Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
I spent years trying to convince my parents and finally at 11 I got my first horse. My mother printed up a contract for me to sign which was about keeping my grades high and my commitment to the horse. It was always clear that they owned the horse and would sell him if things didn't work.
However this didn't come without much negotiation. First I was having one lesson a week, then a week of holiday lessons every school holidays, then two riding lessons a week, then finally three. This was all cheaper than ownership. So maybe instead of jumping to ownership you can negotiate for more lessons.
The second issue is that in Australia, where i notice you live too, horse ownership is usually self care, the full care exceptions are rare and very pricey. Having a self care horse means you are responsible for all care. In most areas this means coming out daily to feed and check your horse, in winter you often need to come out twice daily to feed and rug. This happens whether you are sick or on school holidays or its raining or cold. Being I assume in your mid teens, you need to work out how that is going to happen, can you make your own way to the horse each morning and afternoon if needed? Or are you needing your parents to make a massive time commitment as well? It's a big decision for them because ultimately they are responsible. They are the ones that will need to take over care if you can't.
When you're a teenager your parents aren't thinking about your hobbies, you're likely entering an intensive period of study that is going to shape your future choices and a lot of people stop doing hobbies around your age to manage school and social commitments. Horses can help with stress, and keeping kids on track, away from boys and drugs which many parents really value - to them a horse is a small price to pay for their kids future, but many others don't see it that way.
To me the best way to convince your parents would be to negotiate to gradually up your riding lessons to mimic the sort of time commitment and financial commitment a horse will be, once you have sustained that for say six months and improved your grades then present that to your parents and, if their situation isn't changing so much, they might be more open to it. There aren't going to be any magic words to convince your parents. It's a long game, and it's done through strategy rather than begging or complaining or arguing. And still it may never be.