Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians View Post
It sounds like you're doing really well. I wonder why she doesn't like jeans for English riding? I rode English up until about 5 years ago and only wore breeches for shows. I ALWAYS wore jeans. Granted, I also always either wore a field boot or paddock boots and half chaps, but still, jeans. I don't know about up there but good breeches down here are $250-300 a pair, I always saved them for shows.
Im not sure why she doesnt like jeans for english riding. It wont matter with me because when I ride her, it will be western, Im not into dressage and the english style riding boots, english equine wear etc. Not my cup of tea, plus I will never bring my mare into shows.
Anyhow, the balance thing. Has she had you turn your head so you look where your going and turn your belt buckle where you're going? I
Head yes, belt buckle no. She always gets me to keep me looking forward and well ahead (which ive gotten a lot better at). For me though, honestly my balance when turning at a full on trot is something that im 100% confident I can fix and overcome with practice and more riding. Trainer believes it as well, this is why she wants me to ride, ride, ride.
its all a mental thing as well, whenever she tells me to do something differently, I not only make a note of it on my plan sheet that I carry around but a mental note of it as well. And I keep telling myself this and reminding myself. The more I do it, the more its set in the back of my mind.
It also doesnt help that the saddle im using is not the most comfy haha, my butt can get soar at times while on it. That cant be a good thing. But its definitely a distraction that I have to deal with when riding.
You know when I think of it, when my trainer asked me if I wanted to ride ___ (the mare ive been riding) or my mare. I think she was asking that to test me. She knows 100% deep down that im not a competent enough of a rider to ride my mare. She knows it, I just know.
She probably just asked me it to see what I could choose and that because I declined to ride my own mare, she sees me as having my head still in the right direction.
Reason why I say she was asking this to test me was because I was asking her how my mares training is going. I was asking if shes still as sensitive in the saddle as before, she said yes. Anyways (without going too much in detail), we talked more about her training and she ended up saying quote "Its like someone learning to drive....just because a person may know how to drive, doesnt mean they can drive a Ferrari"...."Its not just about being able to ride her, but when unexpected things come up, you need to know how to handle it". And yes unexpected things will happen in the saddle with a green young horse.
THAT right there, told me that she knows 100% im not ready to ride my mare. So then why would she ask me if i wanted to ride my mare today? Shes testing me. She wants to see if im getting too ahead and too confident in myself or if my mind is still on track. I declined her invite to ride my mare and hopefully she respects me even more after today, seeing how on track my mind and attitude is.
Ive said it before and Ill say it again. My BO and trainer know im in this for the long haul, they know im dedicated in learning and it all stems from my passion for horses. I just dont think they know just how commited and dedicated I am. The barn helper at the old barn and my old trainer both truly knew just how commited I was and even said that it wasnt everyday that they would come across someone with my drive and will to learn. Thats why Im not 100% sure if my trainer is fully confident in me. I still think that she thinks I just come out to brush my mare and feed her hay cubes, thats it.
I know what she thinks everytime she sees me with my mare. Im a green rider and green horseperson and I chose a green chose. Not the wisest decision. Im sure the BO feels the same. I just dont think both are aware of how commited I am in making my partnership with my mare work.
Relationship wise, sounds like she's all about, "Just the facts, sir, just the facts.". Doesn't matter if she doesn't care about the relationship and it doesn't matter if she doesn't believe in horse massage or horse chiropractic, you do and I guarantee your horse does, and it's you $$$$ to spend as you see fit. So as long as you and your horse are happy, go for it.
I feel shes only focusing and caring about my riding because she knows thats what i need to focus on right now.
Im just a bit shocked that she doesnt care about how things are with my mare in I from the previous problems I brought up with her (and we did 2 lessons on). I told her everything, I spilled the beans with her. She knew how many problems and bad habits that I had in my mare that I was wanting and working on fixing. But that was 1-2 months ago. Ive made some great progress in fixing a couple of them and my trainer doesnt know it because she hasnt asked.
For instance today, when I brought it up with her, I was wanting to tell her the 2 great success stories ive had with my mare. But i dont think she cares.
The reason why her not believing in equine massage therapists is because she is riding my mare. So if my mare is sore somewhere, I let her know so that when she works with my mare (even brushes her), she is aware of it thats all. But if she wont take equine massage seriously then its no good.
I know 100% forsure that I am a believer in equine massage, why? Because my mare was lame just after I got her - lame in her front left leg. Vet came and checked her out and said her lameness was a 1/5 for seriousness. Sutle but noticable in her walk. She suggested equine massages for her. She said she was tense in her left wither, possibly from a saddle being too tight in the past.
Found an equine massage (and she is wonderful!) and she reconized her tight left wither and worked on it and also did red light on it. After the first massage, she was better but still tight after. She showed me and got me to do a bunch of scretching excersizes on my mare every day. I followed her advice and did as instructed.
My mare was still lame a week after the massage, but because Im not a vet, I dont have the eye to pick up on lameness and determine if my mare is improving or not. Had the therapist out a couple days later and did more work on my mare and more red light. I was dying to find out if my mare was improving and my therapist said, no shes the same. When I heard this, you dont know how ejected I was. I was so discouraged. Again the same thing, she showed me and got me to do more excersizes on my mare.
A couple days after her 2nd massage I had my vet out again for a followup on her lameness. The day before my vet came out, I had my trainer (at the time) and other boarders commenting on how much more spring my mare has in her step and she doesnt look lame anymore. I remember this same day, I was doing a lesson with my trainer and she was desentizing her and she said there was no way she is lame anymore. My mare was stepping and trotting like a spring bunny. She had a lot of jump in her step again. They said to not bother with bringing the vet out again, cause they gaurenteed my mare is no longer lame.
Well my vet had to come out again anyways to give my mare more shots so I figure I would have her re-assess my mares lameness anyways. When the vet came out, we took my mare to the arena, she had me walk her, trot her and she said that my mare is no longer lame and is a night and day difference from when she last saw her. Her left wither has completely freed up. Its amazing how well my mare responded to red light.
Again, this was just 3 or 4 days after my mare had her 2nd massage done.
So yes, I am a firm believer in massage because I have seen and witnessed it with my own eyes. Ive told my trainer about this (how my mare was lame, had two massages, red light, and her left withers was completely freed up) and honestly it went in one ear and right out the other. She just doesnt care.