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post #1 of 18 Old 03-14-2016, 10:26 PM Thread Starter
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Exclamation Convince parents to let you get a horse - HELP

Currently I am riding once every week on the weekends. I have been riding for about maybe 3 years now and really think I am ready for a horse. Although that is not what my parents think. They are non-horsey and don't know anything so when I suggested the idea I got a no. I like to go through all the horse for sale ads in my local area and have researched everything about horses even asked to lease but all lease horses are too far. I cant think of anything else and I want to know what you guys think. Suggestions?
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post #2 of 18 Old 03-14-2016, 10:34 PM
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Telo them you will be to poor to buy drugs
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post #3 of 18 Old 03-14-2016, 10:45 PM
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Horses are a huge expense. It's not as simple as your parents allowing you to get a horse. How will the bills for the horse be paid for? You're also going to continue to need lessons, and the horse may need training rides - how will that be paid for?

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post #4 of 18 Old 03-14-2016, 10:57 PM
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This feels so incredibly weird typing a response up to this because I recently just brought home my first horse after five years of riding and working with them. I managed my trainers barn for her while she was away on rides and vacations. I was looking after 1o horses at a time as a 13 year old. Some of them were older horses who needed medication at certain times and certain foods. Others were too skinny but were super picky so they needed their mash done a certain way, per her boarders instructions. I took care of her nieces 27 year old half arab, with a special diet (laminitis) and bad teeth. I was feeding, making sure he got all his meds, took him to the farrier and also took care of any other issues he might have had. This was all on our property, in front of my parents so they could see everything I was doing. Thennnn I went out and got a job, upped my grades and started saving up. When my trainer started recommending me to other to cover for her was when they started to catch on I was serious.

They were worried about the money and responsibility, so I had to prove to them I could do that all. I also had to prove I could be level headed and take no for answer, but still continue to work for my goal. I pay for billie and all of her bills, not my parents. I had to save up and prove to them I was serious about this. Point is, work really hard and learn to take the answer no calmly. Doesn't mean take it no permanently, just for that time.

That was really long lol. Good luck and don't give up! I never thought in my wildest dreams I would get my own horse. I am currently typing this as I get read to go feed the very real (and hungry) horse I get to call mine.

I may seem small, but if you mess with my horse, I will break out a level of crazy that will make your nightmares seem like a happy place.
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post #5 of 18 Old 03-14-2016, 11:19 PM
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When I was young I also wanted a horse and my parents said no. I thought it was unfair because both my parents worked and had good jobs that brought in quite a bit of money. BUT when I got to how old I am now I realize just because they have that money doesn't mean they can afford a horse.

Horses are extremely expensive and I only realized that after I got my own horse. They are more expensive then you can imagine when you start to add up the start up fees such as buying the horse and the gear but then also the ongoing fees such as feet, vaccinations, agisment or board, lessons, training, feed, emergency vet money, chiro, saddle fitter if your horse grows out of the saddle.

Heres how much my horse costs me:
Agisment: $1920
Feed: $616 (per year but this is just hard feed when it gets dry I would have to calculate how much hay!) Lucky my horse is an easy keeper.
Feet: $600
Vaccinations: $260 a year
Tack: $1460 for a proper fitting saddle thats just this year
Chiro: $150 per year (if he only needs her once!!)
Lessons: $780 per year
Vet money: $1500

It doesn't seem like a lot but ontop of other bills it is heaps. You could try getting a job at a local barn mucking stables and tacking up so you can ride or even getting a part time job.
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post #6 of 18 Old 03-14-2016, 11:21 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you all. I have been researching and considering the expenses and how that will get paid and it just isn't getting through so I will try all of your suggestions. :)
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post #7 of 18 Old 03-15-2016, 04:14 AM
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Riding once a week for three years is nothing - around 116 hours, you say nothing about learning management.

I know where you are coming from, I spent every waking hour I could at the riding school as a child learning all I could. My parents were non horsey and when I asked them about getting a pony the answer was simple, "No, we cannot afford it."

Hard at the time but I now know that it was for the best and that not having a pony of my own enable me to ride all sorts of different ponies thus giving me a far better equine education.
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post #8 of 18 Old 03-15-2016, 05:22 AM
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I too wanted nothing more than a horse when I was a teenager. I practically lived at the barn.
My parents said no. Back then I thought it wad really unfair, now I'm grateful that they taught me responsibility and patience. I'm getting old :P.
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post #9 of 18 Old 03-15-2016, 01:31 PM
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There is so much more to horse ownership than simply being able to afford it although that's a biggie. As a teen who has never had to pay a bill, it will be a few years until you're out in the world and understand that just getting by is hard enough and owning a horse is very much a luxury item.

Many, many kids are in your situation-desperately wanting to own but the parents say absolutely not. I was in that exact situation myself many decades ago and no meant no. I did however jump on my bike and peddle everywhere I knew that had horses and worked my little butt off to get a chance to ride, work or just be around them. And like most, no I did not get a horse until I was an independent adult making a decent amount of money. Even now, I give up a lot of luxuries for the luxury of owning horses. For what my horses cost me I could be living in a house that is 3 times better than the one I own.

Chances are, your parents are like the majority and there won't be any convincing tactics that will work. Ultimately they, as adults would be the true owners of the horse and responsible for the care and upkeep and in fact, when my riding lesson parents find out how much work (and money!) a horse is and how easily they can hurt themselves or get ill, most are even more determined not to own.

My advice to you would be to go for a more realistic goal. More riding lessons and add horsemanship (used to be called animal husbandry) lessons to the schedule. See if you can work at the barn that you use and become a friendly, familiar, hard working face. Clean stall, buckets, groom horses, sweep the aisle, clean tack and ask friendly questions as you go. If the people at the barn trust you, you may be offered horses to ride and you'll be able to get your horsey fix.
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post #10 of 18 Old 03-15-2016, 01:42 PM
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I begged and pleaded for years for a horse when I was young. It was the only thing on my Christmas and birthday lists!

Never got one.

What I wasn't privy to until I was older was the discussions between my parents. They really wanted to get me a horse but no matter how they tried to cut it, they couldn't afford it. Never forgave their decision until I was out on my own.

Sometimes you can change minds (if that is the only issue) and sometimes you can try, but it isn't in the cards.

“You spend your whole life with horses and just about the time you think you have them figured out, a horse comes along that tells you otherwise.” –quote from my very wizened trainer

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