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post #1 of 9 Old 04-07-2016, 09:03 AM Thread Starter
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Confidence is weird- new green horse and scaredy novice

I get very scared of riding horses which have previously misbehaved with me (think bucking to get me off, running off with me dangerously and rearing. I don't get scared of garden variety horse silliness). And when I say scared, I mean full on anxiety attacks, so much so that I have had to get off certain horses, even if they did nothing on that particular ride. And I've stopped riding some of the horses for good, I just refuse.

However, my instructor got a new horse which was previously used for farm work and driven around her village. As you can imagine, not exactly refined under saddle but got some saddle time.

My instructor has ridden her once, when trying her out in her village and that's it. She asked me if I was up to riding this mare before she had her retrained.
The mare has never been inside an indoor school. I have no idea what possessed me to say yes.

So, here I am, a very untalented, older, nervous novice, leading a green farm mare into a huge indoor school, leading her around all over, leading her over ground poles - she had no idea what those were, obviously. Then I got a plastic bag, sacked her out a bit - she shied somewhat but nothing major.

I got on, and we had a proper lesson, trotting over ground poles (three in a row!) and everything. We just didn't canter. I was amazed at myself. And that little mare is such a brave little thing as well. She also tried hard to do everything I asked. We had a bit of steering trouble on the left hand but my instructor said that's to be expected from working horses.

I am still speechless that I could do that, after I had a lot of trouble with my confidence. I hope I can keep it up.

Thank you all for listening
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Congratulations! It is such a nice feeling when you have a good ride!
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Good job!
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The mare is green, but at the same time has seen a lot if she has been doing farm work and been driven in the village. She sounds like fun and I'm glad that you enjoyed her.

It does sound like you have had a worrying bunch of horses to ride though...hope this mare stays nice and sensible and you can have some fun with her

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Well done! Maybe this will be the horse that you click with? As you say, green is one thing but spoilt is quite another, and it sounds like you've only had spoilt horses come your way recently.

If this mare is honest then she could be a good find. Is your instructor definitely going to send her for training, or is she holding back to see how the horse does with you and/or others?
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Sometimes certain horses just click with certain people. I hope all continues to go well for you and you and she always just see eye to eye. It happens.
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Glad you had a great ride!

I just want to say though- I've owned my horse for 4 years now, and ridden for more years than that. I would be scared to get on a horse that rears and routinely bucks me off. Riding is supposed to be fun! I'm not a trainer or problem horse reformer- I just simply wouldn't try to ride through those kinds of under-saddle vices. So when you say you don't want to ride through bucks and rears as though you should be willing and able to do that, I just want to reaffirm that you're being completely rationale. I don't see that as "lack of confidence," but more as "healthy self-preservation!"

I've read a lot of your other posts so I know you've had some challenges finding suitable lesson horses to learn on. I wish I could bring you here to the barn where I ride challenging, yet kind and responsive, horses that are excellent teachers! You've been very persistent and I'm glad you're seeing it pay off :) Hope this new horse sticks around and remains a good ride.
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Well done! Maybe this will be the horse that you click with? As you say, green is one thing but spoilt is quite another, and it sounds like you've only had spoilt horses come your way recently.

If this mare is honest then she could be a good find. Is your instructor definitely going to send her for training, or is she holding back to see how the horse does with you and/or others?
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I think my instructor is planning on training her herself, we don't really have such a thing as dedicated reasonably priced horse trainers around here. Everybody but the top jumpers trains their own because trainers are hugely expensive (and, if I dare say so, a bit of a hit-and-miss). It seems I'll be helping! Who would have thought?!

My instructor goes a bit overboard with fine tuning horses so they end up a bit too demanding for riding school usage. That's where I come in, keep the mare a bit more resilient to mistakes
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Squeeee, she is amazing! She even figured out that jumping is easier from a canter so off she goes, canter and pop. She refuses nothing what-so-ever! (Of course, we are only jumping tiny jumps).

We only had two embarrassing moments:

She tried eating the plastic flowers next to jumps, poor little peasant girl

And I tried to be over-confident and sack her out to my jacket from the saddle because she was being a bit worried with that dragon hanging over the rail. She spooked, I was leaning to side reaching for the jacked and found my self on the sand. She was terribly worried about me and rushed to my side to sniff me.
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