But, as time passed, it dulled the pain and I began to see Midnight as a whole other horse, though she make look the same, her head is narrower and longer, her legs are slightly crooked, she has a whole different personality. She is a completely different horse. You have to remember that. Notice the differences, not the similarities. I ride Midnight daily and yes, occasionally I get visions of Ebony, but she is Midnight and always will be. I couldn't have asked for a better horse. I had a amazing connection with Ebony and thought I would never get that with Midnight as it just clicked with Ebony and hadn't with Midnight. But, it is building, it is not as strong as it was with ebony, but it is definitely there. Just keep trying. See him as google, not opal.